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 Post subject: Re: Yo Adaam
PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:07 pm 
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Hey man ive having a rough time in high school shedding my old reputation of being shy and basically socially retarted. I need a way to prove to my peers that im successful with girls but its really hard because even if you have great game if your rep is bad the girls will automatically have a bad opinion of you. Ive set my goals high i want to bang every hot girl in my grade (or as many as possible) before i graduate. The thing is im good with girls when im in the zone the problem is im almost never in the zone. How do i break my rep and ensure that im always in the zone? If it helps im not unpopular in fact i have a lot of aquatiances but they never call me out because they go out with hot girls and they think ill make things awkward. Please help me out im sure you can relate to high school problems i also wanna be an actor and awkwardness is something no successful actor must have (unless your planning to be in superbad 2lol )-Andrew
Hey AfcAndrew,

This is also a question with a bunch of different layers to it, so I will break down the most important one.

It is always hard to shed reputations with old friends or peer groups. The best thing to do is to start over fresh by getting a new social circle and then slowly incorporating your old social circle into it. That is a lot of work though, so if that isn't something you are willing to do (though beware that it will yield the best results) the next best thing is to slowly introduce your friends to the new you. If you all of a sudden turn into this super casanova over night no one will believe it, but if it is a gradual thing that they get to see happen then they will not only believe it but want to know your secrets.

If your friends think your awkward try and find out what it is specifically that they don't like and then work on it.


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:07 pm 
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Out of the following list:

-Health
-Social Intuition
-Humor
-Status
-Wealth
-Confidence
-Pre-selection
-Challenging
-Other random DHV


Which do you find the best ways to demonstrate your value while attracting a woman and why?

You are already well dressed and probably extremely confident (considering you are a master PUA - LOL), so I guess health and confidence are natural ways to demonstrate value for yourself.

Also, if you have any favorites please feel free to explain.

Thanks!
Hey Don Juan 89,

There was a psychological study done a few months ago that broke down the most unattractive qualities in men. The number one was poor personal hygiene and the second one was lack of a sense of humor. So from your list, health and humor are the ones that should have the most emphasis.

In terms of health make sure that showers are daily and there is no body odor, work out, have clear skin and eyes, and keep body oils to a minimum. In terms of humor, if this is something that does not come naturally to you then take some sort of comedy class such as stand-up or improv.


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:08 pm 
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Hi Adam!

I am a Uni student from Singapore! I told my close friends that there are three Brits I would like to meet if I got a chance. The first is your PM David Cameron, the other one is psychological illusionist Derren Brown, and the next one is you!

I just realised that you are answering qns here. Below is a probelm of mine which I posted on other sections.

Give me any sets and some time to analyze, I got the guts to open up and can do it fairly well, even though it might not be fantastic.

Now it is a different story. I got ladies talking to me. It has probably to do with my improved body language (I having been practising to fix my body language in the desired state in all location at all times). Some might be trying to hit me up but some are not. They range from 19 year old chick to 40 plus year old moms. It just was a very situational thing. I was asked about bus direction, asked to book for a slot in the queue, and even someone volunteered to help me to fix a new scanning machine when I looked like someone first time using it.

Logically it is a perfect chance to continue the dialogue. Yet my mind was in a conflict. One part of it tells me to continue. The other voice, which happened to be stronger, tell me to get out the the anxious situation politely and quickly.

As I was typing I was cursing in my hearts how many good chances I have lost!
Anxiety strikes me harder when I was "not ready" and the approach came too sudden when I was not in a state of mind of picking up.

Help and thanks a lot!

Hey Cataclysm,

It's great that you have no AA and from what it sounds like the next step of keeping the convo going is your sticking point. You should make it a point to converse and interact with every single person you come across. The best way to jump start the convo to keep it going is to transition by asking them a question about themselves. Everyone loves speaking about themselves and if you open it up for them to do that it should flow naturally.

And we do a lot of free seminars in the states and UK! If you ever make it over to this side of the world definitely look them up so we can meet!


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:09 pm 
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What are some techniques to ensure that the conversation doesn't get awkwardly silent?

I use talking about her clothing/style as a filler, but thats all I have.

