“Let us not forget that the greatest composers were also the greatest thieves. They stole from everyone and everywhere.” -Pablo Casals


This quote applies to anyone and everyone who is great at what they do because they learned to be great, from the great, through PRACTICE.

Remember, NO human is born a master at any subject. Instead, we come as uneducated, inexperienced, and very curious infants, and through experiencing life by being influenced by everyone and everything around us, we develop our own perception of what’s important in life as well as what we can, can’t, and shouldn’t do, given our “assumed” resources and abilities, we limit ourselves without even knowing it as we "distort" our perception.

If we allow ourselves to completely admit that we know absolutely nothing about a particular subject and go back into infant mode and relearn how we should; think, feel, and act so that we could do it the right way without any interference from our current way of thinking, we can be as efficient as anyone else in any subject as we ALL have a brain that we can program and format with the appropriate management. Remember, you didn’t act the way you do now when you were 2 months old, as your brain was still fresh so that you could observe more developed behavior through other human beings and learn and through years of practice you EVOLVED into your “now” self and may need to clean up some clutter on your hard drive, delete some irrelevant files, fine-tune some things, or may need a complete re-format and just start all over. You now have access to all the resources you need to accurately learn and master anything that you weren’t able to do when growing up . If we did have access to what we have now then infants would have the capacity to report the nightly news as they would have immediate understanding and/or the ability to obtain the information which would allow them to do so, and I have yet to see a toddler on television recommending whether or not I should wear a rain coat the following day.

All that you need to do now, is decide what about yourself you’d like to develop and to what degree.

For some of the more experienced guys,

Please share your recommended Infrastructure to help these newbies see the overall picture on where to start and explain what they should get out of it. Sort of a "to do list" if you will.

Your guidance is welcomed


(Example)

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(What) Learn how to be comfortable with yourself.
(Why) Before you can practice being comfortable with others you have to know how to be comfortable in your own skin.
(How) By reading specific topic which can be found in specific location.

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Now everybody started out fresh at one point, so kick some of your best knowledge on how rookies should efficiently obtain their knowledge so they don't get lost in the mix and help instruct the next generation of PUA's.

To the person who took the poll and said it's been over 1 year and he's still having trouble what do you believe is holding you back? IM me if you’d like.

I myself has always been comfortable around women. And have dated a whole bunch now. And this is not because I want to sound like a smart ass. Much of this has to do with how I was raised. And what i have experienced through my life until now. Besides that I really enjoy being this forum. Because it gives one the chance of exploring other PUA approaches to the game. And there are a lot of good people here to talk with

One of the best things to built confidence is to smile to women. Where ever you meet them. May it be on the street or in the club. First of all you will start to get smiles back. And this will make you more confident. And second you will seem more confident when you are sending out smiles.

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For me it was around a year.

I read a lot of stuff and was able to act confident for the first few months but I was never comfortable with myself.

I lost fat and gained muscle (massive ego boost), got a good hairdresser and bought nice well fitting clothes. This 100% improved me as a person and how I get on with women. I'm relaxed in most situations and feel confident in myself (most of the time).

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'You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khakis. You're the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world.'

Good for you mate, happy to hear that!

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Reckless Casanova blog http://recklesscasanova.blogspot.com/