she'll invite me to lunch with her, or do stuff during the day, or if I suggest lunch she'll come. We don't work together, or even near each other, but I enjoy her company and looks. PLus she's well educated, and I respect her opinions. Whether or not I totally agree is another point.

like today i invited her to a party when she got off work, (we went to lunch this afternoon) she said she'll text me either way. I text her when i got off work to see if she was ready and she tells me can't come.

One night I was hammered at the bar and text her to see if she wanted to come out, she told me about this terrible date she wwent on with this guy, and I told her she deserves the best. She said we were just friends. Which I took as "fuck off"

So I didn't text her for a few days and 3 days later she invites me to lunch with her and she's super interested in everything I say and have to do.

She said herself she doesn't know how to maintain a relationship with people in general, she only likes the time spent first meeting them. Which I can relate to. i dunno where im going with this, but would like to pursue a more romantic relationship with her.

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Where to begin....

Dont be clingy. Not an attractive quality, from what you've said (and you've seen the wonders this can do) dont keep texting/inviting her places if she "doesn't know" what she wants to do. If you leave yourself open as an option all the time, why would she pull the trigger? Your always gonna be there, right? Wrong.

And also, when she invites you out to dinner, who's doing the paying? If I had a buddy that would pay for all my meals all the time, I'd sure have him on MY speed dial....

If your the one paying for the lunch all the time then she is only using you. Never let a girl take advantage. Its the sad truth if this is the case but it will be a lesson learned.

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Good post by Bormad, are you paying for lunch? all or most of the time? My guess is you are, trying to be "nice", if so, she's taking you for a ride, personally I'd go more direct with her, and call her out on explaining guys.

"look I'm with you now, I'm not overly interested in how other guys bore you" with a smile, cocky/direct at the same time.

Don't be taken granted of. If anything, cut communication again, and when she does suggest a meet up after no contact, say you can't, see her reaction, then you can dictate things in some way, because if you keep jumping when she calls, she's thinking she's the boss.

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we've gone out to lunch twice

first time we split the bill, since she invitied me, and she drove

second time I suggested we go to lunch I picked her up and paid for lunch, she tried to give me money, but I said next time lunch is on you. She said okay with a big smile.

And we went out for drinks once, she paid for all her drinks, I paid for all of mine, she spent the night at my house, but was with her girlfriend so they slept down stairs on the couches.

I'm trying not to be clingy, I don't think I am, maybe I'll her no next time she invites me somewhere

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If that's the case, doesn't sound too bad man!

See what happens, but keep some distance aswell, let her know what's what as well as let her wonder what your up to.

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