signing up mainly to get advice on if a 6-month relationship is salvageable or not.

i think i played all 6-months acting like i didnt care very much,with only showing occassional signs of emotional affection to her. Then she turned it around on me, and quit talking to me except through email. She is still on my facebook friends list, but has deleted all her tagged pics of me (she did all the pic taking & posting during the relationship) (so now it looks like i'm somewhat of a loner if someone looks at my page lol)

anyway, her main reason for the split was she said:

"when i realised we weren't really going anywhere is probably when i started backing off. im don't date someone simply for the sake of dating someone. i wont waste my time or yours. i feel like in the beginning i was way more into you than you were into me and that once i started backing off you got a little more serious like you didnt realise what you had until it was slipping away and then it was too late. im not willing to take a risk because i dont think we were really going anywhere. i cant turn my feelings back on."

further backstory, we knew each other as little kids, going back 15+ years ago, but didnt date until last year. I know her family.

also, i f**ked up pretty BAD and she knows about it, she knows about a f**k up with another chick.It happened just a day or two after we had kinda quit talking.

so anyway, ive probably communicated with her too much already, just in one email. Pretty much all I did was apologize for the f**k up and tell her i wish i hadnt and that i'd like to see her again.

she's refused to see me so far, but at least she sent the email above AFTER finding out about me and the other chick.

any tips are appreciated! i kind of fell for this girl, and would like to salvage the relationship if possible. If i can just get her to sit down and have a drink or dinner with me one more time that would be a good step but I get the feeling her friends have told her not to see me, and that she's afraid she might give in if she sees me in person (which is obviously what i want).

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DBC

Howdy,

Looks like you took your name from the same hijacking, plane jumping, robber that I did (except I didn't abbreviate his name in the common manner so that people wouldn't catch the reference right away).

Anyways, you are coming across as way too needy right now. The guy she was attracted to "didnt care very much,with only showing occassional signs of emotional affection to her." Then it appears that she gave you a bitch test to see if you were really congruent with the man she was attracted to, but you gave into it and played by her rules. She realized that you aren't really the man she was attracted to, and her attraction for you plummeted.

We've all been in your shoes before, jumping through the hoops a special woman set for us only to find out that it was completely counterproductive. Its one of the shittiest feelings you can experience. But you will get over it. And hopefully we can help you get over it quicker than you would have otherwise. If nothing else, we can at least help you not repeat these mistakes in the future

Not too many people read through these introductions so please make some posts in the general questions section (and possibly the relationships section) about your experiences and how to proceed. The members here have a wealth of information so get ready to learn a lot of new things very quickly. And be willing to put them into practice too

PS: Don't apologize for hooking up with the other girl... you're only jumping through another one of her hoops and digging yourself a deeper hole

Thanks man, I dig the Greeto avatar. I tried to post in the Relationships forum but it said I needed 20 posts to do that .

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DBC

Make a post in the general questions section then... Just ask for advice and explain your situation. You'll get a lot more exposure there, and you'll get input and suggestions from many people.

Then, as you learn more about PUA and start practicing some of this stuff, specific questions that you need explicit help with will become clearer to you. Ask those too

You should then gain a good understanding and be able to decide for yourself how to proceed with this woman. Unfortunately, PUAs don't have a lot of info on how to attract one specific girl nor how to salvage a relationship with your perfect woman. Those are questions you need to answer for yourself. This community is more about self-improvement and attracting many woman so that you can decide which of them you wish to date... but for whatever reason, the actions that attract the most hot women never seem to work on the one woman you desire the most (hence the idea of oneitis)