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Think it's all great so far, though I dispute 8.
I like Jugglers thumb rule for opening conversations. Generally speaking at the start you should always assume that you have to connect the dots first.
I call it the jamming phase, Being apporached can be a bit of an out of the bue big deal to some people, so it's important to buy them some time even if it's just the first 20 seconds or so for them to get emotionaly comfortable and on board with you.
It may pay to invest a little in the beginning and do what you can to maintain contact initially without giving any time for her to think "oh shit, he's hot, I'm not in the right state, I gotta go".
Kind of AA for girls getting apporached.
That's an interesting and true point. On paper, I agree with what you said.
In practice, I have found that this no. 8 method seems to work really well - even if it appears to defy the logic above.
I actually first learnt this technique in a really impromptu manner over a year ago - I was street sarging at around 10pm with a wing of mine, and he opened this girl though just naturally or accidentally took a few steps back. The girl actually came towards him, and I could clearly see that this increased her investment and therefore receptiveness and attraction to him (mostly subconscious, probably). I was absolutely gobsmacked at what a genius idea it was at the time, and having tested it out on numerous occasions afterwards, it works really well - when it does work. Of course there are occasions when the girl won't follow you that little bit. But you have to judge it/calibrate it like all things.
I personally would say that the things you said above, Fin, are absolutely correct, though do not necessarily refute this technique. For instance, you could balance out the fact that you are making her come to you by being verbally or otherwise non-verbally investing.
Still, the direct opposite of this technique is to keep walking towards her - something I would not advocate, even if it is following Juggler's rule of thumb (I love his stuff).
Even so, it's important that we fully are thinking in the same way with regards to what the technique actually is. Since there is interest, I'll briefly clarify it -
you don't just take a few steps back after opening her. You open, wait for her to turn to you or come in a bit, THEN move back a LITTLE. I might have been a bit misleading when I said 'a few steps'. You only want/need for her to physically come towards you a little. It's important to do it in this order as you are putting her on a subconscious, non-verbal command train; first she gives you her attention, THEN she moves towards you. Not the other way.
The other thing that made me particularly agree with what you said, is, the day before yesterday I was in town during the day and this girl (quite good looking) from about 10 meters away came jogging directly up to me (bear in mind this is in a busy crowd, so people are watching) in a hurried manner clearly wanting my attention.
As I said, I would have probably banged this girl if I approached her, but given that she approached me in such an abrupt manner, it didn't make me feel that comfortable and I actually felt like I got ASD! Anyway, turns out she was some charity-promoting woman.
One final dimension - because I think you can handle this, Fin. I actually view all pickup in terms of the flow of energy. Now, Juggler's rule here, as you say, means you should 'connect the dots' first.
I ask you, what are you trying to achieve here? Well, you are trying to achieve the connection of dots. Now, what if she connected the dots for you? This still achieves the same end goal, the same outcome as Juggler's rule. So by getting her to invest by moving towards you, i.e. connecting the dots, you are actually working in harmony with Juggler's rule. Only the frame is more favourable to you.
In summary: I agree with you - I think both what you said and this technique can work in conjunction with each other. This is probably a more advanced technique, and relatively minor in the grand scheme of things, though hey, we want to increase our percentages, right?

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