How do you deal with a girl who likes you but is resisting escalation coming out of bad relationships?

"Every one of my relationships starts out like this and I really don't want the same thing to happen with you again"

I have seduced her mind but she enjoys me so much she is holding back allowing escalation to happen because she does not want to go on to anything sexual or dating and have a hard breakup.

Froze her out casually and playfully and she thought I was being bitter.


I have already broken through a few of her walls and just need help with this last resistance

Is she worth the time or effort

I find all these ive been hurt girls,or my ex bla bla, mostly just time wasters and freaks to be honest but thats just me

Definitely worth the time and all the effort. I don't get the reason why she says she wants to wait till we are older for a deeper relationship so that it can be more serious. She came out and said she is really attracted to me and likes me so I know I am not misreading it, just cant seem to break through this resistance.

girls have been programmed by TV and girlie mags that they must act this way

Agree with her. Wholeheartedly agree with her as you look into her eyes. Don't just say it. Honestly believe that's what you want. Make sure she believes that's what you want. Say that you fully understand, as you look into her eyes, getting closer as you're talking. And kiss her. Go nuts.

totally true.

if she says "wait till i'll be back to normal cos i've just broken with my bf " or any other excuzes it means "wait i'm still searching a better man. if i don't find any other i will call you" And you know what ? They nearly always find a better man than you. So give up these girls if you don't want to feel hurt later on.

She has said I am different than any other guy and realizes that now this is attraction to me and before it was just attention from other guys. She just has this wall where she is comparing me to these immature guys who cheated on her,broke her heart etc.. and that "she doesn't like how that past situations are preventing anything from happening"
I guarantee I can break this wall just have never face this resistance before.
I can't keep hanging out with her and letting things go to long before a deeper relationship otherwise I will be deep in the friend zone.

im in a similiar position except this girl has a boyfriend.

can you go into the friend zone if you both admitted you like each other lots? I dont know - im sure everything is possible.

I'm telling you thesly. Just do what I said next time y'all hang out. Look at her with intense sexual desire, truly want her. At the end of the night, tell her you wanna go back to your place or something. When she says what she usually says, agree with her, look away, then look back and kiss her.