WOW...

Okay... so... in field. Gatecrash girls birthday. Get in there, using the camera initially as a prop. She asks me to send her the pics... I joke and say if you want my number just ask dont use this as an excuse. Play play... she gives me her FB. Add as a friend... good stuff.

Move to club - dance floor... kino escalate, she is loving it. Close dancing, very provocative. Leans into me for the kiss... I try to follow through... she pulls back. This happens all night for about 3-4 hours. In the end I am lost as to what to do. I just keep trying... keep being playful.

She is loving it... but no kiss. HELP where did I go wrong?

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She wants you to play back. Next time, you pull away, and grin. Make her chase you for it. It's a game. She knows things are more fun when you don't just dive into them.

Thanks... a quick update.

Friend req accepted on FB on Sunday... no contact

She emailed me this morning - resulted in about 15 emails bouncing back & forth in the space of about 2 hours. I was cocky funny and kept her on her toes. Asked for her number.

Moved to text... probably 30 odd texts back and forth all day today. Called her this evening... chatted for a bit & cut the call short as I had (female) visitors arrive at my house (timed the call for this).

Texts again after this till she went to sleep. She has agreed to buy me coffee on Wed night. I will deffo be playing back. Any other thoughts/comments welcome.

Cheers,

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Keep the contact going. Whether it be text or calling. As long as you think she's excited to hear you again and she will keep responding, keep doing it. Keep doing it the way you're doing it, cause it's working.

The typical mistake at this point is to NOT call or txt when you felt like it, by trying to hard to "play cool". As long as you both are having fun communicating, keep it up. It's comfort building.

if you get along well with a girla nd she wants to hear form you but she doesn't, she starts to convince herself your'e a player - and attraction is lost.

Latest update...

Continued texts & calls... very playful, I am being very cocky funny & it is driving her nuts - she loves it.

We agree to do something yesterday evening - meet at her place. Yesterday morning she says she MAY not be able to make it because she is supposed to be looking after her brother. I switch & suggest lunch (after teasing about how cute it is she is using her brother as an excuse for her anxiety about meeting up with me). She agrees to lunch... pick her up, do a quick lunch. Great... (Oh.... and she IS hot... it was not the drinks on Saturday. She is a HB8. )

Txts continue after, lots of banter good stuff. Evening comes round, txts me saying her brother has blown her off. I say fine, pick you up soon. Google for a nice village near her, jump in the car off we go...



***************Escalations & results***************


Drinks at the pub after a quick walk around.

Make fun of her small hands, pretend to plam read, back tickle etc... her body language is negative though - she is shy.

Leave put, walk - onto a bridge over a river. have her stand in front of me, stand behind her, arms on the bridge on either side of her pinning her in front of me. Talk into her ear etc etc... escalate. Can tell she is flustered. This results in kissing etc... great.

Back to her place... and my weakness comes out. Unless I have had a few drinks and the girl is tipsy too I find it hard to escalate past kissing. I get into such a playful teasing banter with girls that to get serious/sexual is a challenge.

I did try with lifting her top, kissing her tummy... she was nervous and pushed me away. This could be genuine nervs/lack of confidence, or her way of playfully saying no.

Question now...

What are the escalation steps from kissing once in a place that is comfy (IE: Her/My place) to take it to the bed?

Thanks all...

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Ok...i've been in these situtations like you. Just look around her apt next time and say "show me around". Ask her stupid questions about a few things. At one point she will turn her a** around and then you can go! Start kissing the neck and feeling her T***. Don't touch near the stomach area unless she is really lean. Girls have a tendency to feel big in those areas even if they are not. Anyway keep kissing as you go to the bedroom. Try not to stop the kissing. To much pausing will make her think about what is going on. Do what comes next. If they push your hands away just take two steps back to the kissing and try again. They eventually get turned on and go all the way. Works for me I say 75% of the time. The rest it take about 2 to 3 times of meeting them up. If I don't at least get some kissing the first time meeting them then I usually cut them loose. Good luck!

Thanks appreciated. Like that, will use that! Many times I am sure

**LATEST UPDATE**

Been in Ireland over the weekend. She did not text me once, text her finally on Monday before I made my way back. Instant reply... but texts shortish/no x on the end. Suggest I pop by hers on the way back, she was up for it, but in an off way. When I landed had a text about her horse being sick and could not make it.

She continued to text BOAT loads all evening, I kept saying things like stop trying to flirt with me on text, just admit how much you fancy me & want to see me etc - but she kept brushing it off. Almost like she is playing with me.

Now I know from the last meet she is deffo keen on me, but something seems to have her defences up. Probably the several txt messages that came through from other girls when I got signal the other night - doh!

I am bored now, it has gone from pursuit to just being hard work. She is bratish & attention seeking while being off. I have a 3 ask out rule, they say no 3 times I delete their numbers. She has let me down twice, once more to go. If she says no, that is it, bin her off.

Have loads of other dates lined up, so not stressed - but hate to lose ha.

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