| Hey guys,
I made a topic about this before a long time ago but some situations have changed, so I'd like to start a new one.
I've been living with my girlfriend of for 2 months now, and I really like it. The problem is that she has an eating disorder.
What I know of her disorder: She doesn't puke, she just hates eating 'a lot' (when she says a lot, it's not even a normal portion for a person). There are days when she feels fat and days when she feels thin and knows she should gain weight.
She told me about her condition about 5 months ago I think, and we've been talking about it more and more. She says she wants to be with me for the rest of her life, and she wants to have kids with me some day, and that that is the only reason why she wants to do something about her condition.
I've noticed she HAS been eating more lately, and physically she's starting to feel better, more energy throughout the day and at night, and she doesn't feel weak that often anymore (she used to feel weak a lot). The downside is that I can tell she's pushing herself and some days, after she's been eating well for a day or 2, she relapses and feels fat, and doesn't see the benefits of eating healthy anymore, so she eats less. Then she feels weak again and the day after she eats normally again.
She thinks she can fight and beat the disorder on her own, with my encouragement. But yesterday she told me the problem runs much deeper than she thought it did. She thought it was a choice at first, to eat or not to eat, but now she realizes that she is not in control. Still she wants to keep doing it on her own, because she's scared of seeing doctors and psychiatrists etc.
I've always tried cheering her up when she feels down about it (on the bad days she's really no fun, not talkative, not as cheery as usual, she brings me down with her because I feel powerless).
It's starting to eat away at our relationship, I've been reassuring her that I don't feel any less about her because of this, but actually I kind of do..I love her so much but it's just really hard for me to deal with this, because I don't really know how, every day she feels shitty makes me feel shittier. I want to help her, and save our relationship, but she wont see any doctors...
What do I do guys? Do I have to give her the choice between seeing doctors and maybe losing me? I have told her already how much it hurts me to see her like that and she knows I am bottling things up because I've had more agitated moods lately.
Please respond with your thoughts, even if you think they won't help me any..
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