Hey

I'm new to this, so any advice would be great!

I have been messaging a girl on BBM (blackberry messenger) but all its all the same safe, boring stuff such such as "hey" "how are you" "what you up to". Its just no fun. But I think she's interested because shes the one who starts the conversations.

I have never met her in person which is probably the reason why there is no chemistry, she added me on facebook and she looks hot, so got her Blackberry PIN that was on her facebook. Anyway to get these convo's more flirty and fun?

Thanks for reading guys!

Ask if she want's to do something someday!

In person > phone call > text messaging/instant messaging > facebook

that's my hierarchy of human interaction. Right now you're just words on a screen to her. I mean, let's be honest, why make a friend request to someone you dont know at all on a site that is not built for online dating? It's a lil sketchy, but if you wanna go for it you have to meet in person. You won't be able to build anything up in typed words.

Don't take this the wrong way.. but this really falls under "how to have a conversation" - everything you do in the field translates to text. It's all the same shit.

Tease her.. yet maintain a playful and positive attitude.

Try to only ask open ended questions otherwise you can let the conversation die a slow death to boredom 4 to 5 texts later.

Pay very close attention. Recognize when something is funny and use it against her; create "inside jokes" that you can bring up again later like a silly nickname or something.. i could go on forever...

BE MYSTERIOUS! It can work wonder if you act too busy to talk on the phone for a few days - yet text her back and forth ferociously. She will be frustrated that you seem too busy to hang yet unable to hold back from still talking to you. This demonstrates very high value that your time is precious, and she has to earn it.

But amidst all of that - Don't seem too available.. text back 4 or 5 quick responses, and then when the natural magic of the "text moment" is lost - ignore her for a few hours or the next day until she hits you up again. If you are 100% available over text it can and will lower your value.. its very similar to the "push/pull" technique used during sex when a girl is afraid to put out.

Overall it's difficult to answer the question. This is really really broad.. you should narrow it down to specific questions regarding conversating via text.

Don't take this the wrong way.. but this really falls under "how to have a conversation" - everything you do in the field translates to text. It's all the same shit.

Tease her.. yet maintain a playful and positive attitude.

Try to only ask open ended questions otherwise you can let the conversation die a slow death to boredom 4 to 5 texts later.

Pay very close attention. Recognize when something is funny and use it against her; create "inside jokes" that you can bring up again later like a silly nickname or something.. i could go on forever...

BE MYSTERIOUS! It can work wonder if you act too busy to talk on the phone for a few days - yet text her back and forth ferociously. She will be frustrated that you seem too busy to hang yet unable to hold back from still talking to you. This demonstrates very high value that your time is precious, and she has to earn it.

But amidst all of that - Don't seem too available.. text back 4 or 5 quick responses, and then when the natural magic of the "text moment" is lost - ignore her for a few hours or the next day until she hits you up again. If you are 100% available over text it can and will lower your value.. its very similar to the "push/pull" technique used during sex when a girl is afraid to put out.

Overall it's difficult to answer the question. This is really really broad.. you should narrow it down to specific questions regarding conversating via text.

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Great advice guys. Thanks alot!!