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that where you basically tell her how you would love her to act.
duh
Easy tigers, its not 'duh' to the OP as he doesnt know any better, clearly. But yes this is an ideal opportunity to shape and for her to comply if shes interested, or even if she just wants to play...(OP, shaping is getting her to react and behave in the way you want her to by implying that this is what you enjoy. if she is interested she complies and follows this new persona, its a form of qualifying herself to you)
Extreme and obvious example off the top of my head...
ME: you're cute too bad you're not my type
HER: what is your type?
ME: thats easy...a brilliant cook, adventurous, always positive, and naughty in a sexual sense. dont get me wrong you'll probably meet the first 3 in the list, but u seriously dont sound like the 4th at all.
HER: how do you know???

for you information i ...blahdie blah
ME: hmm....i guess you just bought another 5 min of my time then... so blah blah
very easy to get her talking sexual from here as it would be inconsistent with what shes just admitted to you ie. being NAUGHTY!