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She is damn fine and this is what she believes in (posted as her info on facebook): "if u spend too long holding on to the one who treats you like an option, you'll miss finding the one who treats u like a priority"
I tried teasing her, she's like, "Thanks" and I said, "No problem." When I talk to her, she rolls her eyes around, looks away, etc.
Ok so what is the truth people. This girl says she wants a "nice" guy but in reality, she gets hit on by way too many nice guys and turns down everyone. Now if you're the type to tease and stuff, she'll turn you down for "being immature". I forgot to mention that she's also very mature.
But how the hell can I neg her in a mature fashion? All negs seem childish like, "Oh I like your hair...extensions?" blah blah.
I know that this is the type of beautiful girl with a high level of maturity that goes by certain morals. How can I break through her morals in a clean fashion?
Well for one, her rolling her eyes and looking away is a REALLY bad sign. I'm sorry to break it to ya. If you teasing her caused this, you may seem to be a low valued male in her eyes. Or as others said, no social proof or pre-selection by women. So get that first.
The truth is, what a girl says and what she does are two completely different things. You can't believe what a girl says she wants because SHE doesn't even know what she wants. The world has implimented the thought into every girls head that they are looking for nice guys who care about them. In reality, it does not go this way. Only the girl will know what she wants when she sees a guy. Hence, nice guys finish last and she would agrees with me on this.
Imagine this, and I've been in this situation BUT as a guy. - Picture yourself as a HOT girl and you get approached from at least 10 (in not more) guys a day. Now if you are single, you know these guys aren't in it to have a friend relationship (in most cases). They want to fuck you or date you in other words. Now, most AFC's are nice guys. Picture 10 nice guys doing the same shit to you and saying the same shit. "you are pretty", "i like ur dress". These nice guys throw themselves at the girl and put her on a pedestal. This right here means you've already lost the game and she has won you (and easily). She feels no challenge to "get you" because she already has you and loses interest and moves onto other guys. See, attraction is built from the chase, not by being nice (which means, the typical AFC and obvious). If every guy likes you, it is too easy and there's no attraction. That's why when a girl sees a guy (who should be pre-selected or has social proof/high valued) and that guy doesn't hold interest in her, she will be wondering why the fuck not. Trust me on this. I've been in the same situation. You get curious as sh!t when people are not what you expect them to be and therefore you want to know more. This right here is where attraction builds naturally. Because someone is not like the rest (ie. nice guys... because truly there are too many in this world), they are different and originality is important.
If you still don't understand the point about the chase, picture this. You know those crows that always walk the streets. And you've probably (as a child) ALWAYS wanted to try and step on it or at least touch it with your body? But before it could, it'd get away. SO CLOSE, yet SO FAR. Now picture those pigeons that walk the street and would not move an inch or fly away if you got close. There is no interest whatsoever in trying to catch one or touch it because it is so easy and already given to you. (It's not that you would feel guilt if you actually kicked one, it's because you simply lost all interest.) Although both are birds that can fly, see how a small concept like that can change your outlook on things?
- The same goes for cats who chase a string. You won't get a cat to chase a string if its meters away but if placed right infront of the cat, it will try it's hardest to get it.
- Or let's say those GTA games that you used to play when you were a kid (or still do now)... Playing without cheats and actually earning those guns, you cherish it more to keep it and not lose them (ie. by going to jail BUSTED). Yet, when you impliment cheats and get the same guns, or BETTER ones, you don't care about losing it because it was so easy to get and you KNOW you can get it again. (This is how the girl you like feels about nice guys. She knows she can get them and there are so many. She can move onto another nice guy as easy as that). See.. People place more value on things they work hard for even if it's the same thing. That's why when you buy something as supposed to getting it bought by someone, you cherish and value it more. Never be easy.
(Now I'm just throwing a bunch of theories and shit lol..)
And let's say you were a nice guy and you got her to be your GF. You are only triggering so little of her emotions that needs to be satisfied. Girls get attracted more when more emotions are triggered. Bad boys can attract more, they can make her feel confused, sad, happy, worried, excited and more. Nice guys can only make you feel special, happy (only for so long) and special. That's why girls cheat on their BF because her other emotions are not being satisfied. So she goes to other guys to get them satisfied.
Anyways, you mentioned that she thinks teasing is immature. For one, she may either be a... really down to earth girl who doesn't know wtf she wants or... your teasing may come to her as being rude. In that case, don't push the teasing too much. Or you can try using other techniques.
Sometimes with mature girls, it's better not to use so much game. Just be yourself and don't try so hard to get her to like you. It's a fact that getting the girl you want becomes much harder when you put that conscious effort to it. Make everything subconscious. You are more subconscious to girls you don't like or are 'ugly' because it doesn't matter what she thinks of you. Because it's usually the girls you have no interest in that likes you. Think about it. With all the relationships that you've been in with girls. You always seem to have more chance with a girl you don't like, as supposed to one you do. SUBCONSCIOUS EFFORT!
Remember, girls cannot control who she feels attracted to. It doesn't even matter about your looks, money, or ur status. If you CAN trigger the right emotions in her, she WILL feel attracted to YOU no matter what. Gauge her, see what works and what doesn't. And remember, NEVER actually believe a word she says. Girls don't know wtf they want. Attract attract attract. Don't be like every other guy because that just puts you as another sheep in the farm.
Wow I wrote alot. Anyways I hope this helps
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