I am considering going out on my own. Can you get any success with ladies if you are a loner? The last time i went out on my own i went up to this girl in a club and the first thing she said was "wheres your friends"? I then said "i can't find them". The club was busy so i thought id use that excuse. She didn't believe me and walked away. So can anyone here suggest what i should do next time?

I think girls tend to shy away from guys who are on their own but if i don't have someone to go out with then what choice do i have? My friends are all in serious relationships and they can only go out about once a month but i wanna go out as often as possible. i dunno if i should just go out when my friends are available or if i should bite the bullet and go out alone. What should i do?

Going out alone is much harder & does require a different approach. However, what you can get out of it will probably be life changing if you really want it to be.

You have to be aware of social proof for example i think standing around not talking to people is going to be a bad idea.

Even if you only go out for one hour hitting a couple of venues. If you do, make sure you use your social intelligence. Get straight into set &once that set blows out either leave or get straight into another.

Just break it down into small steps.
Hope this helps.

Going out alone of course is different, can be harder in most cases, but IMO you will learn the most, because you learn the hard way.

Never look bored as already stated, be friendly even with sets that aren't of interested, to look like you have social proof, have a smile on your face.

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Been there, done it, oh and still doing it!

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"im lost, like pinocchio"

Going out alone works better for me... I have better closes and I have more successes.

Thing is, I always find someone to talk to and to hang out with in the club. Plus, I can do whatever I want. There is nobody there to slow me down.

Remember, hang out with people who are at your level and you will get mutual help by social proofing. But hang out with people below your level and they will drag you down with them.

Brad Pitt wouldnt look so cool if he was hanging out with Steve Urkel...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

going alone will get you better over all. you dont have to rely on another guy to wing you, or to wing him, you dont HAVE to go for certain number sets (i dont know bout you guys but when i have a wing we tend to get picky about the sets cause we both want top women) and you have no one to drive home drunk, or you dont have to be taken care of drunk

when girls ask you that think of something else to say, off the top of my head id say "well my girls couldnt come out tonight, i either bring all my wives with me or none so tonight im just having fun meeting people, im mR.e" and out on a big smile and laugh. iv used something similar to this and girls think its funny, what it does is show that you dont give fucks, and that you have girls in your life, AND that you can joke around which changes the convo from thinking who is this guy to wow he is funny/a player. it can roll from there. iv used to many other things too, but the key is to not take there question or statement seriously other wise you do look bad, stay in the set and make a funny statement then ask them questions about what they are wearing, or even better a statement back about there friends say "yea well unlike you women im not addicted to friends and i mean really i had to the balls to come here alone so give me a little credit" iv used that too and it worked totally fine the girls gave me value for doing that, the other time they gave a flirty comment back to knock me down and i said "aw thats cute you guys are like a little gang against sexy men"

i dont use specifics all the time but i do have some tricks of the trade like this that work good




mR.e

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dont even think just do it!

Yeah, i fell into a similar situation, with most of my friends rarely going out or wanting to, so i decided to practice going out alone as well. Basically you can't act like your ashamed of it or lie about, I just say "I'm out solo tonight" and I've never found anyone judge me differently because of it. In fact it makes you more flexible and it's easier to join whatever groups or sets you end up getting along with.

I've still gotta get over my AA a little more and be less picky on who I approach. Just last night I was sitting alone at the bar with a beer and had an HB5 dancing behind me to a song I liked where I could have easily joined her and gained some social proof and maybe even had fun, but I chose to ignore her because of my own supposed standards. And because of that my night ended pretty unproductively, so I learned sometimes you gotta play with the cards your dealt rather than sit around waiting for a better hand that in my case never came, and this is especially true when going out alone. One good interaction can totally switch your night around and make you more open to future ones.

In the end though, it's good to go out on your own at least sometimes just to get comfortable in your own skin, thereby releasing you of alot of the desire to cling to your friends when your out as a group. You end up feeling more independent and your confidence increases as a result.

Thanks for the advice guys! Its made me feel a bit better knowing that im not the only one who goes out alone. I think i need to feel more comfortable going out alone because whenever im in the club i always try to blend in with other people to make it look like im not a loner but i need to think "fuck it, im here on my own and i shouldn't care what others think, they don't know me!"