I have my own question about girls being less than responsive... BUT... for this

You were just too needy and trying too hard. And when you hesitated that night that it was raining, it showed massive insecurity. Who gives a fuck if its raining? If you had outside plans, figure something else out on the spot. That could be a big DHV for you.

If you fuck up and pick something lame to do and she doesnt like it and it fizzles, oh well. You tried though.

Don't put so much effort into your appearance and don't build up the date. It's just a night hanging out with a girl. Enjoy yourself, and find a way to relax.

Dude, I was listening to David DeAngelo, and I know a lot of his shit is really just meta-stuff and not terribly useful, but he mentioned something in one of his videos that I could really relate to, and it is:

“Newbies always want to learn tricks and fancy techniques... Experienced experts realize that there are more fundamental lessons to learn first. If you don’t learn the basics first, you will never be able to execute the techniques correctly.”

The basic here is that you cannot be needy. The technique that you wanted to execute was the routine. This fundamentals are very important, and I can say first hand from my skills in poker that fundamentals are massively more useful than which hands to play or how to bluff. If you understand the game, all the pieces fall into place and you == just know == what to do.

I hope this helps. Think it over, and write down your mistakes. Don't be too hard on yourself, but be a little hard on yourself.

gl - we're all struggling with something in this game.