Hi Adam, above is an advise from you with respect to a question on the 'page 3' of your thread. SO my question is does the above work on girls too? There is a myth that I wanted your take on that if you want a girl as your girlfriend then you should have sex with her first; without sex its AFC to want a girl as your girlfriend.

Also, does it work if she is the pursuer and you the pursuit or both or vise-versa? I want to get myself to a stage where a woman is craving, really really wanting me while I too invest in her for a LTR.

Hi Adam,

2 days ago the girl I'm interested in asked me to go eat something with her. Her friend told me that "my target" always talks about me, thinks I'm funny, etc... so I took the invitation. However, when I arrived at the restaurant yesterday, she wasn't alone... She was accompanied by 4 friends (all female). This was quite a shock for me, obviously. It didn't take long before I did't knew what to say anymore and the 5 girls talked and talked and talked... I don't think I made a pretty good impression that night, so my question is: Can I still set things straight and get the girl or is it a total loss ?

Thanks,
Charlie89

Hey Adam.

What would be the best advice for gaining goup attention without being an attention seeking "look at me" monkey?

Thanks a bunch.

Negative Attraction

Adam, after a suggestion to friend online he told me about your theory on Negative Attraction. I have met a friend's friend who has a strong frame and she was rude to me the 2nd time we met at a bar (she was pissed at the bar tender). I want to try the neg attraction thing you talk about and would like to know whether the next time we meet should I be rude to her or should I just treat her like a bratty little sister and just be nice excusing her behavior. I am inclined towards the former to strike an instant rapport but dont want her to feel hurt and go. What are your thoughts and how did you act with the socialite in London in your case ?

Thanks in advance, Marc

Hey adam,
I joined this forum so i could write this one message to you. Just wanted to say your a boss and really thank you (for being so accessible, putting up free material, figuring out game that is genuine so that we don't have to ask people "who lies more...").Long story short, I did what you said and powered through AA and now im in the process of practicing, practicing, practicing real game. Basically its been two months since i picked up your course. Right now i'm dating two 25 year olds (im 19...totally stoked!!) And slowly but surely ill keep making real progress.
peace

ps. when do you think the vip section of your site might start working again?

Hey Adam, I'm trying to focus myself on comfort, which is where I have problems. But I'm confused.

There are some people out there in the community who say that Comfort in your formula is different. You define it as having trust and rapport. Some have said that by comfort you meant "Social comfort", which is all about being polite and pacing a person's reality. I'm not sure what that is exactly. Can you explain what Comfort is in the context of your formula? What should be done to achieve it?

I have two scenarios floating in my head and I'm not sure which is the correct way to build comfort before breaking rapport:

1) Topical conversation (eg. animals, cars, etc) ---> break rapport

2) Comfort building questions (eg. Would you survive without meat?) ---> break rapport.

Another problem I find myself asking is should I only stay in comfort or should I also break rapport and qualify if I just want to be friends with a stranger?

Hey Adam,

I was out sarging one night, and I was doing dance floor game. I'm a good dancer, I've practiced a lot in the past months, and when I'm on the dance floor I always attract attention, IOIs etc...

The whole night went well, I enjoyed myself I won't go into too much detail there. But one thing happened that I can't explain... There was this girl, her name is Simona, an HB10, alpha female. We know each other for years, but in the past, way before I became a PUA, I did some major fuck ups and ruined any chances I had with her. After I became a PUA, I realized what I've done and decided that it would be for the best if I just forget about her.

Anyway, she was there with her female friends and she was observing what I was doing the entire night... As I mentioned my reasons above, I did not approach her. I just noticed her, and carried on with what I was doing.
Eventually she decided to come to me. She took her friends with her and was on her way towards my group. I noticed that and said to myself "So, you finally decided to approach me? Alright... Let's see what you have to say..." What surprised me was this: At the last minute she turned her back against me and approached the nearest guy... I was like "WTF?" But I know better than to freak out ... I just carried on with my game... and she left afterward.

When she came back to her table, this time she seemed kinda sad... didn't stop looking at me tough. Later I noticed that she was picking up some guy or vice versa. I'm not sure, I had my own business to worry about. Later they both kissed, and again she looked at me...

Eventually my nightgame was officially over and I left the club with the girl I was after. But I still can't figure out why Simona behaved that way...
What are your thoughts on this mate?

Thank You in Advance.

- Teo

Hi Adam,

No questions about how to break rapport here, just wondering if you were planning on doing another webinar at any point in the future?

Thanks,
-i23

Hey Dude be nice if you gave a look at my question creating-buzz--vt66465.html , be a great topic for a youtube video too *wink wink nudge nudge* ,

Thanks Olie

Adam.


