So, I had not been out to sarge in a month or so because I was content to work my online game.

Thursday afternoon I am at the mall and I am paralyzed with AA. I manage to approach some girl and strike up a conversation but I just kind of get nervous and bolt after 5 minutes. Swell.

That night I go out solo to a bar and there is a group of hot girls and one guy. I talk on my cell phone a bit about a problem that my brother is having with his roommate (his former roommate owes him a lot of money). Since I caught them listening to the conversation I approach one of the girls and talk with her. She is pleasant and engaging. When I try to open the group I ask the guy for his opinion and he just stares me down like he knows what I am doing. Thanks dick... Again I break off and try to leave gracefully.

Last night I am out with a friend at some tough ass biker bar. I am playing darts next to this table of chicks and I neg one's purse saying that it looks nice but it would be classier without "Fresh," on it in big pink letters. This pisses the AFOG off something awful and she goes into full on nagging bitch mode. She starts to walk in front of the dart board and banter with me. I throw darts around her and try to maintain a C&F attitude. Not working.

She clearly has some psychological problems and tells me that she is going to fucking shove the dart in my dickhole. Great...all the guru's said that there was no real risk to approaching a woman. Liars. I am pretty pissed at this point and she asks the bartender for a kinfe. The bartender gives it to her. She starts telling me that she is going to stab me in my dick. "I will do it, I will fucking do it." Swell.

I am not about to be forced out of a bar by some bitch. She starts stabbling me in the dick which since it is a butter knife just slides back into her hand. Maybe she was just being playful...but, etc. I can feel the whole fucking bar looking at me. The bikers are whispering thinks like "I dont care man I would hit the bitch." The little cunt starts to slash me with the knife. "Look this isn't fun anymore." I say calmly. Let's just cool it.

"I will do it...I will motherfucking kill you," she drones on white trashedly and starts slicing my arm with the knife which draws a little blood. Then she starts to slice HER FRIEND with the kife. At this point her friend pulls her outside. She comes back in appearing calmer and I finish my game of darts. Fuck it. The bitches leave the bar. We take their seats, have one more drink and bounce.

I am a little shaken from the bitch with the knife but I push through it and go to a bar that I am more familliar with. I spot my gay friend there and start making conversation. Then I go over to a table of married women and tell them about the knife story. Something in my voice convices theme that it was real and they become my new friends for the night. The only one without a wedding ring is too big for my taste but the rest are hot MILFS...Married though...sigh.

I talk to a few more people in the bar and generally act like a social butterfly. I notice that when I talk to women the AMOGs are just looking at me and snickering, like they know what is going on. Fuck em. Do any of them have the balls to talk to the bitch with the knife?

Damn. This shit is hard and painful. It's not about getting laid it's about finding the social resources I need to make people like me. It's about improving socially.

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Man...hell of a night! I don't know how I'd handle that bitch...you did good by not leaving before her! Respect. I don't thing she was AFOG, I think she was bat shit crazy (by nature) and she had all the bikers to protect her. But I don't understand why she started cutting her friend, that's just sick.

Yeah, thinking back on it I am wondering if I should have tried to take the knife off of her, but then you might piss someone off and get into a fight. But on the other hand my social value might have gone down for not doing anything.

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My reaction:

The Good:

- A few setbacks don't make you quit
- No darts in the urethra
- Turning an uncomfortable situation into an awesome story and making new friends with it on top of that

The Bad:

- Seeing every other guy as 'knowing what you're doing'


Dude, what are you doing? You're not using sorcery here, you're being social and friendly. I say dump the mentality that you're 'up to something'. Honestly, I think the reason why a lot of guys think about game as a series of tricks comes in part from the Mystery Method (which is the foundation for a lot of this stuff from what I've learned) being based on routines and flat out fabrications (who the fuck would tell a story about themselves that never happened? seriously) and in part because a lot of guys are so terrified of regular social interaction and seduction that they feel they need a bag of tricks to have the confidence to go be friendly. They feel like they need to have cheat codes to play the game, it's not their fault, they were never taught how to be men.

