Complacency is the worst thing that can happen to anyone, especially someone who's on a roll. To emphasize the significance of its detrimental abilities I will define the word for you: complacency |kəmˈplāsənsē| noun; a feeling of smug or uncritical satisfaction with oneself or one's achievements.

Simply put, it is kryptonite for PUAs.

Just when your feeling like the king of your domain, your on top of the world, you fall. And why do you fall? Because you were satisfied with where you were.

Here is a bit of life advice: you're always moving. What do I mean by this? Picture trying to walk up a downward moving escalator. You work hard to make upward progress, however, the second you stop moving you will start going down. Like I said: you're always moving.

Essentially, that's the effect of complacency with PUAs. You will spend months and months getting to a certain point of perfection in picking up HBs, yet if you stop for a slight period of time, you'll find that your not what you once were.

Let me give a real-life example. I was in a relationship with a HB 9.5, a legitimate hottie. I only went out with her for about a month and a half. However, when we were dating I became... COMPLACENT! A month later (post break-up) I am still working to get to the level of PUA that I was at before we were going out. I also blame the break up on my part... the cause: I didn't care enough to keep my game up to par.

What can I do if I'm in a relationship and I want to maintain my PUA abilities?

Who says that you cannot practice your game on your GF??? Keep things exciting and new. Challenge yourself to get her to do things for you that you know will be difficult to get.

Bottom line, guys, keep moving up the escalator, because when you stand still you will rapidly decline.

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Manipulation is such a strong word... I prefer persuasion.

I see PUA as building a life. I might be getting complacent in my practice and pursuit with women, but my energies are now focused on my degree, finance, and fitness.

I want to be fit to play competitive sport which I enjoy, rich or at least financially secure and to be able to afford luxuries and also I want to have a brilliant sex life, which is what I am aiming for.

As long as your life doesn't become complacent, then you're moving forward. Complacency is anyone's kryptonite, not just a PUAs.

I concur wholeheartedly with both sentiments and have nothing further to add.

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Great post Tony.

In my experience this is true. I'm not half the PUA I was a year ago, mainly due to lack of approaches due to prioritising other areas of my life.

This led me to always wonder about the question - is pickup like playing pool or riding a bicycle? With pool, you can be an amazing player one week and awful a few months later, if you don't maintain your ability through practice. With riding a bicycle, however, you never forget and can always reproduce the skill.

I think it is a mixture, but the pool component is vital.

Besides, success breeds more success, particularly with pickup.

But you are the PUA you were half a year ago, if anything you'rebetter.

You don't lose charm, and say you've been focusing on your career to make more money, that in itself is making sure you're a potentially secure partner, which doesnt hurt! It shows you're driven for success etc, it's basically building your life up as I see it.

It's a mixture of both, sometimes things go your way and sometimes they don't, but you don't lose the skill. If you're naturally confident and funny, you'll always be that.

Excellent post. This applies to anything. You should NEVER be satisfied with anything you do. You can be proud, and never let yourself think that you didn't accomplish something, or fail to give credit where it's due, but regardless of your profession/talent/game's success, the second you think your the best/satisfied is when you stop improving, and even regress.

this point.

Complacency Kills.

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I disagree. I think complacency is required in certain contexts.

For example, when trying C&F you need to have that complacent mood about yourself. She should understand that your chill and smug with life... that will make her feel good about you too.

eh?

Tony after I went through a divorce a marriage of ten years, as I was rewinding my life tape to try to understand why I ended up where I did, I would have to say one of the biggest reasons was due to complacency. I was married to my X who was easily a 9 I got her when I was 20 when she could of had any guy she wanted, and better looking more successful men than me. After we got married I started to get lazy as fuk, took her for granted and overall got used to not trying and slowly over time her give-a-fuk factor for me diminished. From experience what you said is gold.