A girl yesterday told me that she is madly attracted to musicians, however, she just likes the fantasy aspect of it and would never actually hook up with one, even saying they are not real people. I find that after I play a guitar concert, women are way too shy about talking to me and act weird. I have tried seduction by inviting every girl I meet to my concerts or else just playing where there are lots of women and I find they are attracted to me, but I'm never able to get beyond getting their phone number and they usually act avoidant after that, though most don't even approach me in the first place. To make a long story short, I'm just not getting any, period, even though girls tell me I'm physically attractive and impressive at the guitar and piano. I think its because in high school, practicing music was all I did rather then practice dating and sexual experience. So the archetype of the artist that is supposedly so successful with women is often self defeated by his own devices. I'm not sure if anyone can help me.

Maybe they see you at gigs and you're so focused on your playing that it makes them wonder could you ever be as passionate about a person to the same extent as your instrument. I have played live countless times and I find the best way to build attraction throughout a gig is is hold eye contact and smile whilst in the middle of playing. This allows you to connect more and makes the approach after the gig much easier.

Relax and smile more when a playing too. I noticed from pictures of me playing I have quite a serious face so smile and convey fun and enjoyment.