... are all things that people seem to think pickup is similar to. Everyone feels that they need to "do" so many different things for a girl to be attracted. With all the theory out there, guys start thinking something like:

"Ok, um, she's frowning, uh oh, what do I do? Oh, right, ignore initial rejection, okay, she's keeping it up, I better neg her, she still seems kind of pissed, maybe I should do a cold read and then DHV to show her that I'm in charge, I should also lean back, ok... um, what we were just talking about?"

People put so much effort into "doing" pickup. Once you start "being" super attractive, then you naturally build attraction in women.

Funny, the word "attract" is the same word we use when we describe two magnets that have difficulty staying away from each other. So: my advice is to become a magnet. The more of a magnet you are, the less work you have to do to reel girls in for a close.

Becoming a magnet is a lot easier than one would think. There are a few things that I think of when I think of people with magnetic personalities.

They are fun, they are confident, and they are leaders. They know how to have fun, and they are confident in that ability, so naturally they are able to lead others to fun. And who doesn't like having fun? Naturally, everyone wants to come to the fun, and so they follow this person.

Seducing women from there is mostly building that magnetism. Take push/pull, for example. Women become upset when you take away the possibility of fun, and so they follow you more and more to make sure that the fun keeps where it is. There you are, heightened magnetism, or attraction.

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Now for how to go about it. Actually, it's quite easy.

Go out and have new experiences. There are so many reasons why this is what you want to do. Here are a few:

1.You learn more about how to have fun. You will, perhaps, find your passion in life, and will meet tons of great new people who you can talk to and learn from. People will flock to you if you know how to give them something thrilling and new. Sure, clubbing is fun, but how about taking a ride in a hot air balloon?

2.You become more confident. If you try new things, and succeed, you naturally grow desensitized to discomfort of new things, and you can break into new territory easily.

3.You gain a variety of references that allow you to "calibrate". In pickup, calibration is for people who have approached tons of sets, and naturally can tailor their skills to the situation. Calibration applies to everything in life. If you handle a project for building a schoolhouse in a Russian village, you will know more about home improvement, and maybe you can fix the leak in the roof yourself instead of hiring a plumber.

Now then. It doesn't particularly matter what experiences you choose, but there is one key thing that will make or break this exercise: you have to do things that freak you out. If you do it once, you beat down a neural pathway in your brain and have some idea of how to do it. Do it twice, the path grows deeper. Do it three times, the path is even deeper. Create a mental pathway for breaking through your barriers. Once you are able to do this, you can go into anything confidently.

Once you have confidence and fun down, you will naturally become a leader. You will naturally want to help people out who don't know what they're doing. And you will become that magnet you always wanted to be.

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another person that repeats what has been said hundreds of times acting like he's some kind of pick up buddha.

congratulations.

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=D. This thread was really more of a response to Sharplin's thread that you can find here: where-do-i-go-from-here-vt72530.html.

I figure until people start adopting this as a matter of course we should just keep pounding it in their heads.

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I agree with KristalNachte - you might as well put that into a PDF and charge people to download it, as it's as useful as everything else for sale online.

"DOWNLOAD THIS TO LEARN THE SECRETS OF BEDDING GORGEOUS WOMEN"

Secret 1: Be confident

Secret 2: Be manly

Bam.

The key to women is to be [paraphrase] attractive. [/paraphrase]

Think about this, apart from stroking your ego, how does this help ANYONE, who is trying to learn game.

Edit: Fun is irrelevant from what I have experienced. Better to be and act sexy. Which is it's own KIND of fun at times, but it's very different to just being the "fun and confident guy".

HAHAHA

All I have to say is. . . .yes it is true that you can find this anywhere and it has been said a million times. . . But I think its good to have it brought up every once in awhile because I dont know about everyone else in this forum but I dont go searching through all the posts of the past I usually just look at the new threads or something that specifically caters to my question.

I appreciate the same thoughts coming from different people it usually has a little something underlying that sticks unless its just a copy paste i have already read. . . i find high value in it. Just as AFC Royal said about becoming the fun, confident, leader. . . . .you have to be repetitive in the process. . . . to actually convince people to go about this. . . . .what has been said but be repeated or "pounded" into your head as well. To get the ball rolling.

So much thanks for posting and keep doing what you do.

*I agree with the post to such a large extent. . . I just seem to be in a situation I wasnt always in where it seems like pursuing this frame is nearly impossible

See I used to have a lot of fun and have done a lot of stuff, from snorkeling, scuba diving, sky diving, elephant riding, rafting, wake boarding, skiing, etc.

See I have done many things that follow the code of fun, but in the recent years it has been pretty bland, go to say that I havent done anything, except maybe going clubing.

I am on a very low budget, live at home with my mom and bro, dont have a car use my bros everyonce in awhile, dont have a social circle, dont have a clue on how to make one, and live in a city where there is not much to do. We have a community pool, which is filled with children, we have a river, that well would be awkward to go to alone, we have bars- that are filled with elders and bikers throughout the week until the weekend, we have a mall that is always dead, we have a skatepark-that sucks according to the community-plus i cant skate. and yea thats it. I basically would consider my city like one of those gated communities. . . except its not gated at all LOL.

Anyway, any tips on how to build a social circle, I can easily meet people and get phone numbers, its the building attraction and value at the time of meeting them that I question and the follow up. . . no clue what to do or say.

Also any tips on how to maybe have some creative fun and break out of this banal routine?

I know I am asking for alot but it is much appreciated!

@Fin: I tried to make my second post the more "practical" one that helps people more with game. If you want me to expand on that, I can. Also, being sexy is important, but with social circle game(which is more what I guess this post is about) I find it more useful to be fun, simply because girls who find me sexy are less willing to introduce me to their hot friends. If I'm fun, they want to share the fun with friends, and then I can seduce their hot friends. Though you make an excellent point.

@topknotchmc: Generally I have a bunch of ideas that I keep in my head that I can do for dates/fun outings. When I first meet people, I try and connect with something that they like to do, and then I usually have an idea that relates to them. Ex. They love soccer, so I arrange a pickup soccer game. If you talk about what you love with passion and confidence that people will have fun, they will be excited and will join in.

As for date ideas, this thread is gold:1-vt33822.html?postdays=0&postorder=asc ... te&start=0

For just fun ideas for stuff you can do with a bunch of people, pickup games of soccer, ultimate frisbee, and basketball are all fun and low budget. Either that, or try and find somewhere for a bonfire. If you can get everyone to pitch in, you can really cut down personal costs. Hope these help!

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