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PostPosted: Thu Jul 29, 2010 1:23 pm 
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Let us say you are chatting to someone for the first time on facebook.

What kind of first impression should we try to create?

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What first impression do you want to create?







The type of impression I tend to leave is Cheeky/Charming/Flirty/Playful.


Bring good emotions/feelings to their life. If you fail to do this, they'll have no reason to keep you around.

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What first impression do you want to create?







The type of impression I tend to leave is Cheeky/Charming/Flirty/Playful.


Bring good emotions/feelings to their life. If you fail to do this, they'll have no reason to keep you around.
Well said mate, stand out basically, everything stated there!

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um, doens't matter what you try to make, cause contacting random girls on facebook gives off "creeper"

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um, doens't matter what you try to make, cause contacting random girls on facebook gives off "creeper"
Unless the girl wants to be hits on and purposely made their fb profile that way.

This is a good point however. How do I get across as less creepy if I am hitting on a random girl who may or may not want to be hit on?

I was thinking maybe I can say "Hey, I noticed "something about your profile, and I can't help but ask you about it because ... blab blab" but I'm not too sure if this is the right or best approach.

What else can I do to make my approach less creepy?

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What first impression do you want to create?







The type of impression I tend to leave is Cheeky/Charming/Flirty/Playful.


Bring good emotions/feelings to their life. If you fail to do this, they'll have no reason to keep you around.
Hey Finesse,

I want to bring her good emotions so that I can ask her out.

So I tried it and this is how it went:

Me: Do you still remember the time when the wind was not blowing and all you can only hear was the whistling of the leaves. Yes, a person can remember those days too. What about the water on the shore?

Her: how about you move on with your life?

in fact, i will be bringing the girl, holding her hands while walking down the stairs to the beach, hugging her tightly while smelling her hair, watching the sun go down while kissing her softly.

yes, i will definitely remember that.

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NOTE: (she's bi).

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Hey Finesse,

I want to bring her good emotions so that I can ask her out.

So I tried it and this is how it went:

Me: Do you still remember the time when the wind was not blowing and all you can only hear was the whistling of the leaves. Yes, a person can remember those days too. What about the water on the shore?

Her: how about you move on with your life?

in fact, i will be bringing the girl, holding her hands while walking down the stairs to the beach, hugging her tightly while smelling her hair, watching the sun go down while kissing her softly.

yes, i will definitely remember that.

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I have no clue what this shit is. Lol...

Did she tell you to move on with your life?

When I said bring good emotions to her life. I meant by being you. Reminiscing is all good, but what I said goes far beyond that.

You want her to associate having a good time, feeling happy, feeling sexy, etc, you want her to associate that with you. You do this through your character. If you rely on stuff like that, you'll end up sounding like a bit of a fag. It has its time and place, but still.

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um, doens't matter what you try to make, cause contacting random girls on facebook gives off "creeper"
Unless the girl wants to be hits on and purposely made their fb profile that way.

This is a good point however. How do I get across as less creepy if I am hitting on a random girl who may or may not want to be hit on?

I was thinking maybe I can say "Hey, I noticed "something about your profile, and I can't help but ask you about it because ... blab blab" but I'm not too sure if this is the right or best approach.

What else can I do to make my approach less creepy?

Ehhhhhhh. If you gonna hit up girls on facebook in this manner. You have to REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY go in under the radar, and I mean reallly genuinely 100%ly seem like you have NO interest in her. Else it seems like 'heh, I fancy you, but scared to say so, oh hey, I notice you like horses...'


I find it's always best to go a bit semi-direct. Or full on direct. Have a slightly ambiguous interest in her. It's gotta have some certainty to it though and no doubt. Gotta go in.

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Hey Finesse,

I want to bring her good emotions so that I can ask her out.

So I tried it and this is how it went:

Me: Do you still remember the time when the wind was not blowing and all you can only hear was the whistling of the leaves. Yes, a person can remember those days too. What about the water on the shore?

Her: how about you move on with your life?

in fact, i will be bringing the girl, holding her hands while walking down the stairs to the beach, hugging her tightly while smelling her hair, watching the sun go down while kissing her softly.

yes, i will definitely remember that.

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NOTE: (she's bi).




I have no clue what this shit is. Lol...

Did she tell you to move on with your life?

When I said bring good emotions to her life. I meant by being you. Reminiscing is all good, but what I said goes far beyond that.

