How many of you guys would date a Hb9-10 .............. If she had a kid ?
This is directed at 25 year olds and under ...or anyone who feels that age

Or would this be the line ?

let me rephrase this question .... how many of you are basically men ?

Point of this , just general interest because im in this situation .

Depends what your looking for, serious relationship, some fun, not a shag and run, or see how it goes?

I've dated 2 women with kids in the past. My last gf had 2 kids, nice girl, bit messed in the head in the end, it can be headache, and to be honest, if your not ready to settle, and your younger than her, stay away.

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I'm not 25 or under, but I'm less than 360 months old.
A few years ago I woud just avoid, but something happened in my life that affected everything; my outlook changed and I realised that for me it was a silly reason to exclude a HB.
In the ideals of your youth, sure you'd wanna meet a girl with no baggage as such, but this is the real world, not some tv show.
If it's the idea that she's been involved with another man to have had a kid, well I doubt you can really expect all the HBs out there to be virgins.
The girl I'm seeing is really sweet and also has nice qualities a childless woman would not have. I don't get to be with her as often as maybe with other women, but that works fine for me too.
My advice is to not get bothered too much about social status and labels. Her attractiveness and how you can get along personality-wise should be your main concerns IMO.

I wouldn't, simply because I don't like kids. I have no plans or desire to have any of my own, so I certainly don't want to date a women who already has them.

There are other reasons too, as far as raising or help raise kids that aren't yours, disciplining them (what if they're jerks?), and dealing with the kid's dad and visitation and custody stuff.

I actually broke this rule once, and it did not go well. She had two kids, but was a HB8 in my book. I decided to give it a try, since before this I had never actually dated anyone with kids. I was honest with her that I probably didn't want kids, and that family picinics and whatnot weren't in the future.

She was cool with that, she said her kids already had a dad, she just wanted someone for herself.

Well, she had the kids every night of the week but one, and then had every other weekend without them.

I'd make plans with her on the nights she was w/out kids of course. After a month or so I got the "I'd like to see you more often" speech, and I knew it was the beginning of the end. We dated another month or so, then it kind of just ended.

It was actually a shame, as I thought she was great. There were only two things about her that I didn't like. I actually still kind of miss her once in a while, if it wasn't for the kids thing I think it would have gone somewhere.

And yes, I'll admit it, part of the reason I don't want kids is because I'm selfish. I want to do what I want to do when I want to do it, and not worry about kids getting in the way, whether they're mine or someone else's. I also just have very little patience for other people's baggage.

Anyway, unless going to the park and playing catch with some chick's kid and going to the Discovery Zone or some shit like that once in a while appeals to you, I'd say run, don't walk, from chicks with kids.

And I know a few women who have dated and married guys with kids, and it's not much easier for them either. They've had a LOT of headaches due to the kids and the other parent.

Great advice

In a weird way im actually prowd of you guys haha for taking up the challenge ,
None of my friends would do this .As mentioned before its extra baggage and social status and you've got to think about what your family would think .... etc
But im not going to let that stop me .

Hey Chel',we have more in common than I thought(lol).

Well Zappo,my current gf of over a year is a MILF of 40 years old and Im 28.

She has 3 kids.

I've never really had prob' being with a girl with has kids.

But it makes it real difficult if the kids are grown(teens).

My MILFs' kids are 2 teens(15 & 16)and a kid(9).

The little boy(9)loves the shit out of me.

But her teen kids hate my guts(lol)!

They're going through a phase that i went through as a teen.

I was super over-protective of my mother dating guys.

And the 2 guys she'd ever brought around,I hated them and gave them hell for no reasons.

I grew out of that as I turned 17.

But in my current situation,I tried to be a big-brother figure but got burned by her kids.

So now,I just distance myself from her kids(no convo',no ice cream,etc.)while maintaining a relationship with their mother.

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Haha so true K, we do.

Dating a women with kids is complicated, a lot of the time, the kids not "hating" you is a big thing, especially if the mother is a respectable woman, because in truth, kids should come first.

It's a thin line between success and failure.

Got to be carefull with how you play things, to be honest, like my situation, I'm 21, mature for my age, I know the rights and wrongs in my life, have no kids, have a job, good family etc, I don't want to go with a woman who has KIDS, if she has A KID maybe. I see my life, as in I still have things I want to do and achieve, as a person, as a man etc.

As stated, my last GF had 2 kids, ages 4 and 2, nice girl, who became mad, but now it's over (I had a bit of oneitis), I'm happy.

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Like Chelios said, it comes down to what you are looking for out of the relationship.

You deciding to get involved depends on of its a one-night stand, FB, girl friend, potential wife, etc. Just because she has kids doesn't mean she doesn't want to have sex.

If you are clear with your intentions, then the kids should not be an issue.

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If you are asking for personal advice on whether its worth even getting involved with a woman who has kids, well, I think the above advice sums it up.

Britney Spears has a kid, would I date her? Yes.

I guess it's down to the girl at the end of the day. Of course, a girl having kids or living with parents, presents complications and challenges, so it's best without them.

Again, all comes down to what YOU want from her, what your after as whole.

If she's worth it . . . Many would go with Britney because she's a name, to say " I fucked Britney" her having a kid doesn't come into contention.

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i have to say its a major no-no for me no girls with excess baggage!!! i do have to say that most girls with kids arent into no strings attached fun

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I wouldnt either--its just too much trouble

Im not 25 anymore but hey things doesnt change. if you think that I am a sucker for a serious relationship with kids and a dog and the kit... Think again.

I am as irresponsible as i have always been.

But, I would still date a girl with a kid. Why not, it is not like you are his extradaddy. You are dating his mom. Plus MILFs are hot...

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bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Im not 25 anymore but hey things doesnt change. if you think that I am a sucker for a serious relationship with kids and a dog and the kit... Think again.

I am as irresponsible as i have always been.

But, I would still date a girl with a kid. Why not, it is not like you are his extradaddy. You are dating his mom. Plus MILFs are hot...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Yeah, like Stacy's Mom