This is a guide of how to build and maintain a social circle in College, making you the most popular kid at school. I know this has been discussed before and I know there have been several guides written on this topic. What I'm about to provide you is a guide of MY way of doing it. MY way of seeing things, so spare me the wiseguy talk.

Remember that nothing in life is easy and that YOU have to make things happen. So don't come here complaining that this shit doesn't work because chances are that you are the one doing it wrong and/or not putting enough effort into it.

Constructive criticizm and other relevant comments are more than welcome.

Enjoy.
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I. Introduction
II. Layout/Plan
III. Making it happen
IV. Maintaining It
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Introduction

Your social circle does not only describe your friends and surroundings. Your social circle is what DEFINES you. After all, this is what all of us are really aiming for.


"I wanna get laid whenever I feel like it, in an infinite amount!!"

On the surface, this is true. We all want to get laid. However, we want this to be a part of our LIFE, we want our sexual aura to be a part of our definition as individuals. Most importantly, we want people to SEE this. FEEL this. KNOW this, about us.This is why the social circle plays the biggest role of your life. You can't expect yourself to be a "master pick up artist" with a crappy social circle. It doesn't add up. It doesn't work that way.

Now, let's briefly talk about College Game in general.

First off, DON'T APPLY ANY METHODS OF PICK UP IN COLLEGE. Just don't. It's possible - yes, but you are doing WAY too much work that it can actually even hurt your game if you continue doing that.

You want to know how to get laid in college? Here's the answer: Value.

In college, it's ALL about value. Your value is what gets you laid, your value is what makes everybody chase you and your value is what makes you the most popular kid in school.

If you're even beginning to think "A1, A2, A3", STOP. Don't even let me get started on that.

I will explain in detail exactly how you can achieve the highest value possible in college later on. After all, that's the key to this.

What I wanted to make clear in this introduction is this: Building a social circle with such a great power and becoming the most popular kid at school TAKES WORK. Yes, you actually have to do some work to get there. Surprise, surprise.

With that being said: If you can't accept this fact and/or are too lazy to execute the necessary requirements - then don't even bother reading the rest of this.

Now, if you're ready, let's get to work.
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Layout/Plan

Before you start building your new social circle, you have to look at the life you're living at the moment. These are some key points you need answered:


1.What does your social circle look like right now?
2.How would you rate it? Good, bad?
3.What are the things that make your social circle good/bad?
4.Are there any friends in your surrounding that HURT your game?
5.How can you fix this?

Here's the point of this: You don't have to start from scratch. Try REPAIRING your social circle as it is and REMOVE all the components that are hurtful. This includes friends that give you nothing but trouble.

If you have a lot of friends that are "gamers" (like me) - you don't have to necessarily get rid of them. But you must accept the fact that you will be spending a lot less time with them from now on. Not because you're pushing them away, but because you're too busy constructing and adding parts to your social circle.

After you've answered all of those questions, you can now sit on the rollercoaster and wait for it to start:

1.Who are the most popular kids at school?
2.How much access to women to they have?
3.Which ones of those do I want to befriend?

NOTE: Those 3 questions ESPECIALLY invole the female students of your school.

So sit down and CAREFULLY think this through. You need to plan exactly what friends you are gonna keep, what friends must go and what friends are potential suiters for your social circle.

Oh, and women are exceptions. You don't need to kick them out/replace them. There can never be enough of them.
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Making It Happen

You have so far spotted and identified the "cool people". You have decided which people shall remain in your social circle and which shall... not.

You have your plan set up so now - it's time for the fun stuff.

Like mentioned earlier, college is all about value. If you got the value, you got the girls and all the other presents you can wish for.

The second part of this is to be SOCIAL. Combine value with a good social life - and you're on the road to a successful life in no time.

So here's what you need to do next:

1.Be social. Talk to everybody in the hallway and other places you find appropriate.

NOTE: This does NOT mean that you are "sarging" at school. This does NOT mean that you are supposed to "hit" on girls at school. It's too early for that.

Do it anyway - and you'll be sorry. No but seriously, it will get you a bad reputation (assuming that your game isn't at it's best potential).

2.Participate in events. People at school gotta KNOW how you are. They need to know of you. Joining events and/or performing on stage are GREAT ways of achieving this.

Of course, don't embarass yourself on stage. Don't do any crazy and immature shit. Take this seriously.

3.Be friendly to everyone. The reason I wrote this separately from "being social" is because most guys see other boys at school as "AMOGS" or "enemies" of some sort. DON'T do that. The guys at school are your FRIENDS and can be used as connections.

However, if a douchebag is still messing with you and being a total dick - just ignore him. He's trying to bring you down to his level and that's a trap you're not stupid enough to fall in (I hope).

4.Host parties. Yes, YOU are the host of almost every party/preparty in college. I will explain this properly below.

Now, you might say "But... I can't do it because of ."

That's OK, I used to have the very same problems as you. However, this can still be pulled off.

