I realise I didn't play it smooth, but just wondering if there's any way back for this.

Chick I work with has a huge crush on me for 2 months, I kinda get this vibe, she admits it and I ask her out. We go out have great night, end up having sex that night.

3 nights later, we go out again, dinner/movie and back to hers for more sex, next morning sex again, then we both gotta work. At work she's texting me across the office "wish you were fucking me now" and telling me she's daydreaming about me.

For next few days we text back and forth she tells me she misses my cuddles, kisses etc. Can't wait to see me again, she has the best time with me nobody has made her laugh like me for years.

So last wed we have third date at her place, just nice night chatting, wine and snacks, I really liked her and prob had too much wine and ended up asking her if she's seeing other dudes etc. She said I was acting needy and no she wasn't... I know needy is a turn off, oops.

Next day she pops up on facebook chat, we chat a while, but any attempt I make at flirting is met with cold response, friday i don't sign in, but we have a work party on the night, I was meant to be staying over hers after.

I text her in morning at 9am saying "up for some fun tonight? xx" no reply til 5.30pm, she then texts, calls and texts again to make sure I'm coming, I was driving so no reply til I got there.

She then gets moody with me saying I've been ignoring her, but as the night goes on we start kissing, she starts telling our other workmates we're seeing each other (which I wasn't keen on, I liked us being a secret for the naughtyness of it).

She's a good looking girl, I'd say an 8.

So anyway we get back to hers I'm wasted, I end up telling her I really like her but not bothered if she dates other guys, let's just have fun... I realise I should have just shut the fuck up but I was pretty wasted.

Next day I apologise for being a drunken mess, she says she was too and is also sorry.

Sunday morning she comes to see me at work, sits with me for a bit, same before I go home, I just act friendly/cocky and tease her a bit.

Next day she pops up on facebook chat, we chat a bit, I have her laptop at my house so I said to her "you'll need your laptop back, what night you free this week, i'll bring it round and we can go for few drinks after?".... no reply for 2 mins

so then I say "or I can just leave it at work.. up to you?" She replies "oh shit so sorry missed the first message, um not sure when i'm free this week, when are you?" I said wed/thurs suits me, no reply...

Didn't sign into chat yesterday, or contact her, she posts on a few of my facebook statuses, but I don't reply.

today I'm online, I just send her a cheeky message saying "hey brat ", she's not replied for 3 hours, even though she's been away and back lots of times.

So I guess she's either totally lost interest (due to my drunken mistakes) or she's playing major headgames.

I just don't get why she didn't say "yeah actually busy next few nights, dropping it into work be great".

I guess I just wait to see if she contacts me now, and assume it's over?

Crazy how a chick can go from so much interest and great sex to totally ignoring you in less than a week.

In all honesty, her weird attitude to me since has put me off her a lot, but fact is still gotta work together in future, luckily I'm in different branch and she's away on vacation for 2 weeks from Saturday.

So won't have to see her for at least 2/3 weeks, just don't want shit to be awkward at work.

Hmmn no advice guys?

I think you should end this. Because, as you said, either she's not interested any more, or she plays head games. Either way, it won't be fun. Why date a girl who messes around with you like a toy?
I'd say end things, but in a good way, because you still have to see her at work, and see anyone she tells about the ordeal, so you don't want to leave her with a bad lasting impression.
Good luck man! Let me know how it goes.

She could have a lot on... I wouldn't read too much into it man, get your head out of it a bit.

Just let it go and try not to get too bent out of shape about it. The worst thing you can do in this case is react in a negative way to anything going on (unless she is being a bitch and deserves it). She will just get pissed off. I'm not saying let her walk all over you either.

I recommend playing it cool then once your with her again try bringing up whats happening, dont complain or whine, just discuss it. Like if you want a relationship then throw it out there.

If you don't want a relationship with this girl then I have no idea why your posting in the first place lol

Hope it works out

Cheers
Creamy

Me thinks you get anxious in dead space very quickly. I mean you posted three messages on here in 1 day, worried about not getting a response. You need to try and chill out dude. Don't let this push you around emotionally. Girls get caught up in a lot of stuff and can be very erratic with communication. Young girls in particular are like this. Just chill and ignore it. I suspect she's stringing you along because she's into you and wants a commitment she doesn't see happening. I think this is something girls are good at doing unconsciously. Hold steady and don't react to any of this BS. Its what she needs from you right now. Creamy's on the ball with this.

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Yep, what these two guys said.

Reckon you got needy a bit too soon bud, I know it's easy to say. But you gotta play it cool.

Scamp

Thanks guys. I've been out of the dating scene for a while, I've pretty much decided to let this one go, even though i really liked her, this has made me realise that if it's this much hassle in the beginning then it probably will only get worse.

She's only had two boyfriends before and got dumped 6 months ago, I suspect she's still hung up on the ex actually.

She's been commenting on my facebook statuses today, but I think best bet for me would be to just vanish for a while? I won't have to see her at work for another 2 weeks, if she gets in touch then cool, if not then I'll let it go.

Sound like the right way to play it? I'd like more from her, but I'm not sure I'm gonna get it, but I guess if my drunkeness pissed her off a bit of time away might give her time to forget it?

dude, re read our posts.

Play it cool, keep it going. If you want more then sweet but you just have to chillax a bit man. If she calls or txt you then answer the phone or reply but if it was me I wouldn't intiate it when she gets back from holidays. Let her make a move then organise to meet up with her. Feel it out and see how it looks, then as I said before, throw it out there and see what she says.

You need to just take everything at face value, stop trying to read into things too much. If you over think the situation then you will certainly fuck it up.

Let us know how it goes man.

Creamy

Well I'm pretty sure she is intentionally ignorning me now, only because we used to talk pretty much every day for a month, and not spoken since Monday now. She's commented on a few of my Facebook statuses which is odd, if she's ignoring me/not interested/pissed why do that?

I dunno, but I am certain she is deliberately ignoring me now, which would suggest she isn't interested.

If anything I think I was the one who wanted commitment/too much, she was prob just looking for some casual dates, maybe I blew it by coming on too strong before.

So you suggest I don't initiate any more contact, I mean if she was into me, she'd be texting/IMing me again?

Especially as I've asked her out this week and she didn't take me up on it (just left it hanging) and then totally blanked me last time I tried to contact her 3 days ago.

Yep no more contact unless she contacts you. See what happens.

In the meantime....

Go and grab a mate, go to a club or bar and start running some game on chicks. Do this for 2 nights of the weekend and I am 100% sure at the end of it you probably won't remember who this other chick is lol

Go for it brother, none of this one-itis shit! Get out there and use your cock like god intended =D

Creamy

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Well she did pop up on msn yesterday and just say hi, I said hi back and that was it.

I got two texts off her this morning, I replied but took my time in replying and my answers were just friendly but non-suggestive, I kept to one "x" on the end, she put a few more.

I think the "pulling away" trick does seem to work after all! I guess it's a fine balancing act?

So she's initiated some form of contact for the last 3 days, I've replied after a time and been friendly.

Where do I take it from here?

She's away on vacation til Sunday but then back at work and we'll see each other, should I just play it cool til then and continue not to initiate contact?

I think making her miss me is working it seems, but I've not jumped back in and showed any more interest since she rejected me last week.

Not heard from her today, any tips on what to do next/how long to keep up limited contact etc? She's back from vacation on monday so will see her then anyway.

So what happened now that she's back??