Hey XtotheA420,

We teach a whole 2 hour section on this on our bootcamps so I won't go too in-depth about it here, but here are some real quick tips.
-news or pop culture references are great to bring up
-talk about relationships between others, kind of like an opinion opener but its being used in the middle of a conversation, not the beginning
-respond to what they say with a statement
-ask open ended questions that trigger a response


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:10 pm 
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Hi Adam

I'm from Milan and as I told you this morning, after three weeks of massive and good training with the guys of project Milan (Seven in particular) I decided to study your method and signed to Personal Study Course.

What is your experience with italian students and italian girls?
Do you have any particular tip?

Who is the best to practice with? different style Puas, naturals, Afc friends or alone?
(since I only know here one of your former students).

Thank you
Hey Festadanzante,

Great to hear that you're putting this to use and practice in Italy! Italian women are gorgeous and the men are natural seducers, so I think you have an advantage above others.

When I was starting out I practiced with natural friends who were very good and huge AMOGs. I had to fight hard to out-game them so it made me better in the end. Practice with whoever you can and just make sure you're not with those who will hinder your learning or practing.

Keep it up man!


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:11 pm 
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Heya Adam!

Just a quick question,

I find it "easy" to have deep and interesting conversation in the beginning of getting to know someone - but I often find that after a couple of months of knowing someone, I'll run out of conversational material - I mean occasionally something will pop-up, and you can just have fun and do fun stuff together, but what do you and your wife for example talk about - you've known each other for a long time now :p

Hey Phantomnote,

The longer you're with someone the deeper your connection grows. Amanda and I have been together for a few years now and we are always trying new things, joining new activities, getting new hobbies and meeting new people. All of these new experiences, combined with old ones, give us something new to talk about. For example, something very random we have started doing recently is playing laser tag. We go a few times a week and run around with laser guns but we now talk about how fun it is, the different strategies we could do, the kids we beat, how to improve, the different people that are there... You can do the same by going wine tasting, seeing some live music, joining a group together, cooking food.

If your conversation is drying up then it means your interactions are drying up. Don't get stuck in a rut and change things up!


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:12 pm 
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Hey Adam,

I'm having trouble thinking of interesting Day 2 locations. The trouble is it's now winter in New Zealand and I'm to young to hit up the clubs, also I live with my parents so my house isn't really an option. What are some good/your favorite places for Day 2's ?
Hey Man,

The best day2 locations are ones that are specific to your area. I have never been to New Zealand so I can't help you out too much, but any type of activity that can be done or local dessert place that you know of is something you can't go wrong with. Ask around for fun and random stuff to do in the area, maybe good hiking trails, places to rent canoes, or cupcake and cookie places with good coffee, and try them out!


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:13 pm 
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hey man what's up....Wink i hope u doing great. look man i want u 2 help me with something so i'm going 2 make this quick ,i met a girl and we hang out 4 a couple off times and wee hit it off ,then she went 4 traveling around the world and touring ,so now i see her only on facebook and then she told me that she likes me and i am not like any guy she knew before and stuff like that and seriously i like her 2 she's beautiful girl and funy 2 soo why not, so i want 2 ask u how i can move foreword and take the next step or what can i do with her and let's not 4get that i only see her on facebook so i hope u help ur man caz i know the pickup stuff but don't know what 2 do next;)

Hey LeeRain,

I answered a question almost exactly like this for kimooo a few posts back, and the same advice applies... This is a tough one because what you actually have is a logistical problem, not a game one. Your girl is traveling around the world and it sounds like she likes you, but with her being gone there isn't much to do. You can communicate on Facebook like you said, but it will only get you so far. The best thing to do is keep the communication between you open so that you stay fresh in her mind and then when she gets back pick it up where you left off. It's not the most exciting plan, but unless you want to close the distance between you, which would mean flying out to where she is, it's the most realistic one. On the up side, you can take it as a time to work on your online game!


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:15 pm 
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Hey Adam,

I have a question on direct approaches during the day. I've been experimenting with them lately and have seen some results. The thing is my game is largely based off cock/funny, crazy role plays, stuff like that, and the only advice I've found on daytime direct approaches says to be very polite (not cocky). So is it possible to alter the direct approach in a cocky manner, or at least switch to a more cocky/funny frame right after the opener? Or will you just come off like d-bag?

