So I went out 2 nights ago and opened a 2 set, a HB8 and her mate (not particularly hot). I bust their balls for a couple of hours and we're having such fun that it's 1am before we leave (and they're saying what a great night they've had) and we are the very last to leave the place! I get both numbers and the less attractive one asks me to meet them next week to make up their quiz team! The hot one enters her digits in my phone and uses it to ring her phone "to check I got my number right".

Later, I text them both a really cool joke that was relevant to earlier conversation and both dig it, texting me back straight away. The hot one had said she loved David Beckham, so the following afternoon, I text her some really funny Beckham jokes. She takes 90 minutes to respond, but the response is positve. We've exchanged a couple of messages since, but she is like clockwork, taking about 90 mins to respond, then positively. I am going on holiday / vacation tomorrow for a week (and she knows this), and she has texted that she will see me when I return and we do the quiz (but the friend will be there, who I think digs me!)

Question is - is it DHV that she takes so long to respond, or could it be a polite brush-off, and where to go from here? Ideas guys? Cheers!

I don't think there's any way to know. She could just be taking that long to think of her own witty response. She could be purposefully waiting to make you wonder. She could just not be a big texter, or she could just not have her phone right with her all the time. She could be a huge texter, but she's texting so many guys she can only get to each guy every 90 minutes.

I don't think it's a brush off though. If you want to brush someone off through text, you just don't reply at all. It's soooooo easy compared to an actual phone call.

shes probably just trying to make you wonder as onoma said. give her a call next time.

yeah, pretty much everybody's been through this and it's real annoying, especially when you are talking to a girl that you feel you have a good connection with or are interested in getting to know better. i'm actually going through this right now myself with one of the girls i'm talking to. i'm afraid that there's not a lot you can do but be patient.

here are some rules i like to follow in this situation: first, i like to take at least as long to respond as she is taking to respond to me. most guys on this site do that anyway, it's pretty standard i think. i just wanted to mention it in case you hadn't given it any thought.

second, be interesting and amusing. this is another one of those things that kinda goes without saying. you dont wanna be texting "hey what's up?" just to wait an hour to hear "nm. u?" the more she's enjoying the conversation, the more she's gonna want to respond. the better you get, the faster she'll respond.

lastly, don't respond to blow off texts like "lol" and "lmao". if a girl isn't willing to further the discussion, don't continue talking to her. there's nothing lamer than coming across as tries-way-too-hard-to-make-her-laugh guy aka dancing monkey boy. there are definitely exceptions to this rule, and you can let one or maybe two slide, but if you're constantly plowing them with funny texts and they're just responding with empty comments, you need stop the discussion until the next time.

also, onoma's post was good and i agree with everything he said.

She could either be trying to DHV herself because your already thinking why is she taking long to reply, also remember not everyone sits by their phone all the time, some people don't even check it.

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Thanks guys - looks like from what you all say that I'm pretty much on the money. We've arranged to meet when I get back next Monday - then I need to get her out one-to-one. Cheers!

I think that we all unerestimate women sometimes, they worry as much as men often a whole hell of a lot more. What I've often found to be true is women that often take a long time to respond have been burned and are trying (just like men) not to come off as too needy. No one likes the girl sitting waiting for you to text her so she can respond in a cliche sort of way. Just because they can get laid walking down the street doesn't mean girls know how to seem interesting, witty, or mysterious anymore than you do. Just something to contemplate.

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The longer a woman takes to text back, the less interest there is. it's the inverse relation law.

ok, there might be a one off where she was in the pool when you texted, but if it becomes a habit, she's controlling the frame.

there's also a good chance she's winging for her less attractive friend, trying to get you there, because she thinks you'll be "cute" together.

sending lots of jokes screams trying to impress... she's smelt it.

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I call bullshit.

Why do i call bullshit, because i end up texting girls where the response time is 24 hrs.
She just didn't have the texting preference. Everybody has a preference, some like to call some like to text. For myself i can do both.

Texting has a major disadvantage your always up to her point of returning a text. If she doesn't life is still good, same goes for if she doesn't want to have contact with you.

-- WS

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OK Wesley, but did you f-close the girl with the 24 hr response time?

She was a 'hired gun' to talk in your lovely pickup terms. That was the reason for her slow replies.

Since it's not about me, and your asking help here's my advice.

My best advice would be call her and find out why she's taking so long (do this in a nice convo)... show the impression that it isn't important to you. You only want to have fun with her.

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i see your bullshit and call bullshit as well.

if they have a consistent 24 hours turn around time with texting, they CANNOT be too interested, or they live in a strange area where they only get 5 minutes of reception a day...

If there is something you WANT. something your ATTRACTED TO, you don't jeapordise that waiting 24 hours to reply.

would you wait 24 hours to return a phone call about a car you wanted to buy, or a job you really wanted? nope.

if they have a call preference, and are into you, they will CALL you to reply to your text.

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For girls, i wait 24 hrs. Sometimes less, sometimes more. I remain unpredictable this is what they like. They know what they sign up for.

Not a stick which is boring and is so waiting on her text.

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wesley is right the time frame isn't whats important. Son't rush, enjoy the flirting, sometimes girls just take longer to reply. If she didn't want to talk to you its rather simple she would simply not reply. Just be yourself thats whats going to attract in the long run. Time is just a frame of mind.