I think i am obsessed with masturbation,i wanted to last 10 days without it but i lasted 2:P.The question is,is porn and masturbation making your game weaker?and when you'l have a girlfriend and fuck her,will the desire go away to want non-stop?:P

i think its bad the time your spending knocking one out you can be looking for someone to knock it out for you! seriously its bad because it gives too high expectations i admit i used to watch porn all the time and it did 2 things bad for me firstly its bad on sexual performance because you have a mental image of what you've watched in porn and you think sex should be like that and if it isnt you get disappointed. secondly and this has affected me you look at the girls in porn mags and dvds and even mens mags like maxim, fhm, sports illustarated swimsuit etc and then you mentally measure the girls you approach against the girls you see in magazines. i admit i do this, i read a lot of magazines like fhm, playboy, gq etc and i measure girls i meet against them but consciously you know that the girls in mags have been airbrushed and had their hair and makeup done professionally and have stylists and so-on but unconsciously i still judge them purely if they have the 'model/pornstar' look

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it can only be bad for your game if you watch porn instead of going out and getting real 3 dimensional girls. As for the second part, some people always want it non-stop,(if you're good enough in bed it shouldn't be a problem for her) and others calm down a bit cos sex takes it out of you a lot more than wanking, takes way more physical effort, and releases more of certain chemicals in your brain that relax the urge to have more sex.

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And what must i do?i know that you are right,because i measure girls to,and it is strange.I am a virgin and i know it will affect me in the future.I was thinking of something,every time i feel the urge of doing something like that go out of the house,or watch a movie...do something else so i don't get distracted.
And the masturbation,if i use my imagination will it be better?fantasising on some of the girls i've been with,or what should i do?:P

ok firstly how old are you???
Watch as little porn as possible

what you do is meet and talk to as many people as possible and not just women either talk to guys as well as it helps to gain rapport, then do approaches in the environment you feel most comfortable in eg bar/ nightclub/on the street just so you feel comfortable talking to girls!

then read on here as much as possible about building attraction

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i ve even asked ex-pornstar eva angelina about this and she said the appeal of porn is fantasy guys like porn because you get the ideal woman perform whatever sex they want to see (oral anal bdsm etc) but its still only a fantasy these girls arent as sexual as you may think.

heres a statistic that will put you off watching porn for life 90-95% percent have been raped or sexually abused. hence why they have no connection to the person they're having sex with on screen

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I just turned 18 and i am still a virgin,partly because i wanted the first time to be special and to feel that i deserve it(like a girl..i know:P)but i didn't want to get laid with my buddies help,or with some drunk girl with a mustache,or someone that i didn't really want,that's the reason i didn't get laid earlyer.But it made me a little antisocial.So now i feel wierd conecting to people.And the problem is that people that i meet ar mostly undereducated.Maybe i am above avarage,but my interests are in other places.I watch documentaries all day,i read a lot and even write.I am interested in politics and don't give a damn about Paris Hilton or other bia's...
You gave me an ideea!i am going to start a tread with a newbie mission,hope it will help at least some guys!

i didnt lose my virginity til i was 19, (im 27) iam a bit like you i dont stick to the norm and like you i wanted to lose it with someone i cared about but to be honest losing it with someone special is really an illusion of fantasy. i am not saying go do it with a drunk girl but what i am saying is dont just wait for that one person you think you could be with for a long time you need to have a bit of an experience, i waited for a while to find the special someone and looking back i regret it i wish id done it sooner

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i think you should masterbate like once-twice a week if your getting no action?

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k here's why I'm confused by everyone's advice to NOT masturbate.

I've tried it before, and it makes me angry, stressed, and non-sociable. I feel like a failure, I feel too horny, I feel like life sucks, and my lower back core muscles feel really sore from clenching out of stress. Plus I can't do any academic work in this state, and I'm currently in college. Then I jerk it and suddenly life is ok again, and I feel like everything will be alright. AND I can also do my essay or math homework now.

This is if I go 72 hours + without orgasm. The norm for me is 24-48 hours in between each masturbation. I am 20 years old and consider myself a virgin.

So to summarize, when I jerk regularly it makes me more socially, cool, confident, and a normal person. When I don't jerk I'm easily angered and less happy.