Thanks for your help :D
Hey Prodigy409,

In terms of daygame, the thing I have found that works best is to start off going indirect, like asking basic AFC questions and doing basic comfort building and then breaking rapport while you do that (like using cocky/funny). Then as soon as you're getting a warm response you can switch to direct. You will usually find that it works very well.

Keep the practice up!


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:16 pm 
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Hey Adam,

Starting Uni in September, and I understand that pre-selection and gaining a high social status is going to be key. I already know a few girls from my college, so could I hang out with these for the first few weeks until I can expand my social network, but can you think of advice any extra advice you could give me to increase my success e.g. throwing parties. ?

Thanks,
Kieron

P.S. if your ever around Newcastle, England in the future. I'll get my 10 chicks and make sure your glass stays refilled :)
Hey Kieron,

Uni really is the best time to meet people and socialize. Definitely hang out with the girls you already know and use them to meet even more people and expand your social circle. The best thing you can do is what you said which is organizing your own event. You can do it by throwing parties, organizing trips to bars, or doing a social gathering based on what you like... foreign films, wine tasting, watching football, playing Guitar Hero or Rock Band. Whatever you're into is what you should organize.

Have fun and good luck!


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:16 pm 
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Hi Adam, although i`m newbie in this forum, I`m a PUA since 2008, i was thinking: i`m a good PUA, but how can I become a MPUA?


PS: sorry for my bad english, I`m brazilian and I wrote this using google translator.
Hey daniel_alencar,

The ONLY way to become an mPUA is through practice. Go out there every single day for at least an hour and practice. And that Google translator is great! I would never have been able to tell.


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:17 pm 
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I'm really surprised this thread hasn't been locked yet.

ADAM HASN'T POSTED SINCE 2008

LOCK THIS THREAD

Hey Blondguy,

There are about 50 pages worth of posts here and I'm trying to get them all answered. Promise that 2008 isn't the last post I did. ;)


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 Post subject: Re: hm
PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:18 pm 
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no mate he posted to me on here semi recently, guess he is just busy
Thanks for having my back mR.e! And thanks for coming back to answer questions.


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:20 pm 
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UA Forum: PUA Lounge Posted: Fri May 21, 2010 8:07 am Subject: Questions for AFC Adam write them here!
this is his last post.
Hey lalu, thanks for looking that up!


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:21 pm 
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Hi Adam, Keep up the good work!

I have a major problem that I need help with:

(Just to give you the background first.... I am a native English speaker but live in the Czech Republic. I do not speak Czech. Most of my pickups are done in club or lively bars and using English language which most girls understand reasonably, but not perfectly. Remember it's loud too in these places.)

My openers are really excellent (and I am very confident), but after grabbing a set's attenton (never really get shot down on approaches) I don't know what the hell to talk about and go AFC talking BS. I have confidence and am pretty good looking but I need ideas for value building that are simple and can be used on girls who speak intermediate at best English. I.E. it has to be simple and easy for anyone to understand. If I get a girl one on one I can close pretty much every time, but in a loud, busy club environment I have no idea what to use on girls who have marginal English.

My aim is pretty much minimum of a kiss close. I don't consider number's valuable and have too many already. I want to arrange a day 2 but am happy to go the full way on first meeting them.

Please help me transition better :D
Hey LunaRossa,

Ok, this is kind of all over the place so I'm going to break it down. You first say you're great at opening but then don't know what to talk about. You then say that you want to kiss close, arrange day 2's and go for full closes and even SNLs. Those are all vastly different topics that are spread all across the board, so I'm just going to focus on the first one which is running out of things to say.

In a post I wrote earlier to XtotheA420, we teach a whole 2 hour section on conversational skills and transitioning on our bootcamps so I won't go too in-depth about it here, but here are some quick tips.
-news or pop culture references are great to bring up and shift the conversation to
-talk about relationships between others, kind of like an opinion opener but its being used in the middle of a conversation, not the beginning
-respond to what they say with a statement
-ask open ended questions that trigger a response


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