The tongue and cheeck romance where Gambler was talking about is indeed a pickup tool which can be realy powerful. And yet, I don't know if I would call it giving IOI to a girl.
About giving her IOIs, I think you mistake it by Qualify Her. This is what seductionbase says:
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Why to Qualify her:
The a3 phase of qualifying is basically substantiation as to why you are attracted to her...OTHER THAN HER LOOKS....you must find something about her that you are into and give HER IOI's.
The reason for this is not for you...we know you want her and we know why!!!!!!!
But she doesnt....and she DOESN"T want to feel like she is only wanted for her looks she wants to feel like she is investing in the relationship....if you give her IOI's too easy...she will think your easy and she loses attraction for your....but dont be too hard...or she will think your not attracted to her at all and she will again lose interest.
And this is HOW to qualify her:
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I have the reputation of hooking up with chicks , all the time( some ppl who are virgins in my class, literally HATE me, although they never show it).
So i pued this chick once, and she is associated her one of the virgins i'm talking with. immediate, DLV. the virgin chick told her all sorts of BS( me being a player ) and killed all my social proof.SO that hb flaked on me a couple of times, and she got a job as a nurse! Last time i talked to her over the phone, she was unsure whether she wanted to meet me, and never wanted to go out with me for lunch.
Now I followed Mystery's bait , hook, reel, release, to regenerate attraction and called the same girl after two weeks. fluff talk, etc etc....then i thought..wtf..do it..i never try to re hook up but i'm bored today , so fuck it..i'll try getting her to come for lunch.
the BAIT: me: "so hb, you are a nurse, is it..is that what you wanted to be.."(get her to tell you some of her hobby or where she works.something you got 'impressed' with) HOOk: she immediately acknowledged and told me how MUCH she loves nursing and how she used to be judgemental before she was a nurse and how she is NOT judgemental ..etc..
REEL: ME:"..that is simply awesome. i like nurses . they are genuinely good ppl, and very good natured. They have qualities like kindness and forgiveness, etc...and they dress 'sexy"( i dont give a shit in real life)
RELEASE: ME:"you know, I know you make a wonderful nurse, but in my case, it NEVER WORKS with nurses! they are wonderful people but i have this strange feeling that nurses could become overnice , and lose thrill in life. you will change alot, i know. I think i'll have to stop talking to you for a while." OMG. this made her qualify herself like crazy. as a result: she is taking me to the MOST expensive restaurant for lunch and she is paying for EVERYTHING(i usually get chicks to pay, just for fun..and they LOVE it).. i told her that i will sms her to remind her and she asked me to do that and also 'she CANNOT forget'.
Credit to PlayboyNZ
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In it's most distiled interpretation it is getting her to earn you, she is literally meeting your "qualification" for women, thus qualifying.
Phrases like, "Don't take me for a fool, you're sex appel means nothing, beautyis common, what else do you have?" and "Stop. Wait, before I even say another word to you, this conversation can't go on, prove to me that you're not boring, I don't have time for boring people, tell me something you've done or give me something cool, show me your not boring."
Make women qualify themselves, both of those are very blatant, she is literally going to list qualifications, there are other ways of doing this but makingher earn you is the quintessence, the nucleus if you will, of the concept.
Credit to Vincent Chase
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1. "What's the most exciting thing you've ever done?"
2. "What are your talents/specialties/what makes you unique?"
3. "If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?"
4. "If there is one thing that you could do for the rest of yor life, what would it be?"
5. "What's something wierd about you?" (They tend to not answer this one as much)
6. "What do you do for fun, (besides school/work)?"
7. "What's a significant event in your life?"
Credit to cummingpowdera
In this example, he uses a lot of push and pulls. The trick behind this is that you IOI her, and then dump (show disinterest) her, IOI her, dump her, reel, and release. You figurely pull her to you, and then you push her away. In this, you can hide compliments, and you will make her mind go crazy.
You see? It's all playfully done!