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PostPosted: Mon Jun 21, 2010 11:04 pm 
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Okay guys, I've been working on the nightgame solo sarge for a few months now and still have some room for improvement.

But I thought I'd share what I've learnt so far. Feel free to comment, add your own techniques etc.

Bare in mind I sarge in a small town, the majority of people start in one of three bars and move onto one of two clubs.

This is useful..

Think of Mystery's theory about instant dates and how if you are with people at different venues over one night it will seem to them that they have known you for much longer than they actually have. This makes building attraction or indeed any form of social interaction MUCH easier

SCAMP METHOD

Why Solo Sarge?

Firstly. It gives me total freedom, I can Sarge WHENEVER i want, not at the mercy of buddies. This is extremely liberating, especially for a guy who works two jobs and free time is at a premium. I get back from work at 9.30pm on a friday night, what can I do. Sarge!

Secondly. Most drinking mates aren't good Wings. Live with it.

Frame

Frame is very important, you need a good happy social frame before you hit the first venue, enjoy yourself. Some nights this comes naturally, some nights I have to have a shot of tequila, (stop off at quiet pub, neck it, go)

The First venue

This needs to be busy, the reason?

You need a busy bar, walk straight to the bar, ideally it will take you at least five minutes to get served.
This is golden approach time.

Say something to the person next to you

Anything, and it doesn't have to be a girl.

Anything, a small comment, A wistful shake of the head to the bloke next to you as a girl with big tits gets served first.

Wasn't hard was it? First open.

Don't pressurise this to go anywhere
none of the openings in the first bar are in anyway targetted.

The ideal is say a few words, smile, laugh and leave.

Why?

These are pre-approaches, you talk to as many people as possible for a very short time in the first bar.
Objective. Display yourself as a sociable, friendly, good fun bloke, with no "neediness", always break from the sets first. Try and pick something memorable about the people you talk to; Big hat, huge bag, dodgy tattoo, cool hair etc

The first bar is the "hardest work" you can't have too much downtime here.

Most acceptable downtime, queuing at the bar, the solution, have non alcoholic drinks (no one knows).

Unacceptable downtime - Fiddling with your phone, Doing "laps" of the bar, looking bored/pissed off/frightened.

Don't stay at the first bar too long (ideally arrive about ten ish) this gives you a chance to get in, have one to three drinks, and leave without losing Social proof.

(First bar is all about preserving social proof)

Spending most of your time at or around the bar, do at least ten pre-approaches.

Smile.
Make small talk with the bar staff.
Ask which bars are good to go to, new in town/this part of town

The more "work" you do here the better your results later in the evening.


Second Bar (Quieter)

Objectives

Stay in sociable frame.
Eat up a bit of time.
Chill.

The second bar should be somewhere that is NOT one of the Social hangouts, and should not be at all target rich.

Get yourself a pint and get chatting to anyone, this won't be difficult as you will have done loads of pre-approaches and be in an excellent social frame.

The difference is you don't have to keep an eye on your social proof in this bar and can just chill
You'll find most people are very amenable to some form of conversation, don't game or anything here, just chat. Old blokes are preferred targets of mine, they will talk about ANYTHING and are just gald of someone talking to them.

Finish you pint move on to the club/late bar

Last Bar

You should have left it so that you arrive at the late bar when it is beginning to get busy.
What does this mean?

You're going to have to Queue.
Gold approach time.

Bar will be busy, will take a while to get a drink.
Gold Approach time.

Now remember the first "hard work" bar?
Depending on how many "pre-approaches" you have did, the more "friends" you will have in the late bar.

If timed properly they will have arrived earlier (gone straight from first hotspot bar to here) and will have reached that
"Run out of things to say to my mate" phase

When who do they see? That fun bloke from the first bar
"Hey Hat girl!"
"Yo are you still carting around that huge ass handbag? have you stolen the glassware from that pub?"
"Whooah that haircut is still SHARP"

Easy open, you have now become that fun guy that they saw earlier.

GAME them.

Dance, smile.

You ARE the party, you "know" most people in here.

Watch the Social proof rise. The final bar is the "upswing phase of social proof"

Have fun and thoroughly enjoy your night

Use responsibly

Peace out

Scamps


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 22, 2010 5:06 am 
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Well put. I prefer sarging alone because the only guys I can go with are drunks. I use them as the "I need to get back to my group" bit but towards an hour into it I can't use that because they come up, drunk and yelling stuff at me.

I was talking to a HB8 by the dance floor (PUA hell, I know) for a minute, getting into DHV a bit, and my buddy comes up and he's like "hey this guy wants to take our pic, let's go!" I look at the hb, she ducks around the corner to avoid getting the pic taken. I'm about to drop kick him, tell him so, then turn to talk to her again and she's busy.
Then he gives me the "what'd I do?" bit....dumbass.

Sarging alone is difficult for me because I have no one to psyche myself up with, recite openers, practice dialogue and I have to raise my social proof myself.


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 22, 2010 10:02 pm 
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Nice post man, thanks.

I love the solo sarge. Those cats in big towns and cities solo sarging ain't got this shit down buddy, solo sarging in a small town is where it's at, is what develops you the most.

I remember when I first started solo sarging in the small town where I'm at - like Scamp, most people start in a few bars then move to one or two clubs.

So, there's not much margin for error. If you fuck up a few sets, then you'll quickly find yourself alone with nothing much going on. And there really isn't an abundance of sets to hit either in a small place. There's no excuse for not ploughing, isolating or escalating either, because sometimes if you don't, you'll end up in a bar on your own and either you quickly find another set to open or you stand there looking like a twat. Tough but toughening times. Seriously, that shit taught me shit.

So, through evolution and adaptation, survival of the fittest, probably the best technique I've learnt for lone game is:

- Make a base. Open an easy set to chill with. Make deep-level connection and you can come back to these guys any time other sets don't go well. Or, if there's a lack of talent (yes, this happens often on a weekday in small towns!!) you can just have fun with these guys the whole night. Some of my greatest friends have come from such sets!

- From here, you can open another set and say you are friends with the previous set. Gain social proof, hit the next set and tell them that you're friends with the set before that. So even though you're a loner here, it appears as if you're one of the most popular. Yeah social proof etc.


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PostPosted: Wed Jun 23, 2010 9:32 pm 
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Cheers for the feedback guys.

Brawndo, very true about drinking buddies, often not very sensitive to the game.

Yeah I try to get away from "psyching up" myself. I find it makes me too Outcome-orientated and I don't come across very genuinely, and MOST importantly i don't enjoy it.

The only pre-work is getting myself in a social state, sometimes it's a tequila, sometimes it's chatting to the guy that served me in Tesco. Just that first interatcion to get me out of my headspace.
Give it a go bud

Rafiel, spot on fella! Solo sarge does mean a quicker learning curve, there is literally nowhere to hide.
When I first got into the game I'd TRY and sarge when I was out with (non-game) friends, but to be honest I mostly just hung around with them and convinced myself of a hundred reasons why i shouldn't approach. Always returning to the safety net of my buddies.

The base set, can work for me too but is never a guaranteed set (and if it's an all guy set, they can try and leech of your female sets). Don't like to think about "fucking up" sets, any approach is a good thing imo, tbh they are pretty hard to fuck up if you are genuine, friendly and don't outstay your welcome.

Give it a go guys, what can you lose?

Scamp


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