When this semester started I noticed that I had this girl in a class that I also had in a class last semester but was to scared to talk to before. I sat down a seat away from her and got the nerve to start up some small talk. We talked about typical stuff, what major, why'd we picked etc, and I asked her out for some coffee after class.

We talked for a while and seemed to get along pretty well and when it was time for her to go to class I said something about how time flys and then she said "and sometimes it goes really slow".

Now I might just be paranoid but that made it seem like she didn't enjoy herself even though I thought I caught a couple IOIs. I'm gonna be seeing this girl again obviously and ever since we started talking she would sit directly next to me in class so I have to think she's interested but she could just be friendly. I have a problem of always landing in the LJBF situation which I want to avoid with this one but I have no clue how to do that. She's kinda hard to read, at least for me and I don't really know how to move it up a step. Any advice on this would be helpful.

One, stop over analysing the situation. You opened her up, she complied by accepting your coffee invitation. You are ahead of 95% of the males in PU already. She is interested in you so she chose to get coffee with you.

Her comment on "sometimes it goes really slow" is irrelvant with your situation. Maybe she was simply telling the truth and she was being more open towards you. However, that does not matter. She never implied that YOU were boring.

Her sitting next to you in class proves everything I said so far. She is interested, and she didn't get creeped out by ur appraoch, hence she has a curiosity to "get to know you better". Since she is sitting next to you in class, use a lot of KINO and make sure to make it clear for her that you are in it for a relationship. Not just to be friends. And please don't THINK too hard. When you do that, your conscious mind takes over your subconscious and that's where your game gets affected. Talk to her like you've known her for a long time and just hit it off.

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Ok thanks for the advice, I gotta work on the kino more. Here's something that just happened with her tonight. We were supposed to meet up to work on a report together tonight. I had a plan today to ask her out to a friend's party tomorrow night, but I don't hear anything from her the whole day about when she's coming by so I text her about it and she says shes got some family thing going on and can't work on it tonight. I didn't want to ask her out via text but I had no choice here. The convo went like this.

me: Hey you want to come with me to my friends birthday party tomorrow night? should be a good time

her: I can't I have other plans

me: aw come on what other plans could beat a party in hollywood?

her: prior arrangements with my friends haha.

me: just reschedule to saturday its gonna be a fun party

her: I'm not much for parties, I'd rather go with my girl friends anyways.

me: gotta start somewhere, im sure they could come too.

her: they dont party

me: lol aight then. have fun with your friends.

Normally I wouldn't have pushed the issue after she said she had plans, but what i normally do hasn't been getting me laid so I thought why not push it. She never responded after that last message. My judgement on this is either 1: she just didn't want to go with me and didn't want to flat out say no (which I think is what really happened), or 2: she really just doesnt party and has no party friends. I'm not really sure what to think at this point tho. I plan on just ignoring her until monday when I have to see her at school and just moving on from there business as usual and see how she acts.

Personally you pushed the convo too much. Even me reading it showed your desperateness (is that even a word?) and possible also showed a lot more other stuff that shouldn't be shown.

You should have said something like "Hey, me and my friends are gona hit up a party, it's gona be an awesome night. You should come as well." See how that is different from, "Hey you want to come with me to my friends birthday party tomorrow night? should be a good time." Never ASK a girl, just tell her to come. You are a man for a reason. And it sounded like you had no one to go with, so your last resort was her, a girl you "barely" got to know.

Personally, I think you are giving yourself to her too easily. Way too available. You need to start cancelling even when you know it's really hard to do so. But it will help. So far, all you've been is available and there for her. Now it's time to make her feel like she's going to lose you or is starting to part away from you. Remember, a girls attraction is highest when she knows she's about to lose a guy. It's really hard to game her if you sit next to her every class and invite her to everything you do. Time is against you this way. GL

damn i never thought of it like that, thanks.