sooo..going back to my original plan.. should i ask to speak to her in private (using "the claw" as we walk away)


and say either:

"I know what I want, and I want it now, not in two months"....and then go in for a kiss?

or should i just tell her straight out

"choose me now, or I am done with you. I am not gonna compete with my friends for two months and give into your little games" and then just walk away?

I know I should word things differently...

should i tell her to make the choice or just flat out go for the kiss???

option 2 without the kiss seems better to me

three questions

-should i use "the claw" as we are walking away?

-should i walk away or wait for a response?

-should i word it better? because that sounds like a total jerk way of saying it.....

Don't make plans, don't rehearse what you're going to say. Nothing ever goes according to plan, just keep your eyes open for opportunities and take them all. Just make sure you try the claw and do it early, not at the end. That should be your only goal because that's the only thing you really have control over. Forcing her to make a choice is AFC, it gives her the power. Just feel her out and decide if you want to invest anymore time in this girl depending on how you feel and if she's worth the work. Keep it simple, stay in the moment. You're on your own now.

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31 and still figuring it out.

she has the power now anyway. her having to chose is taking away that power--its at the very least freeing him from 2 months of oneitis.

at the moment she has 3 guys doing hoops for her after this shes gonna lose at least one circus act

She has control over us either way.

She has the power on all three of us guys, by making her make a decision its being dominant.

I figure, if she truly likes me. She wont just let me "close the door"..if she does, its her loss.....

I seriously dont want to compete with my friend and get mad at him, and I also dont want to wait two months and have her choose someone else. A lot of things can happen in two months.

we think alike....I thought of the same thing without even reading your post. you can even see, i wrote a response right below yours.

yep--and would i be right in saying that the most irratating thing is not fear of rejection but the whole not knowing and being played and strung along feeling--soon you will be free no matter what the outcomming --at least you will know

You guys think alike because you're both inexperienced.

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31 and still figuring it out.

He shouldnt waste anymore time on this than he has too,if the response is negative he has all summer and hundreds of other women he can sarge

As long as he mans up and has the balls to make some mistakes, it's a valuable experience, even if he goes down in flames. A man thrives or starves by his own convictions, I'm not holding his hand anymore.

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31 and still figuring it out.

-I would like too hear the feed back on this and yes it is brilliant combat experience for him if he has the nuts to go through with this at 15 he will be a super stud porn star at 17.

p.s Its one of the things that anoy me on the site sometimes---guy like this seeks answere for intreging problem situ then never gives the postcript--several times this has happened

you think that talking to a girl for 2 months is gonna work?


how bout i just go in for a kiss within the next couple weeks...

that way i kinda follow both your suggestions?

How?
well i follow the "get it over with" because if i kiss her, I will get my answer as soon as the moment comes. if she rejects it or not.

and i will also follow the "go along with it" because i am not ending it right there and making her decide on spot but making a move like you said to do....

Dude fuck it. Go with the flow.

Use the claw, kino it up. Escalate into a kiss, if you can't "Hey this isn't gonna work out between us, I don't like to play games."

Move the fuck on

If you get the kiss, perfect escalate further, she is looking for some "fun" without strings attached it seems.