Ok i know that inviting a girl to "Join" you on your plans is the best idea. "Like hey im going to the zoo tomorrow you should tag along." How can you do this and make sense though when you are ONLY inviting her? It would be like saying hey im going to go do something alone.

Only say tag along if it's like come for a coffee or a munch, or if your going with other people too.

I don't fully understand what you want to know.

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if you can't then invite her to do something with you, I mean MAKE plans with her... you'll have to go direct at one point or the other

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Thats what i meant basically, so the only way you can use the indirect tag along is if you are already going with friends? Otherwise you just be direct and say hey lets go here tomorrow?

Something like that yeah. Look at it this way, if it's something small, like say your in her area you can say" I'm going for a coffee soon at starbucks" come join me, that way if she says no, she can't think she's pure rejected you.

Say you ask her to go to the zoo, well tag along, if she don't, it wont look great if you planned on it being you and her, but if other people are going ask her to tag along, because even if she don't come, you still go then tell her how much fun you had. That make sense?

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Yeah that makes sense. It's a strange situation though because i've been on a few dates with this girl like 6 months ago but it fizzeld out - she was semi flakey. BUt now we are talking again and she seems to want to hang out, i invited her to a indirect event, but after asking me "whos" going, she kind of ignored my invitation. I just said some "friends". So i don't know if that means if she just wants to chill with me or what... like i said this girls semi flakey so i don't know if i trust her enough to make real plans with her.

Seems she wants to hang out just you two, so go direct, say "let's chill, suggest a date, and something to do" simple really, if she says no and gets flakey, just ignore her.

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Great advice brother, thanks!

Thread update:

Ok well i thought i would update the thread for additional advice etc.... Started txting girl yesterday. Txt dialogue went back and fourth over the day, was up to hours between replies, from me as well, i didn't reply very quickly, to mimmick her.
Txt convo
Me: Hey its XXX
Her: hey como estas?
Her: So whats up?
Me: What are you doing?
Her: Smoking, you?
Me: So smokey, what are you doing tomorrow?
Her: nothing so far
Me: Lets go play some pool then.
Her: Where?
Me: XXXX
Me: Im down for pool tomorrow you in?



She stopped replying after "Where?" Been a full day almost and still no reply to my last message. Should i just give up on this girl? Side note, something weird probably happend to her because she made two facebook status updates talking about how sad she is during the same time i was txting her.

Don't even contact her man, let her come to you, if she does, you play the hard approach.

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