hey gyus,
im drunk right now.

this is my first year at uni. its my second day. there is a party going on right now, as we speak, or i type, outside my dorm.

i was just there. i pretty much got amogged wherever i went. i tried crowd surfing, but i got dropped. im okay.

my game isn't going too well. im trying to meet as many people as i can, but it isn't getting far past "hi, my name is Sharplin, what's yours?". The classic problem.

i think im going to go out again, but my only thought right now is "fuck.".

My friends are doing better than i am. Every other guy is talking to girls, getting numbers, making out, and all i'm doing is "hey, i'm sharplin." no one likes the annoying guy who just keeps introducing himself. I fuckin suck. my 'confidence' does nothing.

i am almost crying this is so fuckin important to me. please, i need your help.

thank you, i really appreciate this.

- drunk sharplin.

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Who gives a shit about the success the other guys are having. Focus less on them and more on you. You are the one that matters. Go in, take a deep breath, stop trying so hard and have some fun.

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Just aim to have fun at parties. If you set your expectations too high (getting laid, etc), you are sure to be disappointed. I find i'm most successful when my expectations are at a minimum - I can be more comfortable and let loose that way

Instead of introducing yourself to everyone, give them LOVE first "Dude that's a cool haircut..." "Dude that's sick what you just did...." "....Whats your name"

And I would suggest every interaction frame it as "friendly"

I used to go out and right after the opener I would say "OMG I LOVE how everyone is so friendly in (whatever city), like comparing to (city you lived in), so awesome!"

What it does 1st it sets a friendly frame and because of the principle of reciprocity they can't be mean to you as you are being friendly and in order for them to be consistent they have to be friendly as well.

2nd it gives you a topic right away "where you are from", like after you say what I told you there is a 98% chance she will ask you about your heritage, own experience, field tested....especially in dorms, you know everyone is from another city!!!!

And most importantly DON'T WORRY ABOUT FUCKING AT THE DORMS especially if it's on your floor, over the first month you will run into them a few times daily so eventually you will meet them and make a better impression, if that's what you are gong for

Cheers mate, and good luck at college game

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Crowdsurfing is dumb; what did you expect - not to be dropped?! Some people have an attention span of two seconds - it's even worse when they're drunk. Also loss of balance and coordinaton is a recipe for disaster. It's like leaving Alphabetti Spaghetti on the hob unattended.
Classic problem, because it's a classically shit line. The way you say it makes it sound robotic, what're you doing; just going round saying thatand when conversation stalls move on to the next person? Have fun man, you're at uni, I'm sure you can talk to someone about something without being so formal. Maybe it's too early for banter (making a joke about their clothes or something) but remember everyone's favourite topic is themselves. So even this nugget of a PUA cliche can help you - just don't make it like an interview and reel off questions ten to the dozen.

I don't really want to be harsh on you because I seem to keep laying into you, but ask yourself this: If you're so confident, why are you sat in your room being boring when everyone else is having fun?
Confident people don't suck. Confidence is something you have. You can earn it, but it's not something that is turned off and on like a switch - you have to gain it.

i am almost crying this is so fuckin important to me.

Stop caring so much. It's the first night, just go out and have fun.

If you really can't have fun on your first night of uni, then you really have no hope of attracting women (or men).

you may have confidence but your are just like any other guy. come in with some energy, peacock a little bit.

Im guessing your frame is way off, you shouldnt be getting amogged everywheres you go unless your being aggressive to them and then getting blown out.
Most importantly stop caring about a lay. I just love to game idc even care about getting laid at uni, just try a bunch of shit its all fun and games.
think of life as your playground

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Getting consistently drunk and doing nothing but introducing himself is not (!) confidence.

Either stop drinking or actually dare to do something. Parties are for having fun and socializing (arguably).

So do something... Suggest drinking games, suggest doing something else fun. Being at the same party as other people makes it inevitable to speak to them after actually being the center of fun.

Another thought is that you could be trying too hard. Have a bit of balance between desire and outcome independency.

Though without a further description, I can't really give better/ more specific advice than that.

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