Hi all pick up masters, I'm a rookie.

I met this HB8.5 last weekend in NYC through a common friend, we went to bar (together with a group of friends). I mentioned that I was going to beach the next day and she was interested to ride with me, so I got her number. But she didn't go the next day, I guess she felt it would be a bit awkward to be alone with me(her close gf couldn't go with her) since we just met.

Anyway, we texted each other a bit during the week. I tried my best to stay cool and not to show interest desperately, so far so good.

Questions: Our company will host a BBQ in a park (in New Jersey) this weekend(people can bring guests), is it rational to invite her to come? (she lives in NYC and loves getting out of city tho) Is it too early to do so?

Please advise. Appreciate it!!!

Yeah, it's not like you're inviting her over to your house. But make it seem as if she needs to travel a lot more.

"Did you know that most Americans have never been out of their state?" And of course say that with a smile/playful tone of voice and then tell her that there's this BBQ and invite her.

And if she asks, "Yeah but where will I stay" (she's thinking that she'll be with you at some hotel or something.) So tell her, "We're going to stay at this place but can I trust you to behave yourself?" Again, with a playful tone of voice. This is a false disqualifier for you so it won't look like you two will do anything.

Also say something like "New York can get boring and stressful at times, everyone is in a rush to get to their office, etc. etc." This is an assumption which is true and makes you look pretty sincere as if you already know the everyday life.

Hi, thanks a lot for your advice, I like it!

A little bit update here, I texted her about this last night, and I didn't get any reply yet. I'm going to ask her again later maybe with an angry tone?