Hi there...

I really need your help!

I've been a here regularly, reading some topics and trying to learn from it and I just want to say thanks for the help Sometimes it has worked and sometimes it hasn't.

Now to my "problem".
I live in Europe and am the head bouncer at a really popular night club here(and only 21 years old). Almost all of the artists, DJ's, bands and the rest of the performers bring their own cashiers (It costs in when there is a big name playing). Almost every single time they bring some hot 18 year olds to take the money from people but last night it was different. This DJ brought a girl that I think I'm in love with. As the head bouncer/doorkeeper I went over some rules and stuff with her an hour before we opened and after that we started talking...

We talked about a lot of things, although she mostly spoke the whole time, and I realized that this 22 year old beauty was the perfect woman. She's hot(she has a half latino look and half scandinavian look, because she is both), smart and we have a lot of things in common plus she has an dual citizenship and has citizenship in both my country and the US(which I love and want to live in when I get older).

I almost couldn't do my job because I was either talking to her or looking at her. But when I was doing my job I sometimes caught her looking at me and when I looked at her back she turned her head the other way.

We had a great time there and when there was about an hour left I asked her what her name was, she told me, asked me what mine was and she told me to add her on Facebook.

I didn't see her more the rest of the evening.

I haven't added her on Facebook yet and am wondering what I should do now... What are my next moves?

She doesn't live in the same town as I do and there is about an hour and a half between us...

Should I add her on Facebook and start talking to her or should I wait and let her add me (play hard to get because she asked me to add her)? I know a few people that live in that town she lives in, should I maybe go there sometimes with my friends and accidentally bump in to her if she is partying there?

Please tell me what my possibilities are because I think this is THE girl I want to end up with.

Sincerely,
One in trouble..

Dude,

I read you post and think that you are in the same boat as alot of guys...you are afraid to claim what is rightly yours! you fancied the girl..you spoke to the girl..you noticed ioa's then you made tracks for future relations so WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?? if she knocks back your friend request then you should move on but by the sound of the story she won't...there's only one way to find out..good luck mate!

Dude,you're already making future plans with this girl who you havent even spoken to.

Yall did have chat but she did most of the talking you said.

So where the hell is her attraction for you?

Wht did you do to attract this girl?Nothing;I doubt that she's attracted.

She's just being polite or just a chatter-box;I wouldnt call it an IOI by her blabbing to you.

In fact,you should've been the 1 doing most of the talking and leading.

Wht the hell are you talking about"the erfect woman"?!

You dont know this chicc!

For all you know,she could be a psycho.

So I dont see what made you pre-judge her as "the perfect woman".

If you present her with that mind set,or flat out tell her that you see her as your perfect woman,she would run from you so fast(metaphorically or physically-lol)...

She doesnt deserve to be idolized.You dont know her.

I cant believe no other posters on the foum gave you a verbal-beat down yet.

Shuggs,Im disappointed that you're giving Think Im In Love false hope.

Now,Facebook.You cannot play hard-to-get with someone who isnt sufficiently attracted to you.

You'd be waiting ages before she adds you on facebook.

You hadnt done anything to attact this girl-that's my point.

She has no stimulus to want to kep in touch.

So with that being said,you should be the 1 to add her on fb.

One can only play hard-to-get when the other is attracted.

She can play hard to get with you because you're aleady 'in love' with this stranger.

Lastly,get your stuff together when it comes to outlook.

You see one hot girl and you're all 'in love'.

Shuggs did make some valuable points and those are about going for what you want,and claiming whats yours.

But you're not in that position because you dont have the girl so you cannot claim her.

Work on your attraction.

You hadnt mentioned anything about your chat,so for all we know,yall spoke about teddy bears.

Any DHV stories,any stories at all,any routines,any negs,any push-pull,any KINO...I think the answer is NO to all those things.

And you expect the girl to be attracted(lol)?

Yes,there are non-verbal cues & body language that you can attract the girl with.

But from the way you're proclaiming this chicc to be 'the one',I doubt that you have alpha-body language.

So,add her on fb and try to play it right from there.

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good luck mate!

bump

Damn man I know that feeling all to well and I gotta tell you...it's bad but good.
Hear me out, you just met this girl and you already think she's perfect. Well look at it again and you'll realise she's not perfect, she's human. I'm sure you can grasp that man.
It's really dangerous to think a girl is perfect. Then she has all control over you and your feelings. She can push you away and make you want her more. She can make you chase her. That isn't good. You gotta flip it. How does that feel? It'll be tough but you're a good guy I'm sure you can.
Live in the now bro. She asked you to look her up on facebook. I'd say it's ok to add her but you gotta up your game. Allow her to become attracted to you. I'd say use facebook only to get her to go somewhere fun that you want to check out. Let her know you're going whether she comes or not and you're going with some friends. I'm not a fan of online game so you don't need to listen to me if that not your thoughts bro. Anyway on the 'date' do some dhv, kino, take aways, etc.
DHV with some cool stories. They don't need to be long. Short and sweet works well too. Maybe a game or challenge.
Kino light as you talk. Touch her shoulder etc. If you do any psychic games etc you can hold her hand to 'divine' the answers.
Take aways: you're still a pua and the life of the party. Go meet some people, get her laughing and say you'll be back etc. She can bring friends or you can get a friend to keep her company while you're gone. She'll be happy when you come back.
Just go with the flow bro. But make sure you break that train of thought. I wanna hear a different tune from you man. Feel like you're the alpha and if she isn't cool well you don't want to hang out with her.

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+1 on the above. Hot girls who know they are hot will shit can you in a second if you show too much interest too early. I would add her on facebook but I would wait a week or so then send her a message after about another week. Make it relevant and short. Reference a mutual friend or something and get a dialogue going. You need to build some mindshare so tell her sone DHV stories about how you almost got your nose broken when you had to haul this drunk guy out of the club. In the meantime go game some other chicks. Nohing is sexier to a woman than a man who has options. And don't build this chick up in your mind as being perfect... It is a recipe for failure.

agreed

Hey man,

I do not think you should build up a particular encounter too much. Try to play it cool and remain detached, girls have an ability to spot when a guy is too interested too early.
Sounds like you work in a place with a high traffic of hot women so try and speak to as many possible, show people that you a confident, sociable guy and do not worry about this one woman so heavily when you do not know how well.

Gus