Ok how would you guys make a woman think about you even when you're not in her presence.

This girl at work, misses me when im not at work - she said so herself. She also says I make her smile etc when I am there.

However what I want to know is - how would you make her smile, make her miss you when you are not there? Its easy when you and her are in each others company.

Thanks, much appreciated

just build up enough attraction. Girls think about guys a lot! But how the heck would we know if they think of us???
Most of the girls I know don't like to text the guy first. But hey, if a girl does text you first, then you know she thought of you. It doesn't mean she likes you, but it means she thought of you.
But hey, it could be an IOI that she's giving you (depending on how she said it). But when she said you make her smile, it's debatable, but I think that's an IOI.

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Texting is a good way to ping girls and make sure you're in their mind. I've had good luck by texting a girl with "Hey stop thinking about me! " after a date with her. Another one that worked great for me the other night is "Hey there's this cute girl from

Exactly - how do we know.

I get mixed messages. At work we flirt etc and gone out a few times. she said she liked me i said i liked her etc.

She sent me a text on mon going about how she misses me when im not at work (which basically means missing me 9-5) and out of her own accord she said that I "know how to make her smile". I havent taken any of these two to heart simply because I have a feeling it was "meaningless"

I guess its just more - im thinkin about her now but i doubt she is thinkin about me. Its an assurance thing isnt it - you want someone to have the same feelings as you but not sure if they do or not.

stop wondering and arguing she likes you. Plow through and fuck her dude she likes you and you make her smile. My biggest problem earlier is that I would pussy foot around, she likes you and wants to fuck she is just waiting for you to do it.

Dude. Boxerdude is right. How is she giving you mixed messages?? She likes you and probably thinks of you all the time! So stop being self-conscious! Kino escalate with her and go for the kiss if you feel the chemistry going

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oh I forgot to mention she has a boyfriend - although he has literally disregarded her as in barely hangs out with her and cheats on her. I think she is scared to let go cos the guy is her first love then again maybe its a shit test where she wants to see how far I go with this.

She once asked me whether it bothers me that she has a boyfriend? I stupidly replied with a yes (this was way before i found this forum - wish I did sooner)

She does like me I know she does. I just need to get her to like me more think about me more etc.

woah woah woah... she has a boyfriend?!?!?!? Let's all freak out now! haha jk.

So she goes out with you on dates (?) even thought she has a bf? Maybe ask her why the fuck she stays with this guy? That's usually what I do. And her asking you is a definite IOI man.

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After talking to the girl for a while and you're about to part ways with her,

Simply use this small NLP trick:

"And when you get back home, don't think of me!"

say it in a joke-warning way, as if you don't want her to stalk you.

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Never directly say you miss her back, if you do your playing into her hands, if you want to let her think you miss her prescence to, be cocky and funny about it, so she don't know if your being dead serious or not, remember women like mystery, a lot deny it but it's true.

I love push and pull, if a girl says she misses me, I'd push and pull, be friendly at work, funny, touchey etc, when away from work have no major contact all the time.

My current situation with a girl at work, nice at work, I offer advice, neg her ,, Away from work sometime's I'm short, nice, blunt, basically never the same, she's thanked me for being how I am, if you go too far you'll become friend zoned, so it's important to know when to stop.Push and Pull.

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Hi Guys

thanks for the replies - its actually been great help.

I am meeting her tomorrow. she sent me a text to meet up for drinks tonite, I said I cant, but what about friday? she said ok. We were flirting on the texts last night - asking me what she should wear tellin me what I should wear etc and basically i was bein cheeky - which made her smile and laugh.

Today we been texting all day, she said she liked me calling her by her nickname (that I made up for her) and she said she was looking forward to tomorrow.


This aint the first time we have gone out for drinks and this week we have been talking/textin all week whereas before we would only really talk at work or on the odd day here and there. So im feeling the vibe that tomorrow could be the day.

question - I now, where I failed so many times, I need to be confident enough to go in for the kiss. Tomorrow is now do or die. we flirted all week, on sat I tried to kiss her and didnt get far (maybe it was a test) How would I get to kiss her - whats a good k close routine? Ive seen a few in the other threads but none, that I read, appeal to me.

She likes you, she wants to date, be yourself, remember that, just don't panic.

K close routine, when you feel comfortable, don't bottle it! Ask her if she's an impulsive person, if she says she doesn't know, say let's find out, and move in for the kiss.

"If she says yes, say I don't believe you, let's see" If she says no" again, I don't believe you, with a grin "

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Chelios, that was a cute high-risk high-reward tech. I would use that myself because I have the balls to go for it. Johnnyboy on the other hand seems to not have the confidence to go for it. But depending on the your alpha male qualities, go for this one. I understand why it is hard to go for this kiss close because I usually need so much IOIs bfore i for the the kiss. We are all scared of the rejection of our kissclose. Now I have learned that the kiss is attained way bfore you actually go for the kiss by other attraction, comfort building, and seductive things that you do. And I also know that rejection is no big deal either because she is the one who is lucky to be kissing me...

Johnnyboy, if you are shy to go for it then I have two tech for you, which are very safe and effective. I do not remember where I got them (I did not make them up). But they always works for me. ONE-> The almost kiss. Here you tell the girl that you feel a connection btwn you two and you wanna do a test. then you tell her that its time for an almost kiss. set up the rules and make sure not to kiss her. she will think this is hilarious (have fun with it too). But you wanna make sure that you pinky swear or promise that you will not kiss her. tell her to pucker up her lips and you get as close to her as possible (u could even lightly touch her lips). It is hard to control yourself when so close to her luscious lips but show her that you can do that and that will be an DHV. Then tell her how nice that was. make sure you grabbed her and touched her hair as if you were going to kiss her, just dont do it. Of course after this happens, she will be thinking about actually kissing you. I feel it out after that when i want to go for the kiss. I usually blame it on her for wanting to kiss her. Then just go for it. TWO-> I tell her that if she looks at me like that again I will kiss her. She does not need to look at you no way; just say that so that she knows you will do it. Usually the girl's response will tel you whether she is ok with you kissing her or not. for example, if she says with attitude "u mean look at you like this" then go for it because she gave you the green light. if she says, no you better not. then obviously dont do it...

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I agree, but I had to push myself, and I'd suggest most to do the same, it shows some kind of dominance, sure you can get rejected, it's a risk, girls like guys who take chances and go for it.

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Thanks guys - proper insight.

im gonna think about all three closes and kinda decide on the night, at the right moment which is the best one for the situation.

Either way - tonite is the night and i aint gonna take no (only because i know she wants it too)