Does anyone suggest being str8 up with a girl that youve built comfort and rapport with and basically saying "since your so attracted to me, let me take you out. we can still be friends if u say no, im just not into wasting time when my attention can be focused elsewhere."

-or something along those lines?

I did this with the girl I am into at the moment.

She has a boyf though but she told me she liked me lots. I reciprocated the feelings and all its done is make things a touch complicated. Id just not say anything but show her how you feel.

Mistakes I have learnt from is to always show them how you feel not talk about it. it removes the intensity thus the excitement and ultimately the desire to want to do something

thanks for the advice. Im in such a wierd situation. She's into me, period. She texts me often first, and I've the built the frame strong enough to the point that she believes she is my future wife. Anyway she was called out on her attraction to me yesterday in a fight with my friend, and ever since shes been acting wierd. I believe the attraction is still there but im having trouble reminding her how good it felt to flirt with me and the frame of us getting married later. Where do you suggest i take it from here?

Thats the problem once you speak those words - the weirdness sets in and it becomes very difficult to bring up that intensity and those emotions of desire etc.

I would suggest a good few days break even weeks. and then from there build everything up again. if you have a bbq to go to - invite her, even anything with your mates - bring her. I have kind of done that and its now working. flirting all weekend - although the kiss never happened but thats because i told her i wanted to kiss her rather than actually doin it.

Its all about showing rather than saying - thats what I have learnt.

word. i just texted her a little bit ago trying to build the frame back up and so far its looking okay. we'll c. ill deff post a field report and keep u posted. thanks for the help

"He who loves the least controls the relationship"

If you put yourself out there, by directly stating your feelings, now HB can make an assessment of whether she likes you more or less than you like her. This is effectively handing her the control.

PUA skills all operate by concealing how much you like a girl. If you play it cool, she will be insecure and unsure of how much you like her. Thusly, you remain in control, even if you actually do like her more than she likes you.

you could be straight at the end, when you feel it's getting of track.

for example, if a girl is flaking, and she tells you each time you want to date her that she is so sorry but so busy to meet, you can tell her this:

"*sigh*, you know what? i realy like you, and you're realy the kind of person i want to know better, but if you just keep on playing with me or cancelling dates, i'll just move on. i like having fun, not uselessly holding on to a girl" or "... i like having fun, not a girl who just keeps on playing with me".

and then totally freeze out, and ignore her. you've done enought. you're then putting the price on yourself and she might feel she's losing you. now its her turn to make the next step. eventualy, this can let her make contact with you again.

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