it depends do you want rid of her permenantly or not... basically do you want to remain friends or not try being honest with her
or do this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hkx1mDcvk6E

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That's kind of harsh. But thx lol.

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that's kinda harsh. but thx lol

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

seriously can i say dont be malicious about it dont do it in a way that just belittles or abuses her... dont insult her keep your intent strong but dont say anything like 'i'm braking up with you cos you're a bitch' or 'im braking up with you beacause you're a bad lay' or 'im braking up with you cos you wont put out anymore' its extremely harsh and not needed your are about to brake her heart anyway whats the point of putting salt in the wound and insulting her for caring about you..

the reason im writing this i found a video where the guy films himself braking up with his girlfriend the he calls her a controlling freak, a bitch, tells her he cheated on her, tells her shes fat and ugly, and tells her to 'fucking get over it' then when she cries down the phone he brushes her of with 'i hate you you're crazy' then to rub it in she says 'you broke my heart' to which he replies 'well you deserve it'

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I would say smothering her (needyness and clingyness) would top these (even though these in a way can translate to being insecure, but not always).

And the ULTIMATE attraction destroyer i would say is to be CREEPY! (but then you ruin your rep with her as a person).

Its been said already...just tell her youre not interested in her. It will hurt her, such is life. We all go through it at some point in our lives. Its part of growing!

The link. O wow LOL.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

Yeah, that's why I never break up with people. I always let them have the reasons to break up with me. That way, her pride will be maintain. I rather be the one getting hurt and appearing as the bad guy lol

But it's just me.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

If you are a weak person, you are pretty much devastated if someone you believe to be your all breaks you in half, maybe pieces LOL.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

If i were you I would change this very soon. Life is too short to wait around hoping that someone is going to get over you. And giving her a reason to break up with you is actually weak. Its extremely unfair on them.

Imagine some girl led you on by seeing you for months on end when she actually wanted nothing to do with you, but just didn't have the heart to ditch you. Be honest and things will always work out for the best. Its not the end of the world when you get dumped.

i think it is ok to dump someone as long as your not horrible to them when you do it. like i said previously dont call her names, insult her or mistreat her yeah she'll probably be heartbroken but making her feel like shit as well is pure unfair, the way i think about it is how would you like it if she did it to you

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Being honest means being brutal LOL. I rather leave the girl thinking "it is something wrong with him than it is something wrong with me." And it is not like i plan to ditch her from the start, otherwise I wouldn't have spent so much time on her. It is more like "something happened along the way" and that "connection" is no longer there so that is why I am leaving you kind of thing.

In terms of being unfair to the person you lead on, it is the exact reason why I want to be the one getting hurt instead of her, because if I was the one who lead her on, then i should be responsible for the consequences. Why should someone else suffer instead of me when I was the one who caused the problem?

Which is just another way of thinking it.

Then again, I agree with you. Perhaps it is best to be honest as well. Maybe things won't turn out as bad, and like Crazy said, just "be considerate" and things might turn out fine.

Thanks yo

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

I dont mean be brutal about it. Just break up with her saying that you dont see it working out or something similar. Just don't WAIT for her to break up with you, because that could take years...

Yes sir. Gotcha.

That's why I gave you +1

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

i hope in a way weve helped you out! i know this is harsh but the video i mentioned in this topic earlier heres the link i find it distasteful to watch because the girl gets really upset. this is the wrong way to do it


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3rXYE2mbB94
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qFYiEZsmmEk

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Of course. Thanks for all the help everyone !!!

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"