“Naturals” and other men who are usually successful with ladies that aren’t in the community know the secret to attracting women. Some of them know this consciously and others don’t. However they all use this secret in order to achieve success with women.

The secret to attracting women is to let the women choose you.

Most guys who are unsuccessful with women waste their time on women who do not want them. A woman will judge whether or not she wants to meet you, much less sleep with you within a few seconds to few minutes of seeing you.

Does this mean cold approaching women doesn’t work? Of course not! After all, skilled PUAs can cold approach a woman sending him no signals, but with tight game can manage to close her.

However this type of approach usually never develops into healthy and quality relationships. Here’s why...

When a man notices a woman he is thinking nowhere past the bedroom. He notices everything physically attracted to her and is only thinking about sex.

When a woman notices a man she is interested in, she starts looking at how he holds himself, how good of a father figure he might be, if he would ever cheat on her, if he’s got a “player” vibe to him, if he seems submissive through his body language, if she could introduce him to her parents eventually etc...... basically a woman is thinking beyond the bedroom.

Who should make the choice for a healthy relationship?

Now this of course doesn’t apply to one night stands. Some women may be looking for one night stands, if that is the case, all the man has to do is look good and turn her on. Otherwise, it’s not so simple.

A skilled PUA with tight game can cold approach and have sex with many women. How many of these women turn into long term relationships?

Of course, many men aren’t looking for relationships, they just want sex. If that is the case, then PUA material could definitely achieve that (good finances and body would help too). However, I believe many men sincerely want a long term relationship, even to find “the one”. If that is the case, my opinion is that men should stop cold approaching any woman, and only approach women giving him initial signals.

This may sound basic, but it’s amazing how many guys approach women who clearly through her body language does not want to be approached. When they fail, they think it’s because of their game and how they messed up a certain aspect of it. This is not always the case.

Maybe she’s on her period and isn’t feeling well, maybe she just got over a divorce, maybe she is a lesbian, it could be so many things that I don’t think men take into account.

I’ve now devoted my entire “game” specifically to women who give me strong signals from the start.

Why do I do this? To save me a lot of time, money and heartache.

If there are no women who give me these signals after awhile, I know I need to develop my inner game or outer attractiveness and lifestyle. Doing this would improve my chances of receiving signals from women to be approached.

By doing this, I’ve felt a big release on not having to game or memorize so much routines etc...in order to get a girl. I also noticed that if I only stick with women who give me IOI’s to approach her, she often accepts me for who I am and don’t even have to game her. Why? Because she choose me! She selected me.

Use proximity, eye contact, body language or anything you need to in order to screen which women if any would like to be approached by you. I believe your game will become almost effortless because she will be attracted to the real you when you aren’t using routines and other PUA material.

I believe this is truly the way to long term relationships for any guy who is interested in developing them.

Interesting Post John, Some of it I liked but some of it I don't since it is contradictory to the core values we believe in as PUA's.

What you are saying is okay I guess for good looking guys but what if you are fat bald and 5 foot 6? The number of HB giving you these "Signals" you are talking about is 0. So I wouldn't by any means suggest accepting this as a fact of life or lowering ones standards but rather work on there game and attraction techniques....the love and relationships will follow if that is the end goal.

For me prior to knowingly entering this wonderful thing we call the game I never had an issue with getting girls attracted to me to the point of wanting serious relationships once I opened them my only problem was opening and it was more of an AA thing than anything else. Just because people don't give you singles doesn't mean a damn thing, what happens if the perfect ten is walking by in the mall and she doesn't even see me?????? You bet your ass I'm going for the kill signal or not.

When opening girls there is nothing to lose so while you could maybee open 10 girls a week who gave you signals and close 9 of them you could open 50 girls in a week that didn't give you signals and close more than 30 and maybee mid to upper 40s depending on how tight your game is.

The bottom line is rejections meen nothing and there is over 3 billion girls on earth so keep plowing along.

Happy Hunting,

GuessAgain

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Sorry but I have to rip this apart.
Really? I kind find that hard to believe. As I thought it was the AFC that allow women to decide if they where going to sleep with them or go out with them.
Actually a girl will for the most part decided this within 30 seconds at most, but its mostly done within 15 seconds. This is not to say you can't change their mind. But first impressions are key.
If you look at the current trends, this is becoming less true. Less and less younger people are getting into long term relationships let alone getting married. More are going for casual relationships. By younger I mean those under the age of 30. But this holds somewhat true for those in their 30's as well.
Its a known fact that most guys can not read body language all that well. So really this isn't that surprising when you think about it.
I doubt guys really care as to why a girl doesn't want to be approach because they are going to do it anyway no matter how much of "don't approach" me body language the girl has.
Or you can approach the girl anyway. I would say a fair amount of girls actually do want to be approached, but instead give the "don't approach" me body language for various reasons. As some do it to protect them selves from the creeps that are around them at the bar/club. They may also be doing this to see what guy has the guts to approach them.
It is no doubt easier to game a girl that is throwing you IOI's and what have you than one that is not. But just because a girl choose you, does not mean you are going to choose her. For a long term relationship to work, both partners have to pick/choose each other. Yes guys do choose girls for their looks. But for a guy that is looking for a long term relationship how long do you think those looks are going to last before other things kick in, like personality, finical status, and what have you? I know for me if I find a girl's personality annoying there is no way in hell I am going to have a long term relationship with her, I don't care how dam hot she is. I am going to have to put up with her in the long run. Which means I want a personality I am attracted to and like.
You on the right path, but you are forgetting loads of other things for a long term relationship to form.

This guy is clearly a troll. He has posted the same thing in several forums. Actually, probably a she.