just a quick question on identity guys...

so i have what i would call a pretty good identity. im a drummer, and im actually
pursuing that dream.

now, its been said that identity is the most important part of pick up. so how do
you guys project your identity? I mean yeah i dress somewhat rockerish but
that doesnt label me as a drummer right off the bat. the only other way i
communicate it is through my identity grounding routine which doesnt come until
ive reached comfort. is it ok to wait until comfort to express identity or should
i show who i am earlier, and if so, how?

thanks

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Tape some drumsticks to your pants

Depends what style you use, personally I Do: Comfort then break rapport to create emotional attraction.

Following this your grounding story should be first to show your "Value Attraction" and build commonalities with the group or girl, after that just tease to create emotional attraction, etc.

Putting comfort up front challenges you to see if you can keep a normal, natural conversation 3-5 mins.... I hope that helps cheers

Just one day go out do ur opener, then transition into comfort by building commonalities through grounding and then break rapport with your target and see the difference...

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V3nu

Dude, if you in back of your mind wanting people to know you a drummer too much. A few things gonna happen...



- People are going to sense you're trying to impress them
- You'll be placing too much importance on your 'identity', which isn't actually who you are as such.
-If you don't get the reaction you want from people, you're going to feel shit about it

Important point: You're identity don't really mean shit.

Okay I lie, it's good for rapport reasons, and other such. But it's also got negative effects.

However... In terms of seduction, it hardly means shit. Sorry about that, bro.




I understand where you're coming from though, I was obsessed about identity at the end of last year. Proper obsessed. It's really pointless. Your unique identity will shine through once you stop worrying about that and open yourself up to express yourself freely and stop caring about what others think.





Love

~Finesse

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Have true faith in who you are and what you have to say and your identity will be shown. In all actuality that's much easier and more rewarding than trying to create a fake furry hat awkward man-child who just happens to know how to wink at a woman long enough for her to feel slightly less awkward than she did when he turned up acting like a wizard. Shocking is a fine tactic but the bullshit only lasts so long.

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"All the dragons in our lives are perhaps princesses expecting us to be handsome and brave, all the terrifying things are perhaps nothing but helpless things waiting for us to help them." Rilke

Time to show your identity is after sex. Don't really talk about it when you just met a girl you want to seduce. It's treated like show off for women. I'm telling that on my own experience.

When I was starting learning Pick Up, I had situation like I met girl on dancefloor, after 10 min of dancing I realised that she was ultimately horny to fuck me, so I isolated her to couch, and tried to have a nice conversation.
- Whats your name, how you like party, where are you from?
-blablablbalba
-What are your hobbies?
-Hm, since I was child, I was interested in medicine (First impression, WTF?!? medicine as a hobby? okay, fuck it , i want her in my bed) And what are your hobbies?
-(Then I started saying what I am good at) I'm a DJ, Flair bartender, and I can play on 7 instruments.

Just after that I saw how she started losing interest. So don't really talk about it during your first conversation with HB. I may explain how exactly thats happening later.