Say your friend told you: Hey, I think I'm gonna host a party next week.

Or let's say you hear that SOMEONE in school is planning to host a party at school.

It doesn't matter if you know the person or not. But this is what you do: Go up to that person and say "In exchange for coming to your party, I will ." He/she will agree to it, if you have reasons enough.

Possible contributions
*~ Bring booze
*~ Bring girls
*~ Be the HOST for him. Tell him you'll organize EVERYTHING (except for the guestlist).

If you expect to get into GOOD parties for the popular kids, you are expected to somehow contribute to the event. Remember, this is the final step of the process. If you've followed the previous steps, you will find that you have A LOT of new friends in college (amongst them are MANY girls) and that you can somehow USE this.

In my opinion, bringing the girls (and possibly the booze) is the BEST way to get invited to any party. There is no party without women in it. That's just... a sausage fest.

So look through this post over and over until you GET IT. Write down the keywords and start memorizing - because this will be your biggest mission throughout your time in college.

You got the key components now. Keep them in your head and, most importantly, make sure you DO THEM.

Now, to the final note of this all...
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Maintaining It

Don't look at this as "work". It's not work. There's nothing difficult about having conversations with people. Sure, you could get nervous at start - but all of that will go away when people start LOVING you. When people start talking GOOD things about you.

Hey, have you met ? He talked to me earlier today
Yeah, he was really nice! I liked him

etc etc... You get it.

Now here are some quick key points of how to NOT screw up:

1.Don't say the same things to different girls. Like I mentioned in the example above: People TALK. The girls WILL find out that you've said the EXACT same things to all of them. You will be labeled as FAKE.

2.Please don't use routines. It's not natural. Also, if ONE guy in the entire school finds (maybe online?) that you've used one of Mystery's routines - you're FUCKED. Not only are you labeled as FAKE, but everybody will know that you've actually needed to "study" on "how to be popular" or "how to get girls".

3.Like mentioned from the start (also related to previous key point), don't use any methods. Methods fuck you up. So stop "negging" a woman and "DHVing" to the group while trying to "isolate" the "target" or whatever bullshit. Please don't do that. I mean it.

If you can manage to stick to all the key points in this post - congratulations. However, if you screw up a little - it's NOT the end of the world. Just don't ever talk about it, and then continue your process.

There's a chance that people may get jealous and try and sabotage this for you. Don't talk to those people.

There's a chance that your friends won't accept the new you. Make it clear to them that they will either accept it, or get lost. The worst thing you can do is to DROP all of this, because you want to keep your geeky friends (or whatever).

Also, (something that you may already be doing) keep your self MOTIVATED all the time. Do this by either reading material, watching material or listening to material. ANYTHING that gets you motivated and pumped for continuing this process and GOING ALL THE WAY (lol).
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BONUS:
As a bonus, I'll explain to you how exactly you should act in front of people in college and why.

The human mind has not completely evolved in teenagers. They experience things such as identity crisis and they have a lack of knowledge of what life is all about.

This is why it's going to be much easier to get laid in college.

Here is the bonus keypoint:

1.Be the LEADER. If you're at a party, don't just talk to everyone. Tell people to DO things. "Hey, let's play beer pong, hey let's do this and that."TELL them, don't ask them. Don't ever ask for permission when proposing something. Just say it in a way that expresses "we are gonna do this."

This works on girls in college because they, like mentioned, don't know SHIT about life. And let's be honest - neither do YOU. But as long as you ACT as if you know exactly how things are going to be - they will BELIEVE it and follow your lead.

Not to mention that it's a HUGE attraction spike.
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FINAL NOTE: I wrote this guide in half an hour. It was kind of quick, but I THINK that I got all the main points written down.

That being said, if you see anything that I should ADD (not remove), please tell me so and if I find it appropriate, I will do so.

Peace,

Little Panda.
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Due to the closed nature of college and the relative ease with which you can become a notorious badass, 90% of what you said is dead on.

One problem: your description of how to build the social circle is so deliberate that it is actively depriving someone of their humanity. If someone makes a decision on whether or not to have a person as a friend is defined by their "coolness," that someone is a complete tool. I have friends that are terrible wingmen, but they are excellent people. Sure, if the only reason you are enrolled in college is to hook up, its no problem. But if you want to grow as a person, you need to get off your pedestal. I'm not suggesting you seek out the ugliest man on campus, but if you meet a guy who is no casanova but he's one of the best friends you could have, you shouldn't ditch him in order to pick up women.

I agree that you shouldn't ditch friends who aren't good at game, but sometimes you have to move away from people who aren't positive influences.

If your friends don't have the motivation to sarge or build their social circle, they sap your own sarging energy. You just don't hang around with them as much.

Also, "depriving someone of their humanity" seems a bit harsh. Your argument makes sense from a moral standpoint, but people never want to both debating crap about morality.

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Don't hate, just dominate.

