Ok, im on trouble i guess.

I have 2 friends who started dating like 8 months ago. They broked up 3 weeks ago, and i gave them a hand to get back together again, like 1 week ago she gave him one chance, but seems not working, reason? He es a major AFC sometimes and very clingy with her. So this is the part of them.

Now here goes the part between me and her. We have a level of connection i havent felt ever in my life with any girl, not even my ex, the mother of my daughter.

We can make each of us laught with a simple look, our comunication is more than verbal, sometimes we kino and for both feels great. We really do know eachother. We both recognize that we feel unusually great with eachother. There is also things cant express with words, but actions shoe it. Like that feeling u get that u know "how and when" to make her feel great. She was really down yesterday, so we went to a karaoke, her, her "still" boyfriend and me. I sayed "u r going to smile" in a kidding seious-demanding tone, and just stood there looking away, but she couldnt handle it and started laughing, kinoed me witn punch on my shoulder and straight hughed my arm. Her BF sayed "im going to try also by telling her something", no clue what he sayed, but she got more serious, so i desided to release tension by just telling something funny and she started again craking up and kinoing me.

The main problem is how she makes me feel, and that i know she is with my friend cause she fears to be alone, not because getting laid, she is an HB 8.5, but because she needs something more deep already, or at least that is what SHE told ME yesterday, i think she tested me for LTR. If situation was different im very sure ill LTR with her.

What can i do? Please, need feedback.

_________________
"Atraction is not a choice" - David DeAngelo

Not to be a downer but you have one-itis. She isn't single :/

_________________
If you are not a PUA, you are a noob.

dude I'm all into gaming girls with boyfriends, unless I'm friend with the boyfriend... NOT COOL

it's just a feeling, there are other girls you can feel it with

_________________
"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

You need to step away from this girl, she is with your friend. Regardless of how you feel, you have to respect that boundary. There are to many girls out there to be focused on one girl, especially one that is taken.

And don't think for a second that she is not enjoying all the attention you and your boy are giving her. You guys are giving her one hell of an ego boost.

_________________
Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

there is a couple of details i didnt mention on the original post (was kinda in a rush, working wile i wrote it)

She told me that she doesnt want to b with him and she is going to leave him again soon and for good, i really can see how unhappy she is with him, rolling eyes up when he says something and making sure i see it. The thing is that sge doesnt want to b alone, like i sayed in the post.

I dont thinki have oneitis, but that i originally like this girl, im not dying for her, actually i still playing game arround, and getting 7 to 9s.

She knows im a PUA, and she had always been better friend for me than him. He is more like a "get a drink some weekends" friend type, but she has been my confident and i know her really good, im her confident also.

The reason i sayed im on trouble is cause i bet she will leave him to try to get me. That makes double trouble, cause she will hurt my friend for me, but same time i feel a MAJOR attraction for her, not only phisical (she is quite hot), but also all the connection and rappor we have.

I respect a lot the friends code, never broke it before, but if she leave him and try to get some with me i dont know how i will react.

I think best choice is to let a couple of months pass and then see what happens.

She know i like by the way, and also that i havent tried nothing cause her BF, that actually had made her closer to me

_________________
"Atraction is not a choice" - David DeAngelo

in the end of the day it's your call

still I wouldn't do it to a friend, although if it's just a guy you sorta know, I guess it's ok

still I wouldn't

_________________
"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

Update on situation.

Well, yesterday she wanted to talk to me. We met, went to a bar where a friend of us works, and my friend started to tell her how happy he see her and how serious she is when the no longer BF.

Yes, no longer, she left him. After couple of drinks i walked her home, and taking last cigarete in front of her house she told me that she really likes me, she talks about a connection never felt before in her life, and i agree, i feel same thing.

We took yesterday a determination, we dont want to let something like this go so easy, this is something that happens very little times in a lifetime, but for the sake of my friend, we will continue just giving company and enjoying together for a wile. Will try to refrain ourselves, but, in her own words, she cant promise that, cause she is dying to kiss me.

_________________
"Atraction is not a choice" - David DeAngelo

It's simple. If you hook up with this girl, you will lose your friend.

End of discussion.

So what do you value more, the relationship with the girl or your friend. Your choice.

You're a total tool if you do this. It doesn't matter if she's about to break up with him, you don't do it.



The only situations when its cool to get with a "friends" girl or ex is if the guy isn't really a friend, maybe an acquaintance at most, or if there is a large time gap in between, and I don't mean few weeks.



If you HONESTLY can't control yourself, you're still a tool, but don't make the shit public, then everyone knows you're a tool.

_________________
The best PUA advice is also the best fighting advice.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ijCSu87 ... rn-1r-4-HM

the question whos more important to you your friend or this girl? ill tell you something you start seeing this girl your friendship will go bye-bye and in all honesty he'll never forgive you for this! ill be honest my last major long term relationship she went out with my best mate at that point and she broke up with him to be with me but she never told him why and they had a falling out so basically i had to keep them separated infact he never found out til i told him when me and her were on a break, we didnt lose the friendship but me and him were never that close again,

_________________
life sucks and then you die! deal with it

wait wait wait wait
that sounds like BS she invented so she won't feel bad about being attracted to you

you can play along... but if you'll play along to deep you become her little pup

it's just the type of things girls say to their friendzone friends at the beginning (when they still kinda attracted to them)

_________________
"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

well, seems like i had expressed myself wrong or nobody has get the point.

The guy for me is more an aquaintance than a friend, she has being all the time my real friend. I know her for more than 3 years, and we had been friends since then. The thing that changed is how i passed from AFC to Alpha. Se sees that, and loves it.

When we desided what we would do, I was the one who proposed the idea after seeing that my "friend" has 0 chance with her, but we really like eachother. SHE agreed with my proposal, and told me she is willing to wait, but she cant promise she will control herself, cause attraction is very strong.

I feel really dominant on situation, im not becoming ger puppy, but keeping total control of situation.

I cant make them get back together again, did it once and the guy blew it up, cause he used every single word i gave him with her, and she realized is me talkin through his mouth. Told him to control and be dominant, but using hes own words, here he blew it big time.

She is by far the greatest girl ive ever known, he got hes chances, twice, one by himself and second by me using my influence on her so she gives him a second chance. Now i think is my turn. Im 32 years old, and never met a girl like her before, and i had met heck of a lot of girls. No, im not letting this chance go, feels like one of those "once in a life time", so im going to take it slow, im going to control the situation, but im soooooooo going to get the girl, and not going to let anyones proudness get in middle of it.

Here goes a nice sentence, dont remember who wrote it: "A PUA can get a lots of girls and choose who will sleep with, but cannot choose who he falls for"

_________________
"Atraction is not a choice" - David DeAngelo

then just go for it... i still don't like the "We took yesterday a determination" part

_________________
"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

Lets just say that i took it, but kinda gamed her to agree with it, but then she MAJOR IOI by saying that she dont know if she can wait long to make up with me.

_________________
"Atraction is not a choice" - David DeAngelo

This thread is hard to read;

1-if the dude's just an acquaintance then go for it. Its not like you hang out with him, do you?
2-put it in her butt

/of problems