So, about two years ago I became friends with this girl. I asked her out, she said no and I pretty much moved on, but we stayed friends. Really close, good friends.

Over these two years I changed a great deal. I lost a bunch of weight, my personality changed greatly, and I found pickup.

Me and this girl started spending alot more time together and I started liking her again. Armed with pickup skills I decided to go for her.

We flirted with eachother alot, held hands, I put my hand on her leg a couple times, a bunch of kino shit. We really connected, better than I've connected with anyone before. During all this I saw some posts on her myspace about changing her perspective on some things and about how confused she was.

One day I felt the time was right and I went in for the kiss. I got rejected.
After that she stopped being so flirty and nice with me.

Eventually we got to talking about it and she said that she wants to just stay friends because 1. she doesn't want to lose me and 2. she doesn't want to get hurt.

It's been about a month. We talk occasionally, but havn't seen eachother since I tried to kiss her.

I really think there is something here, and I'd really like to be with this girl, but I have absolutely no idea where to go from here. So, I'm asking for any kind of advice that will result in her changing her mind again.

Try to call her and talk to her directly. I mean her reasons for not wanting more are totally against what she is doing now. You can try first explaining this to her:

1. She is already loosing you by not staying in touch.
2. She must be feeling hurt by not being friends anymore.

If you want to stay friends you can say something like "I respect your reasons and if your happy with us not being together then we can stay friends." She will hopefully then know that you wont make any further moves.

If you really want to turn into dating you could say something like "I understand what your meaning by this and I have thought of those things too. Its just that I feel happy when around you and have got a good connection with each other that can turn into something more. I prefer seeing someone who I already know well and know that I get on with."

I dunno something liek that I would say but i mean it depends on what you want and what you would be happy with. Let me know how it goes

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I have taken more out of alcohol than alcohol has taken out of me. ~Winston Churchill

getting real close with a girl and NOT ending up scoring her is torture.
my best 'girlfriend' was my true love for the first 2 years i knew her. No one could get me over her and i was so madly in love with her and was just building more friendship with her. After finally getting out there and meeting other girls she has now just become my friend and everyday i find more and more things unattractive about her that i was in love with before. She's actually fcking hot so im definetely gonna use her as a pivot and we openly talk about the game etc.

Seriously..its obvious you don't want to be friends with her and if you can't handle that its gonna be tough but move on.I do think you can give that one deep conversation a go and if something is there it will be the last time it will ever come out.Just don't try and make her like you....if i look back at all the time i did it i actually feel pathetic.Damn im glad im over that phase. But i know exactly how you feel man...its brutal. If you want progress MOVE on...if you want to be depressed and uncertain hang around her.it just manifests itself!

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Its time for a change....a huge Mother@#$@# change!

yeah, I tried having that talk, thats when she told me about the not wanting to lose me as a friend thing.

I appreciate your honesty, but I've heard the "move on" answer a hundred times, and yeah, I totally understand it, but it's not what I want.