I am a 21 year old.
I found my first "PUA" stuff at 16 (In the form of advice, books from random sources, and trial-and-error)

As of now, I know enough about every facet of PUA-dom to do some major ripping and results wherever I go.



....Am I too young for this shit?

Hi AFC Adam

Great posts. How many girls have you F Clozed?

Hey Adam

I have a question about your theory of pre-selection. You say that pre-selection is the biggest trigger of attraction in women right? I can understand why it would be attractive to have women after you, obviously because we all want what everyone else wants, and if we have women after us obviously we're high value. I don't understand the method behind it though, not in the way you teach it anyway.

First you have entourage game where you go into a club with a load of hot girls. I've tried this a few times, and I felt like it was sort of a waste of time. Well not a waste of time, I mean I would much rather be hanging round with hot girls than dudes, but it didn't make any difference to my game on any of those nights.

I also don't think girls in clubs would notice. Wouldn't they be more interested in how good they're looking? Wondering what everyone else thinks of them? Especially the hottest ones.

If I'm stood in the middle of a big group of hot girls, none of them are anything more than just friends, and the girls actually noticed me with them, wouldn't they begin to wonder why if I'm surrounded by all of these girls, I'm not anything more than friends with any of them? They could think either there's something wrong with me, or that I'm gay right?

And lastly, if I had the ability to bring 5 girls to a club, as you suggest you should do, why would I need to go clubbing in the first place?

I'm not being funny or anything but I just don't understand your method. I can understand pre-selection if there are like a few girls that know they're all after the same guy, and they get kind of competitive, but I don't understand why you would need to bring so many girls and keep them just as friends.

Heyyo adam
so me and me wing had a pretty bad blow out the other day but managed to make it work out a little better in the end

we opened a 2 set of idk HB9s or so? both blond, both older then me and hinm (we are 18, they looked..i would say 23 or so) and they blew us out pretty fast due to the fact that we look young
i know you dont work to much with spefice lines, but me and my buddy to go alot of events and interact with older crowds and the majority of the time we have great success we fit well with these people, and both work with these age people so we dont come across socially as youngins, but occaisonally there will be a group we come across like this who just act super super bitchy and try to get us to leave and they say its cause we look to young, what can we do to stop this? or something to say that would at least up our value, looking young for the most part lowers are value

thanks man

mR.e

ps, we stayed in set which was hard but we pushed through it for about 15 min then wanted to open more sets, so it wasnt terrible, but if i didnt make my wing and me stay in set it wouda looked bad! (he is some what nervous when hot girls try and blow him out and doesnt always stay in set)

Dear Adam, I know you are very busy. I really love your attraction formula. I have bought your book and listened to your lesson on the first PUA university DVD set.

And I still would like to know better about this formula.

1) In your book you say that there are cases in which we can start from a phase different than Comfort without risking anything.
Does it depend on the girl's grade of interest in us or on the girl's character?
My everyday trials seem to incourage the second hypothesis: it depends on the girl's character.
If a girl likes us, but she is shy, probably we should start with the Comfort phase. If she is friend of friends and very committed to the interaction, probably we can start from the Breaking Rapport phase (and also if she is only an extrovert girl who immediately finds us attractive).
If a girl is sexually explicit, we should start from the Escalation phase.
Do you agree with these considerations?

2) Another element that makes me feel insecure is this: how do we understand the right moment for starting Breaking rapport? Are there some questions that we can ask ourselves in order to understand that the Comfort is completed and it's the time for Breaking rapport?
I find a lot of girls, expecially older girls, that are not committed to the interaction even after 10 minutes of conversation. It seems they have barriers. If I Begun Breaking rapport with these girls... so, if I let them know that they are not important to me, if I used Neg... I think they wouldn't notice it.
So my idea is: probably with these girls I should continue the Comfort phase until they consider me a sort of friend who is fantastic having around. Probably being cordial is not enough: I should be a very fun sociable guy.
What is your idea? Please, help me!

3) Lastly. On the DVD you say that Breaking rapport means stepping away from the girl. But on your book you say that a sexual innuendo is an instrument for Breaking rapport. Now, a sexual innuendo is not a way for stepping away.
So my question is: is it possible to end succesfully the Breaking rapport phase using only a sexual innuendo, or is it ever necessary to step away?

Sorry for my Italian-english. Thanks.

Hola Adam

You have a few other questions to answer, so ill make mine quick

Ive found myself in more than a few situations involving me talking to a girl in a car. Making them laugh and continuing the conversation is easy, but in such a confined space, how can you make escalation more fluent and less like
...well...like your trying to escalate inside a car?