if a girl ignores you, should you tell her right away and be somewhat angry with her?

for ex. write on her public facebook wall "its too much for you to respond or what is it going to be?"

thanks

Is there a reason why shes ignoring you? I wouldn't publicly call her out on it myself. I would just ignore her and accept rejection if thats the case.

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well we havent seen eachother for a month or so as i'm not in town.

tomorrow i'm coming back, i tried to talk on facebook but she didn't responded. yet she was online.

how can you not see somebody is talking to you on facebook.. so i'm pretty sure she ignored me, for whatever what reason.


just accept rejection i just don't like to do. i want to say she can go fuck herself, but probably i'm too impulsive?

She could've just been away from her PC, as I've done that. When you get back into town, just call or text her and see if she wants to hang out. If she is someone you have spent a lot of time with, I'm sure she'll answer or at least give you a reason why she doesn't. If not, don't beat yourself up over it. Theres plenty of HB out there.

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Being emotionally reactive is very beta/AFC.
Particularly when you're reacting with negative emotions.

in the time she didn't responded the "Online Contacts list" refreshed several times without her being switched to the idle-people in the list.

anyway, i take it as a rejection, in the last month she never tried to keep in touch, i did twice.

so or she is rejecting me, or she is freezing me out a bit. anyway if she's online i might talk to her again and ask explicitly why she didn't answer. or maybe that is too needy?

I know. But still it is hard not to react.

it's just unfriendly and i don't like to let people behave like that without letting them clearly know.

Never be angry. Never call her out on anything. Who the hell wants to hang out with a guy who gets upset at them and makes them feel guilty for not getting back to them? Nobody.

She's could be ignoring you for many reasons. Maybe she's busy, or upset, or doesn't feel like talking.

Maybe you're not bringing a whole lot of value to the interaction. Are you saying "hey it's X remember from that bar let's hang out sometime"? If so, think about how many messages she gets like this. They are FUCKIN BORING.

If you need to string along emotional momentum for a while because you can't see her, then you need to be sending texts that a funny and interesting and different, that aren't asking for anything - these are value-giving texts. Things like "I just met your exact twin!" or "omg the most random thing just happened!" One of those every other day or so will pique her curiosity and are likely to make her respond.

When it comes to making plans, again provide something unique and different for her. Asking her to dinner on saturday is almost a 100% guaranteed flake. But a midweek afternoon wine-tasting followed by mini-golf and then the new tapas place round the corner from your place? You better believe she'll be into that.

Do you see? DO YOU SEE?

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ok thanks for the input

but then again, apart from all the PUA-stuff: not responding to somebody because your busy or whatever: you still can SAY that. I mean; that is just some basic stuff you learned as a child, to be polite to people. Just not responding is NOT polite.

Therefore i feel the urge to say it. i'm just the kind of person who is getting very fast angry, it's not good, but its hard to control it.

by the way my reaction was:

after a while: "where are you?"

after a longer while: "those conversations with you are so interesting.."

and then i remained silent untill she went offline

Needy and awful.

DO NOT SPEAK TO HER FOR AT LEAST 2-3 DAYS.

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needy? its quite normal you ask where you are if there is no response imo.

so you just say anything if there is no reaction?

just blowed it up by being a bit angry, not too much, but i said

"you don't know to talk?"

then i went on to say

"ok i only want to know blablabla , let me know something " , " if not, have a good year, bye"

and exactly on THAT moment, when she realized i was going and i didn't want to see her again she answered.. by saying "why are you doing like this?", "why are you angry?"

so she was indeed ignoring me, and i don't care i lost this one actually. there wasn't enough interest in both directions anyway

blondguy had a point.

She didn't care that you were leaving, she said 'hey, look over here, this guy is bringing me DRAMA...i'm in!' There is more than one way to skin a cat.

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strange enough she started again to "like" some stuff on my facebook, which she didn't for the whole month, just after the "discussion".

another important thing:

once i talked to another girl on facebook (so what) and liked her status. she saw that and immediately she put her status on "some people you really cannot trust", and commented with "?????" on my reaction on the other girls status update. i commented on her ??? by explaining what we were talking about and she removed her status.

so apparently it's a girl who is quite jealous and doesnt care about PUA; also the reason why i didnt care too about PUA.