Ok, i was talking to my friend about this forum and the general community. It was all news to him and to be fair its new-ish to me.
Now he has been having a few probs with his gf. They get on fine, but that initial fire is gone and he said its like he needs to re-establish in her mind that he is that same guy she went on the first dates with.
So are there any books or internet resources covering Gaming your girlfriend?
I'm sure there are hundreds of support forums etc, but there has to be a method that is more in keeping with this scene.

how long has he been with his girlfriend and more importantly what is the problem because this sounds like it isnt a gaming problem...

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How long have they been together? It's pretty normal for the "initial fire" to go away. Actually, probably unavoidable.

There are highs and lows in a relationship, this is a low. You can try to fight it, but I think its unavoidable at some point. You can only try to fill the gap with activities, but that might just postpone it. Can't give you solid advice, once the fire was gone for me, it was over.

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I agree to some extent that all relationships have ups and downs, but this is more specific. Let me try and explain.

I have spoken to him quite a lot about this and have experienced the same thing myself. His girl friend is very sure of herself and quite feisty. Everything was good, but its in her nature to try to dominate to some degree. However now this is working i think she is losing attraction to him, and he also senses it. As i said i was in a similar siutation and from what i have read about Gaming i think that somehow learning to raise your value (without lying) in this girls eyes, and re-establishing being somehow the 'leader' would be possible using some PUA techniques.

Dude I had a problem with this.


I had to start gaming/flirting other chicks, to remind me of how I *naturally* behave. The cockiness, the playfulness, the sexualness. I had to go remind myself, and then bring it back to the relationship.

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Yeah man, I wish I did this. I was in the mentality that "I don't want to fuck this up, so its best to act AFC around this girl/people so I don't lead them on or anything". Shit seeped into my personality, I started feeling less desirable and that's when I started getting the needy feelings i.e. I can't do better than her. I'm never turning the game off ever again.

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The best PUA advice is also the best fighting advice.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ijCSu87 ... rn-1r-4-HM

Great advice guys. Restore the balance of power, by restoring the power in yourself. Like it!! Will pass it on and bear it in mind if the same happens to me.

lostsoulsclub,

It seems like your friends girlfriend started to have Affection instead of Attraction.

First, Don't be predictable.

Predictability is a sin when it becomes to creating Attraction. If a woman knows what you're going to do, you are predictable. If she has no single clue she will always be wondering.

If you want her wondering there are 2 things to do.

1. Pause before you do and say things. Think about what you'd normally do, then do something else.
2. Throw in some crazy, off-the-wall stuff.

Second, Don't be boring.

Most of time men in relationship think they are solid so they don't need to entertain anymore. What happend to the guy who was adventurous, passionate, energetic?

Decrese your boring meter.

To be less boring her some ideas.

1. Take an interesting hobby. Mountain Biking, not chemistry or Fasion, not X-box.
2. More important then what you do and talk about is HOW you do and talk about it. You feel me?

If things go worse. BE ALWAYS THE FIRST ONE TO BREAK UP! But that's another story.

Riqueza.

You want both affection and attraction.

No affection = No emotion in the relationship = shit will die fast.



The thing with relationships is you don't want to 'game' your way through the whole thing, every day, every conversation, every text. That's some bullshit right there



The biggest fuck up, of your relationship, will be your 'inner game'. Seriously, once you settle a little, this is when all sorts of insecurities, doubts, and personal issues and worries of yours come flying to the front of your thoughts. And you start to lose sight of how much she likes you. Then bammmm, the neediness, lameness, all that bullshit starts pouring out. If you're lucky/cool enough to have a REALLY good girl, one who has enough faith in you to trust this *isn't* you, you may have the chance to turn it around. If you find a girl who has that sort of faith and belief in you... HOLD ONTO HER.


Now, it helps tremendously, if you have passion for something/s in life. It helps tremendously if you can indulge yourself in things from time to time to keep yor life interesting... for YOUR SAKE. Okay, while this WILL make you more attractive to her as you have passion, direction, ladida, it also helps keep YOU interested.

I hateee the feeling of 'missing' a girl I'm close to. But it helps build up a LOT of passion/desire in you. Now, if you've been keeping yourself occupied and your insecurities at bay, when you meet her, all that strong passion will come flowing out, and will do wonders for you both.

But if you've been missing her + sitting around basking in insecurities and worry(Hence why helps to have shit to occupy yourself with), then you're likely gonna be needy as fuck.



Please let me know if this has made any sense to you(anyone) and been of help. As it's something I've been working a lot on lately.


Love

~Finesse

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Oops, I did it againnn *dances*

Keep forgetting to mention things.

And this, probably one of the most important things...

...ahem...

MAKE SURE YOUR SEX 'GAME' IS DAMN FIRE

Seriously.

Make sure your sex game is fucking insane. You need to make sure your sex is so hot that bitch drips so fucking wet. Like, I'm not even joking.

If my sex isn't like that, I feel disapointed. Girls can be hottt, and make things hot. But you can't rely always on them to do so. Also, the more hot/sexual you can make things, the more hot/sexual/smutty it lets your girl allow herself to be with you. And nothing builds her attraction/desire to you than extremely hotttttttt sex. When I say hot/good sex, I'm not even referring to 'sexual technique', you don't need much technique at all, as long as you can control the emotions/feelings so that things are very heated and very intense, you'll be having amazing sex.



My last two posts should cover mainly what you need for a GOOD relationship.


Hope it has helped.


More love

~Finesse

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Holy shit! *claps* Thanks Finesse!

Anyway, so big piece, "don't be needy".

Saying goodnight/goodmorning every day is uber needy. What if she asks why you don't?

And little things like that...

Have your friend get a hold of some of David DeAngelo's materials. They're focused on inner game and maintaining your control as a man. The Deep Inner Game seminar might be particularly useful for him, although it's quite long.

You're welcome, bro.



There's nothing really needy about saying goodnight/goodmorning eevry day. If we been talking/texting whatever. And I'm about to go to bed, or she is, then of course, exchange byebyes and thats it.

I wouldn't say go out of your way to text goodnight/morning for no reason. But theres no reason why some days when you've woke, and you want to talk to her to say 'Hey, gorgeous, how you doing today?'

It should be a balance 50/50 with who texts who first. If she expects you to be texting first all the time etc etc, she's being needy, insecure, and unrealistic. Dno't give in to it, yet don't punish her for it. Reassure her from time to time. Even a simple, 'aww, don't be silly, I just like it when you text first sometimes - i like to feel loved too you know? ' can do the trick to keep her neediness at bay.


But I wouldn't give in, I often get chicks moaning that they have to message me first, which I don't understand as I'm sure I message them first on enough occasions. I dunno. As I said keep it 50/50 or 40/60 (in your favour) and it should be fine.

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Sex is important, but don't think that being good in bed alone will keep her around. I did things my ex said no ones ever done before that got her off, moral of the story, she is my ex. I would focus more on "not settling". DO NOT GET COMPLACENT OR YOU WILL LOSE, 100% GUARANTEED.

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The best PUA advice is also the best fighting advice.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ijCSu87 ... rn-1r-4-HM