How many guys are legitimately afraid that The Game will get made into a movie or something similar, and suddenly the population will know about this secret society and every woman will laugh in your face if you go up to her and start talking?

Why do you think those women are in the bar anyway? As if they had some reason to be there other than to socialize. I say stop looking at other dudes as AMOGs and start seeing them as people, the douche that just stared at you after you asked him a question, just wow, that's hilarious man. I sincerely feel bad for that dude, it's so incredibly revealing to act hostile to another guy being friendly with your group, especially when your group has chicks in it, it probably had more to do with his own insecurities, I.E.

"Boy I wish I could just be relaxed and talk to women like Phazzle is, that sure looks fun, too bad I'm a massive pussy that fronts all serious face while drinking away my anger"
Bold part: Fuck that, you can't make people like you, but you can be awesome and from what I can tell you're making huge strides in that department.

Italic part: Fuck yeah! Learning how to have more fun and be more fun socially is incredibly powerful man, it might be the most powerful skill there is. Basically, right on!

That mentality is actually a trap you fell into quite nicely there.

If you ever think pickup "is not about getting laid," you need to snap back to reality - IT IS. Yeah, there's the "improving socially" part but it's best not to put your focus on that.

I can tell you're used to using MM and/or MM-related methods. You used negs which broke rapport, which can piss people off, especially people you just met. You're used to using certain routines and other indirect techniques that you feel are, in a way, dishonest.

Don't break rapport. And be honest.

If you use a lot of MM you're not going to be a very likable guy because it's a method that drags you further and further from authenticity. Use any other method and focus on getting laid. The "getting liked" part will come on its own when you're being more authentic.

Oh, and yeah, that bitch with the knife was fuckin crazy

Wow, Phazzle. I can't say I would have done what you did and just pressed on like that, so props.
And the guys are right, it's all about being more authentic and being you. The methods are the to get your foot in the door. The rest is up to you. And, from your posts, I think you've made a lot of improvements. You're doing well.
And that bitch really was just a basket case. Holy shit.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. I needed a boost that would get me off my ass. Lately I have been feeling drained since the incident and unable to get it out of my head (although everyone I told about it has laughed hysterically.) I really needed a boost to get me back in the groove.

B. You are right I do need to be more authentic, but part of my personality is being a little bit edgy and always about to toe the line for a laugh. I really think the girl with the knife was trying to be playful but she just got drunk and took it too far, she's not a bad person she was just drunk and nuts. I am without malice. You are totally right though and I might be a little more careful about what I say in the future.

Chief, thank you for your comments and for keeping me focused. I have slept with two women in the last six months since I started practicing my game (fully 1/4 of all of the women I have ever slept with in my entire life.) What I meant to say was "It is not just about getting laid," but it is certainly about that as well. Just for the record the ladies I slept with had a super time

Wagon, thanks for helping me see things in a positive light. Yes, when I walked out of there that night I said to myself "What's the worst that can happen if I approach more women, I have already gotten stabbed." Thanks for reminding me that this journey is not an easy one but the reward is substantial and I should not give up.

afc_gone thanks for snapping me back to reality by being the first to say that she was indeed crazy. Nothing that I did, good or bad, warrented that kind of behavior and it was not me that was at fault. Besides, if she was not interested in me on some level she probably would have just ignored me, and she did touch my dick...kind of.

You are all absolutely right about people, especially guys. I live in Pittsburgh, which is a great town but we are overflowing with bitter assholes. In Pittsburgh you date a girl 3 times go steady with her for 6 years and then marry her when she has worn down your resolve. Most of the guys out here are massive pussies that puff up their chests to make themselves feel better. I make more money than them, have more courage than them, and am a whole hell of a lot more interesting.

Sincere Thanks,

Phaz

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