so i was working on this girl that ended a 4yr relationship 9months ago..im pretty sure she is still hurt....we hit it off badass...but i played my cards wrong and she bounced. now she has a bf, but she keeps trying to hide him from me and denies it even though we've already established a friendship only thing. She's not all that but shes really beautiful and i wouldnt mind the sex which i havent gotten to yet. now...that i know she's got a bf i stopped talking to her could turkey and 3 days later (today) i get picmail of her (nothing dirty just normal pics). what doyou guys think? should i play mr super nice guy and try and steal her from her current bf being that she's still hurt and pretend i dont know she's got a bf and 'hit it' or just completely and go find another.....any words from experience ??? thanks

depends....how did you screw it up to begin with??

knowing she was hurt and knowing she liked me i tried to be the dominant one....but i pushed to hard. i gave her crap about too many things....she told me everything from 'we're done i want nothing to do with you' to 'i just dont give a shit about you' yet she never stopped talking. everytime we would she would text 'i hate not having you to talk to' and a week ago she got drunk and text me that she loved me. i called her out on it 2 days later (rookie mistake) and i guess she was embarrassed and she played the 'i didnt mean in in a romantic way' card....

Ask yourself what do you really want, to prove a point and get a bang out of her? If so, do what it takes, personally I'd move on to one of millions of other girls out there.

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i hate to say it you've been moved to the 'friend' zone and chances are you aint getting out of it.... especially if shes seeing someone else.

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^ Same here. If she comes to you: WIN If not, you didn't waste anymore time. She sounds hectic. Dont be a dick and dont be too nice and see what happens.

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she'd be a great bang lol.........and i dont think im in the friends zone completely. i've gotten to 3rd base with her...and everyone knows if you get pretty far with a girl you'll never be in the friends zone completely...not if you play your cards right ....

Just a little update here....she got back from her vacation and was all up on my nuts lol i knew she'd be expecting me to ask her endless questions about her vacation (which i didnt) i didnt ask a single one.....after that she text me all night, she threw in some girl lines before going to bed....to which i just replied 'nite'. Looks like a win for me. I'm just going to keep it up for a month or so...or idk...what do you guys think? slowly but surely

Keep the ball in your court, push and pull, make sure you stay in charge.

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After mentioning you got to third base with her already, that changes things a little bit... the problem though, is that she has a bf... you had a chance with her after she broke up with her previous bf... it SEEMS as though you might have a chance with her still - I just have a problem with girls that have one guy they have sex with (like her bf) then another guy on the side that she loves talking to (and flirting with)... i personally wouldn't put up with that crap... just move on. Unless she dumps her bf for u - that would be the only condition where I would keep pursuing her.

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That just summed up my situation entirely in one sentence. Its difficult tho to move on - you can have all the sex you want with all the girls you want but emotional ties are so much stronger than lustful ties with other girls (if that makes sense)

yea yea it make sense. but I think the emotional ties went right out the window after I found out she had a bf. sounds like its not possible but im pretty sure I stopped caring cold turkey, the only one that cares now is my dick lol but so far so good.

ok guys so i've been working at it and working at it.... so far idk...i think its going good. i dont remember if i had mentioned this before but she's a coworker and shes showing some of the signs that she first showed when we had our little thing...everytime i walk by she has to say hi or smile...bottom line is she talks to me EVERY time i walk by. so here are some key points that i think show signs of improvement lol

-she text late at night to tell me she couldnt sleep
-she'll walk from behind and gently scratch my back lmao
-texts after work (but keeps it short, but i stop texting after she sends 'lol')
- she asked for a hug a few days ago....but i was a dick and just waved and she smiled. today i put her to the test and i opened my arms to give her a hug and so did she....but then i just told her 'naaaa' and kept on walking lol and she made a little sad face and laughed. question: should i initiate the physical contact already? or make her wait a little bit longer?

You've joked and used some push and pull already, escalate now in a physical way!

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yea...i've been making her laugh and she already threw in some 'you always put a smile on my face' etc....good news right there. now its time to get physicallll physicallll.......lol i'll keep you guys updated.