You want her to associate having a good time, feeling happy, feeling sexy, etc, you want her to associate that with you. You do this through your character. If you rely on stuff like that, you'll end up sounding like a bit of a fag. It has its time and place, but still.
It's a conversation I started with this girl who I had a previous connection with. It's the same girl I've been talking about on some of my other threads.

Basically, I finally decided to talk to her directly and that the conversation that was started above.

Yes, she told me to move on to with my life, but I think she's just playing the "Power card." She's trying to make it seem like I am chasing her, but when really she has the same feelings for me. Actually, I don't really know what to make of that. Girls are so hard to understand.

But right now my goal is just to gear the conversation in a direction that turns her on and that she will indicate she wants to see me. and I am planning of giving her the following reply: [me and her are chatting through a facebook]

While at it, you and her can go for a swim in the water, look for crabs, and grab them. Then after, you and her can start a fire on the beach, feel the temperature going up, warming your cool bodies, hot against the cold, then fry the hell of the crabs. 1, 2, 3 slowly devouring each one .
Just do me a favor ok? When I come with my girl, don’t leave a trail of its cooked shells on the beach, and make us wonder what the hell happened to them.

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NOTE: the crab were reference to the last time me and her were at the beach and we noticed some crabs shell there and joked about what happened to them. and i'm planning to add humor with this.

With this reply, I hope to accomplish the following:
1) getting her turn on and looking forward to having sex with me

And I try to use "imageries" "sexual words like "grab" " . Any help would be appreciated for this as well.

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Me: Do you still remember the time when the wind was not blowing and all you can only hear was the whistling of the leaves. Yes, a person can remember those days too. What about the water on the shore?

Her: how about you move on with your life?
Whoa whoa whoa... Lol... This screams IOD holy shit... To me, that reads just short of "fuck off".

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Me: Do you still remember the time when the wind was not blowing and all you can only hear was the whistling of the leaves. Yes, a person can remember those days too. What about the water on the shore?

Her: how about you move on with your life?
Whoa whoa whoa... Lol... This screams IOD holy shit... To me, that reads just short of "fuck off".
I know exactly what you mean, but I'm not really talking about PU's but relationships.

I really don't know why girl will say this kind of stuff when she clearly shows me that she is interested. [It's for a fact]

So perhaps this might make some sense?
-we found out that we both like each other and that we have been this entire time.
-I started doubting whether I was dreaming or not so i hesitated on "asking her out".
-she waits for me.
-1 week passes.
- i decide to talk to her, and the above conversation was enveloped.

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Me: Do you still remember the time when the wind was not blowing and all you can only hear was the whistling of the leaves. Yes, a person can remember those days too. What about the water on the shore?

Her: how about you move on with your life?
Whoa whoa whoa... Lol... This screams IOD holy shit... To me, that reads just short of "fuck off".
I know exactly what you mean, but I'm not really talking about PU's but relationships.

I really don't know why girl will say this kind of stuff when she clearly shows me that she is interested. [It's for a fact]

So perhaps this might make some sense?
-we found out that we both like each other and that we have been this entire time.
-I started doubting whether I was dreaming or not so i hesitated on "asking her out".
-she waits for me.
-1 week passes.
- i decide to talk to her, and the above conversation was enveloped.

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Rofl, bro. I've not really noticed any 'sexual-ness' or stuff that would turn a girl on yet.



Maybe I'm viewing this through my own filter, and seeing as lately I have become very full on, and mega explicit with the shit I say to girls, it's no wonder that most stuff will appear tame in comparison.



Can I recommend reading Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. It's about how to become great at sex, but I find you can apply the things you learn in it to stuff that is 'outside of the bedroom' too.


You need to stop putting her in a 'scene' with someone else, it needs to be you in that scene in her mind. Not some other girl/guy/whatever.

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Rofl, bro. I've not really noticed any 'sexual-ness' or stuff that would turn a girl on yet.



Maybe I'm viewing this through my own filter, and seeing as lately I have become very full on, and mega explicit with the shit I say to girls, it's no wonder that most stuff will appear tame in comparison.



Can I recommend reading Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. It's about how to become great at sex, but I find you can apply the things you learn in it to stuff that is 'outside of the bedroom' too.


You need to stop putting her in a 'scene' with someone else, it needs to be you in that scene in her mind. Not some other girl/guy/whatever.
Gotcha ! Thanks a lot ! Downloading the PDF file right now. http://www.filestube.com/10121bf5517b09 ... ethod.html

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