| So this all started a week or two ago. I was talking to this girl through what's basically a teen dating site. I felt this was the perfect place to test out my game. It had worked, this girl sent me her number without me asking for it as she got off one night. She was cute, and interesting. I was interested enough. I had some back and forth game going over text the next few days. She ate it up, loved every bit of it. I blatantly flirted. A few days later, she told me her boyfriend broke up with her. I was surprised, because I had no idea she had a boyfriend. Either way, I ignored it, plowed through, and she made it obvious how much she wanted me.
We set plans for me to go to her house at some point in the future. Her parents were there, it was fun, and rather innocent. We weren't allowed in her room, so we sat on the couch watching TV while I held her, and her little 4 year old brother jumped all over us. He liked me, he cracked me up, I liked her, she liked me. I probably would've been more aggressive when it came to escalating, but something about doing that in the living room with her parents home and her little brother right there didn't feel right to me. At the end of the day, I kissed her, and left. That night, she texted me, and it was still obviously on.
She made it really clear that she hated being single. I didn't mind the idea of a relationship much, so while we were texting back and forth, I said let's be exclusive. I liked her enough that I didn't like the thought of her being with other guys, she hated being single, she made it obvious she liked me, it felt like a good enough reason to be in a relationship. She responded with saying she didn't wanna take things too fast. I shrugged it off, not upset by it, cause as I saw it it was hardly even a denial.
Over the next couple of days, she didn't start conversations with me, like she usually did. I started a couple with her, she responded like normally, we talked like she had before, I acted like I hadn't said anything previously. I continued my flirting, she responded positively still, but it seemed like not quite as much. I said we should hang out again, she said yeah, I told her I'm free friday, and said that was the only day I'm free. I told her to get back to me about it by the end of the night or I'd just make other plans. She said alright. At about 10 that night, I texted her, telling her I had decided for her, I was coming over. She responded positively, as far as I could tell. With that said, she said she couldn't.
She was house sitting and no boys were allowed at the house. Her parents were at the house she was house sitting at as well, so I couldn't go. I reminded her how she told me she was adventurous. I said to pick me up and smuggle me off to her house, or to take me on an adventure. She responds with a "lol maybe (:".
At this point, I've become annoyed. Maybe is the word that has always turned into a no for me. I decide that my old AFC self would have dropped it, let her do whatever, and whatever she said would just be what happened. I wasn't gonna do that. I wanted to control my situation, I would not relent until I got an outright no or an outright yes. I kept it playful to a degree, but she kept making excuses that seemed like cop outs to me. I pushed it till the end, she responded with "Dude. I'll ask okay." At this point I was beyond annoyed. She made lame excuses, avoided what I offered with maybes, and only a few days ago she was ridiculously attracted to me. It was the closest to a yes I was gonna get, but I was pissed off either way. I told her nevermind and not to worry about it. She responded with an "Okay?" I stopped texting her for the moment.
All of the previous things happened over the past few days, and the just mentioned back and forth happened last night. I'm posting this all on here because I feel this is a potential learning experience. I already have some ideas of what I did wrong, but I want anyone else to feel free to criticise anything and everything I did. I would also, like to know what I can do from here. As much as this has been fucked up, I'm still sure there's some way to at least attempt to fix this. I'd also like to point out that I don't have oneitis. The whole time I've been talking to her I've been gaming other girls. But she's still a cool person, and if this situation is fixable, I'd like to fix it.
For those who read through the whole thing, I appreciate it. This is really something I'd like to see the experienced members of the community to post on. Give me any critiques, any pointers, any ways to fix the situation, point out anything I did wrong. Rip me to shreds.
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