Okay recently I have started going back into the dating game after my last relationship of three years ended about 18 months ago.. I've met my X on a dating site and I always found them pretty successful. I have been reading various topics regarding online dating and I was wondering if anyone could give me some decent openers?

I have seen a few which seem quite big headed almost rude! I have used these in various chat programs to see what sort of response I get...(Test them out) I find that normally by going with the standard approach something like The really good looking girls do not respond. But if I use something like Seems to work well as far as getting a response from them. But then they tend to think your a twat. I guess if you're looking for a long-term relationship that's not good way to start or is it?

I also find that the conversation kind of fizzled out so I guess I need to escalate? But can someone tell me or at least give me a definition of escalating?

Also when doing online pic up / dating is it best to build things up etc over a couple of days before asking to meet or even asking for the number? Or is it best to just go ahead and do it or will it depend on the girl?

I'm having probelms wiht online game aswell! I cant get the responses but after a bit it fizzles out!

Someone said to me before, online game is about getting on the map! Everything you do online wants to lead up to a meet! I've been using the '44 year old lighter repai man' gag which gets responses though not always. Then i just run out of things to say! Its a bitch!

I think its just case of trying different things out and gaining experience from each interaction! Plenty of Fish is a good place to try stuff out! I have a mate who seems to get loads of days 2s from it. All he says is 'Hey, hows it going'! then moves them to FB and MSN as quick as possible! I suppose its just a case of being not freaking her out, staying fun and playful.

Let me know how it goes man! I need some help with my online game!

Cheers

Cambria

Do you use that site to test things out on then? I find the sites you pay for are normally better as people are willing to spend money to find someone. Make sense?

You don't need to escalate, you almost don't want to escalate things if you are looking for something more than a one night stand. You just need to keep the conversation interesting really.
Its situational really. I been able to send like 5 messages and meet the girl the same day, while others took a couple of days to number close and meet in person.
Pay sites are generally going to fair better than free ones as people on pay put in a finical investment into the site and so they tend to be more serious about meeting people in person. In my opinion its not really worth the money on these sites when you look at all of the free options you have.

be more alpha bro

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In what way?

Not long ago I made this one up (it's a roleplay):

from the start:

me: Just tell me somethig...
her: (either she does not response at all or it takes some time): what?
me: We haven't saw each other in over a month and you don't even call?
me: Whats up with that

Then you do your stuff. If she is super playfull she will play along. The other response I got was...wtf (probably because you're one of the first that did that)...i found that the best thing is to continue your role for just a bit longer. You might say: Don't act as if you don't know me:P and just be playfull. Just joking:) I bet your confused:D And then you talk normaly

This seems to work for me... let me know how it goes if you try it.