Hey guys,

I’m new to the forum, so I’m hoping ill find the answers I’m looking for as there are some wize cats in this website!

Ok here’s the deal: I’ve been a PUA for about 6 months now, and my confidence and skills have shot through the roof. I have some skills. But I recently met a girl that I’m really into and we’ve started dating. It’s still early days its been about 3 weeks, but it’s been pretty intense. For example she’s already met my parents and I’ve met some of her family ect.ect…..

Anyway, that’s all you really need to know about her for the purposes of this post. Basically, I have a kinda ‘sixth-sense’ when it ocmes to picking up on and spotting ‘danger guys’-basically any competition. A few years ago, wen me and my ex first hooked up, she used to talk about a guy called Tommy a lot. I instantly realized that she had a ‘thing’ for thing. Anyway about a year later after an argument, she ended up kissing this guy and cheating with him, and all along I knew he was a threat but still acted like a complete tool around him. Suffice to say, the trust was gone with her and she had to go.

In any event, here’s my boggle: this girl I ve just started seeing often mentions this guy whilst we’re chatting. For arguments sake, we’ll call him Dave. He first came to my attention when I noticed him always commenting on her facebook statuses. They’re good comments as well, not exactly AFC. She works in the same department store as well. The other day she bought a new telly and apparently he was like:

‘Ooooo would your BF mind if I came round to watch it? Can I come over and watch porn on it!?’’

Now she told me this just in passing conversation-like it was no big deal, but as a guy I KNOW this is flirting. He’s also trying to AMOG me I reckon. Anyway, he keeps commenting on her status on facebook, with similar ‘close to the line flirting stuff’.

Then, the other day, my gf asked if I would ever consider getting my tongue pierced. I said maybe and she said she would love to have a guy with a pierced tongue go down on her. Im a school teacher so I said maybe during the summer holidays. Anyway as I was looking at this guys profile pics on facebook I noticed HE HAD A PIERCED TONGUE. Coincidence? Im not so sure.


I know wat ur thinking: ‘so if they work together, and they fancy each other, why are they not seeing each other?’ basically form wat I can gather, hes only very recently split from his gf. How soon, I know not.

So here’s my question: HOW DO I GO ABOUT KEEPING HER INTO ME AND FORGETTING ABOUT THIS GUY?

I know that in the game we talk about ‘emotional spikes’ to keep her interested. This form wat I can gather is basically messing her about a bit and being selfish, not being a push over ect. Should I just flirt with other girls on facebook and give her some of it back? Do I need to meet this guy? S hould I bring it up and tell her my worries or is this AFC?

So far I’ve been playing it unaffected when she brings him up playing it off like I don’t even care, but my mind is buzzing thinking about it, esp the tongue piercing thing. WHAT OTHER SIGNS SHOULD I LOOK OUT FOR TO KNOW SHE MIGHT FANCY THIS GUY?

My real issue, is I don’t know if I should be really keen on her and treat her really well to solidify our relationship, or just start acting up to keep her interested. Guys, im normally the one giving advice on women to my mates, but this time I need someone wiser to tell me how to proceed.

Thanks dudes,

The community rocks.

If you made a big deal over Tommy w/ your ex, that's probably why she ended up kissing him. More likely, she sensed your insecurity and it became a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you think about Dave taking your girlfriend, it'll make you insecure, cause your gf to lose attraction, cause you to lose confidence, etc. You're an Alpha, these things shouldn't bother you.

Talk / flirt with other girls. Especially if she's flirting with other guys or anything close to it. You HAVE TO stop thinking about other guys "flirting" with her. Never show her that this bothers you or display any emotion if you guys ever talk about it. At most, show her your disapproval by withdrawing attention.

And why did you introduce her to your parents in 3 weeks? That might have qualified her to fast. You want a girl to have to work for you.

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Dude, firstly, thanks for your reply.

I totally agree with everything you said. Sometimes when you're in it, it's hard to make clear judgements about wat u should really do.

A few points i wouldnt mind picking ur brain on tho: whats ur view with the tongue peircing thing? is that a coincidence or do you think there is attraction bubbling below the surface?


also, how do i keep her interested now? do i have to mess her about a bit, or should i be the caring guy right now?

the only reason i introduced her to my folks was becuse we were fed up of having sex in a car and wanted to do it in a bed, so i had to introduce her, it was more of a logisitics issue than anything else lol...

cheers dude,