First I wanna say, if you read this kindly take 2 mins of you're time to help a fellow member out. You would want the same; all opinions welcomed

Backround:

Im starting to think my girlfriend of 3 months is losing attraction to me, she's also been doing thing she knows I don't like I admit I've been somewhat afc ( making myself too available, giving her too much of my time). She just isn't as quick on the draw with phones an what not.. She has been thinkin about her (physically abusive) ex a lot latly). I can tell by the things she says, she also mentioned to me she had dreams about him.

The Question :
How do I respark the attraction, as things were from the begining? Freeze outs? Take a break? Is there still time to fix this?

Whatcha think =]

_________________
“The best way to get the person you want is to not be afraid to lose them”

“If you act like she is too important, she’ll treat you like your not important”

You want her to stop thinking about those things and want her to be attracted to you again right? well here's what i'd do:

Her: *mentions ex*

Me/you: I understand that *whatever she mentioned* happened. But, (go in and hold her close to you) I'm right here. Whatever happened before means nothing because your with me. (hold her by the chin and make her look into your eyes and say this exactly) Think about me, only me, and I'll make all your worries fade away.

This'll give major DHV of being an ALPHA, it'll put her in a mindset to think about you everytime she has worries which will make her think about you more, and it'll make her feel safe and love your touch. And if you want you can give her a kiss after you see she accepts it in her eyes.

_________________
when your alone and by yourself and still survive day by day... you know that your a lone wolf

Well you can talk to her about how you feel, (not the jealous thing, just the "we're drifting apart thing), maybe it will make her be a bit scared of loosing you.

You can try to make her a bit jealous but that's a tricky situation you will put yourself in, not always good

Or you can do all those things girls like guys to do for them but guys don't, (not in a stupid AFC way, but like a man doing a good thing for his girl)

if shit hits the fan you can dump her before she dumps you, but that's over reacting
which i think you do, you overthink it, just the fact that youre asking shows that youre poisoning your own thinking, going behind her back asking a bunch of guys on the internet what to do? you should know what to do! Your dating her, not us, you know her. In a way I feel ya, but still, wake yourself up, and go do whatever you think you should

I hope that made some sort of sense, I'm not that good at keeping a relationship alive.

_________________
"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

Im just too emotional at the moment to make the right decesion, this is why I asked.. I decided to give her space subtley, like pull myself back. I missed her call last night, so I texted her this mornin to let her kno why( I was tired) that's it. She's been workin a lot so she's stressed.. Anymore words of help or advice would be helpful

_________________
“The best way to get the person you want is to not be afraid to lose them”

“If you act like she is too important, she’ll treat you like your not important”

Why did you text her the very next morning?

You are making yourself way too available. If she has to "earn your time" it will make you seem much more attractive.

Get some girls who are friends and start hanging out with them =).. it will create competition and she will want to steal the time you are giving them.

RECAP:
DONT BE SO AVAILABLE. MAKE HER EARN IT!