So we live an hour apart, and met online. We decided to meet up and see how things go. On first day, we went to the hot tub, I started some kino and she said I'm already getting touchy on the first date. Later on I hold her hand as we walked out of the restaurant. After that, she wouldn't let go of my hand the whole day. I paid for dinner and asked her to pay for the movie. She started to leaning toward me when we talked and made a lot of kino with me, she put her hand in my back pocket and her head on my shoulder while we were waiting in line at starbuck.
As far as I can tell, I got her interested. Now we're down on our 2nd date this weekend, which is a trip to the beach for 2 days. But she told me "just to avoid awkward situations, im not ready for kissing and making out with anyone yet". I told her okay, no problem we can just hold hands walk a long a beach or something. She said now she feels pressure about holding my hands, and last time she was just going with the flow, and think she shouldnt have done that because it gave me mixed signals.
But in the end, she still wants to spend 2 day camping at the beach with me.
Can I get some advice on this? Should i just kiss her anyway and read her actions instead of all the bs she is saying.

Lol! no dude. she's telling you she's not ready. you might think she's playing hard to get but then again she might be telling you the truth. i think you just ''go with the flow' tell her ok i understand, im not going to pressure you into anything...never tell her ok we're gonna do this instead like when you told her 'ok we can just hold hands...' just do it dont tell her...to make it 'planned'. now if after a weeks or so if she hasnt moved in for the kiss etc you take initiative and go for it. if she rejects you then its an issue now and you gotta let her know. but give her time...dont rush it. ....thats my opinion.

The only reason she said all this stuff is because on the first date, you BOTH escalated but you didn't continue and give her a big kiss. She put it all on a silver platter for you but you take advantage; it hurt her ego a bit and what she's saying is, "Hey, hey . . . last time when I was acting ALL FLIRTY . . . it's not because I wanted to fuck you or anything like that. In fact, I don't even want to kiss. I'm no slut . . . in fact, I don't even want to hold hands!" LOL, LOL, LOL, LOL . . .

Your answer: "Yeah, let's just have fun and go with the flow . . . I'm down with that . . ."

Your actions: You don't just kiss her. You start ALL OVER AGAIN as this is your first date. You reach for her hand when you cross the road. You reach for her back as you hold the door for her. . . you walk in and your hand should STILL be on her back. . you just keep going until by the end of the date, she'll be back into that same flirty frame.

Then you kiss her.

I think she is interested in you.

BUT do you know what her last relationship was like? She could have been hurt really badly by guys in the past and doesn't want to rush things with you.

I remember when i lost my virginity to someone who I thought really cared about me and turned out he didn't, I was scarred. So much so that when I found another boy worth making my boyfriend 6 months after losing my virginity, I was petrified that this new guy would leave me as soon as I slept with him. I really liked him and didn't want that to happen - I wanted to touch him and kiss him all the time, but everytime it felt like he was getting too close to the sex, I shied away and wouldn't let him escalate any further. In the end, he waited 2 months before we finally had sex. And we then had a great relationship for a couple of years, so I got over my fear.

Anyway, that is just my story - hope it helps you out.

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Yea her last relationship was pretty bad, her ex pretty much took everything from her. So yea I can see where is she coming from with it, I don't wanna rush thing either, I dont wanna pressure her over sex either. I just thought the least we can do is kissing, that's as far as I wanna take before she's ready to take it to another level