| Hi everyone,
I am relatively new to the game (about 6 months) and while I have read many books and articles, watched vids as well as gone out and used some of the methods with good results, i am having a seriously hard time incorporating methods because they are so conflicting.
I was a serious AFC before and therefore need a lot of work to bring out my best self (personality and identity).
Here are some conflicting advice:
Be mean, be nice, be both- mean and nice.
Never compliment until you're in a relationship, should compliment because it makes a girl feel good about herself.
Never give advice or listen to a girls problems because it's AFC behavior, give advice and always encourage her to bring out the best in her.
(ie. if she likes to draw but hasn’t in a long time, encourage her and make her feel good about her talent).
If a girl shit tests you- give her attitude back, if she shit tests you- react calmly, if she shit tests you- ignore it and change the subject.
If she is upset- act like you don care, if she is upset- be there for her, if she is upset- be calm and validate her feelings.
Neg girls and tease them, don’t neg girls
Be assertive and don't be shy or afraid to ask for what you want, be a little shy and mysterious
Never pay unless it's been a while, it's ok to pay.
As you can see, all of this information is hard to take. I know it takes practice but i also noticed that girls tend to respond to different things. For example, some girls like it when you're mean. Some like it when you're nice etc... So how do you work around being a stable person yet being able to attract a lot of girls?
Cheers!
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CHAT