I'll concede that point, Royal. I was a bit harsh, it just really irritates me when people view others solely by how others can help them. Again, I have friends that are socially awkward, and while I try to help them i will not invite them over to help with a target girl's annoying friend. But I won't shun them.

Side note, once I did invite an awkward friend for that purpose, and he spent so much time talking to me so as to avoid embarassing himself in front of the 2 girls that the ladies started makin out because they thought we were ignoring them. Not saying you should invest in that strategy, but it was hella funny.

Hey,

Let me clear something up: I don't suggest that you DITCH any friend that isn't good at game.

I'm suggesting that you DITCH (yes, ditch) any friend that is hurting your game and YOU in general. In this sense, I mean friends which:

*~ Continously make fun of you in front of women (even if you told him off)
*~ Doesn't accept the new you
*~ Talks shit behind your back
*~ ETC.

Friends that you've been forced to hang out with all these years because you haven't had any better options.

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Hope this cleared things up.

First of all I have to say thank you. For this great post. I think the majority of what you said is dead on.

Also I agree that to become someone with high value in college, it IS indeed necessary to sometimes stop hanging around with people who don't want to sarge. Even though they might be good people, they 'sap' ( love the word ) your energy.

I just have one question. I'm 17 and going to college, and I learned a lot of theory the past years, from openers to routines etc. But now you're saying that I should dump the whole theoretical approach and just 'go with the flow'?

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"To know what people really think, pay regard to what they do, rather than what they say. "
René Descartes

So this applies to college, how about High school and the likes?

I'm starting a new school september and am curious if high school has the same principals.

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@Vuvuzela: Canned material in general shouldn't be used. If you think about it - they are just empty words that don't even express who you are. So it doesn't matter what you talk about with girls as long as you do it confidently and convey it correctly.

Do this by being enthusiastic in conversations (maybe energetic) - it's gonna make you look awesome, even though you're talking about pointless shit. Don't really go with the flow if you're not sure how good your game is - but don't use canned material either. Make your OWN routines/material that are applied to YOUR life.

Keep in mind not to use the same routine/other material on more than 1 girl. They will find out.

@Zaffy:
I added a "Bonus" point by the end of the thread. So *yes* - this works in High School as well - because of the mentioned reasons in the Bonus area.

Sweet, thank you monsieur.

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Personally I think it is great that you discourage students of the game to use canned-material, just so that you will not get stuck in your head. I mean people at college are generally young and most probably have not had much experience/many years in the game, so they make themselves fit into this Mini-Mystery mold ... easily.

But, as you need to be very careful of using the same routines over and over in school, I think you can get away with doing kino-patterns that you have learned before hand. Two girls might chat amongst themselves and catch you on the same routine, however, I do not think they would be able to remember and compare your physical escalation leading up to a kiss, let's say.

NB: I think you should cred

Thanks for the positive replies.

Airblade, you are absolutely right.

I completely forgot to credit some of the people that gave me this knowledge from the start.

I give partial credit to these people: Nick Sparks, Francis Adams, Dodger Clemons and Heartwork - all of which are masters of College Game themselves and inspired me to practice the game and write this thread.

what it kind of sounds like to me is that your saying, "identify the cool people, now go make them your friend." How do you suggest we just do that. And at my school there are never any parties, even the cool kids dont really go to parties. So how can i make it happen, and i cant really use my house or anything. You mentioned being active in events, what are some of the events we can participate in that will improve are cred?
Thanks ppreciates

That is exactly what I'm saying. The point isn't just to be "the cool people's friend". The point is to be social and talk to everybody, all the time - *including* the cool people. However, with the cool people you take the extra step of building a common interest.

You're saying nobody in your school attends parties? Sorry if I offend you but it sounds you go to a catholic school or something. Look, the partying isn't even the point. The point is - find whatever is the main EVENT at your school (in my case, partying is a big deal) and ORGANIZE those events. This is how cool people will be DRAWN to you. YOU will be the one they are looking for when they are looking for FUN. In other words: You =/= Nobody and instead You = FUN.

There must be something fun people do around your area, right? Sit down and think about these things and then figure out a way to manage it and be the host.

Also, when I mentioned school-events - I was referring to events that the school is hosting, such as:

*~ Talent Shows
*~ Sports Tournaments
*~ ETC.

...

The point of all these things is to get "known" in the school. Eventually, I should be able to go to your school and ask ANYONE in the hallway: Hey, do you know who Simplyenterhere is??

And they will all be like Yeah, totally!

no, your making alot of sense...but im still trying to wrap my head around the idea of going up to someone you barely know and say that you'll organize the thing. wouldnt that be a little wierd?
So is this guide how you became the big man on campus?

Yes, it will be weird. It will be weird if you DON'T follow this step by step. Look at the steps. If you're being overly social with everybody and people start inviting you to events (parties) - then why would it be so weird to say "Hey, let me help you organize", right?

Step by step. No need to rush.