| Okay guys, I've been working on the nightgame solo sarge for a few months now and still have some room for improvement.
But I thought I'd share what I've learnt so far. Feel free to comment, add your own techniques etc.
Bare in mind I sarge in a small town, the majority of people start in one of three bars and move onto one of two clubs.
This is useful..
Think of Mystery's theory about instant dates and how if you are with people at different venues over one night it will seem to them that they have known you for much longer than they actually have. This makes building attraction or indeed any form of social interaction MUCH easier
SCAMP METHOD
Why Solo Sarge?
Firstly. It gives me total freedom, I can Sarge WHENEVER i want, not at the mercy of buddies. This is extremely liberating, especially for a guy who works two jobs and free time is at a premium. I get back from work at 9.30pm on a friday night, what can I do. Sarge!
Secondly. Most drinking mates aren't good Wings. Live with it.
Frame
Frame is very important, you need a good happy social frame before you hit the first venue, enjoy yourself. Some nights this comes naturally, some nights I have to have a shot of tequila, (stop off at quiet pub, neck it, go)
The First venue
This needs to be busy, the reason?
You need a busy bar, walk straight to the bar, ideally it will take you at least five minutes to get served.
This is golden approach time.
Say something to the person next to you
Anything, and it doesn't have to be a girl.
Anything, a small comment, A wistful shake of the head to the bloke next to you as a girl with big tits gets served first.
Wasn't hard was it? First open.
Don't pressurise this to go anywhere
none of the openings in the first bar are in anyway targetted.
The ideal is say a few words, smile, laugh and leave.
Why?
These are pre-approaches, you talk to as many people as possible for a very short time in the first bar.
Objective. Display yourself as a sociable, friendly, good fun bloke, with no "neediness", always break from the sets first. Try and pick something memorable about the people you talk to; Big hat, huge bag, dodgy tattoo, cool hair etc
The first bar is the "hardest work" you can't have too much downtime here.
Most acceptable downtime, queuing at the bar, the solution, have non alcoholic drinks (no one knows).
Unacceptable downtime - Fiddling with your phone, Doing "laps" of the bar, looking bored/pissed off/frightened.
Don't stay at the first bar too long (ideally arrive about ten ish) this gives you a chance to get in, have one to three drinks, and leave without losing Social proof.
(First bar is all about preserving social proof)
Spending most of your time at or around the bar, do at least ten pre-approaches.
Smile.
Make small talk with the bar staff.
Ask which bars are good to go to, new in town/this part of town
The more "work" you do here the better your results later in the evening.
Second Bar (Quieter)
Objectives
Stay in sociable frame.
Eat up a bit of time.
Chill.
The second bar should be somewhere that is NOT one of the Social hangouts, and should not be at all target rich.
Get yourself a pint and get chatting to anyone, this won't be difficult as you will have done loads of pre-approaches and be in an excellent social frame.
The difference is you don't have to keep an eye on your social proof in this bar and can just chill
You'll find most people are very amenable to some form of conversation, don't game or anything here, just chat. Old blokes are preferred targets of mine, they will talk about ANYTHING and are just gald of someone talking to them.
Finish you pint move on to the club/late bar
Last Bar
You should have left it so that you arrive at the late bar when it is beginning to get busy.
What does this mean?
You're going to have to Queue.
Gold approach time.
Bar will be busy, will take a while to get a drink.
Gold Approach time.
Now remember the first "hard work" bar?
Depending on how many "pre-approaches" you have did, the more "friends" you will have in the late bar.
If timed properly they will have arrived earlier (gone straight from first hotspot bar to here) and will have reached that
"Run out of things to say to my mate" phase
When who do they see? That fun bloke from the first bar
"Hey Hat girl!"
"Yo are you still carting around that huge ass handbag? have you stolen the glassware from that pub?"
"Whooah that haircut is still SHARP"
Easy open, you have now become that fun guy that they saw earlier.
GAME them.
Dance, smile.
You ARE the party, you "know" most people in here.
Watch the Social proof rise. The final bar is the "upswing phase of social proof"
Have fun and thoroughly enjoy your night
Use responsibly
Peace out
Scamps
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