Hey guys, something I struggle a lot with is competition from other guys. I've lost a few girls to other guys, and I think it's because I don't know how to handle the competition.

There's a girl I'm really liking right now, and she says she really likes me. Then I notice on facebook she's been talking to this guy a lot. I don't say anything about it, try not to let it bother me. Then she starts chatting to me on msn, telling me that it's her ex boyfriend, that they broke up 3 weeks ago, that they were together for 14 months, that he met up with another girl and tried to finger her, and that it bothered her. Straight away I just said "do you still want him? I'd rather not waste my time with you if you're planning to go back to him, we can just be friends or whatever". She said no I'm not wasting my time with her, but she's bound to say that right? Then she said she wanted my advice, but she won't tell me now what she wanted my advice for. I think she wanted me to tell her what to do with her ex.

What should I do next time I'md in a situation like this? What do you guys do about competition from other guys?

Hmmmmm.

Ok, so you were straightforward. That's about an "intermediate" on a good response scale. It's better than a lot of responses, but it resolves tension too easily. Girls love tension. It's what makes a man sexy.

If you get rid of all the tension you create, she gets bored and there's no attraction.

As for competing with other guys. Don't worry about it. If you're the higher value, she'll go for you. If you want to use a sort of crutch in this situation, you could use a disqualifier, but you don't need to.

If you lose girls to other guys, you just need to improve. You may not spark enough attraction, which could be a result of what I was talking about earlier.

Just keep working on your whole game. Inner game seems okay at the moment, or at least, in this situation.

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Act like your fun, DHV yourself, be busy, and don't care what she thinks or what she does, that way she automatically starts wondering why your not caring. (even if she don't show it)

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Chelios nailed it.
In fact one up it and start talking to other girls and make it so she can see it.
Honestly I dont think this was a good response. It sounds like she's holding you on to see what happens with him so if it doesnt with him, ur second choice pretty much. its ur call

Thanks guys

AFC Royal - that's the thing, we've had some pretty deep conversations, she's told me things she says she never tells anybody, she's told me how much she wants to be with me, texts me everyday, sends dirty pictures and texts etc. and then this happens. I don't know how I can spark any more attraction than that. That's why I'm a little bit confused.

Chelios - Thanks mate, I'll try and be too busy for her, make her work a little more and realise she can lose me if she doesn't treat me with respect.

Jelly - Yeah man thats exactly what I'm trying to avoid, and thats exactly why I said that to her. I just wanted her to know that I won't let her get away with treating me as second best to her ex, and that I was willing to leave. Could you suggest a better response? Also I always make sure I'm talking to girls. She knows I am.

Anyway guys, I managed to recover this time, maybe not the best responses here but I texted her and told her to delete my number, and when she asked why I told her that I wasn't gonna be second best to her, that I didn't want to waste my time on her and that if she didn't tell me what she wanted the advice for I couldn't trust her. She said I should trust her, she told me the advice she wanted was whether to tell this new girl about her ex, because he told her he loved her. She felt sorry for the girl. I just said ok, and we set a date this Friday. I don't know if this was a good idea or not, but it worked, and I actually didn't give a fuck if she did delete my number, then I wouldn't have to waste my time on her.

Yeah, inner game sounds good.

Anyway, if you have such ridiculous attraction, then you should be able to close no problem. I don't think the whole "delete my number" thing was necessary, and may even indicate some kinda weird inner game problem, but ignore it for now.

Just go for a close on friday. That shouldn't really be a problem.

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Next time that comes up just ignore the guy, dont ask if ur wasting time.
Sounds like it worked out tho.
as AFC royal said that whole number thing was not needed, to be honest over the top and I almost want to say you have some inner game problem bc of that. Ultimatums like that are not things u shood be doing, but it worked and it seems u have tooken the power in this relationship.
AFC also is right this shouldnt be a problem u are the one in control now

Be confident, funny and everything we have all said, and you'll be fine.

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there's no competition here and it's not part of the pua's game, jealousy- get rid of it. you are being melodramatic here, your emotion dictates your action. you missed the opportunity and what she wants to convey ''F close'', i'm sure you know how to do this without getting too excited. Goodluck to your game

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Thanks guys, yeah it must be just all in my head. I guess I do get jealous pretty easily when I see other guys after the same girl as me, and I need to stop letting it bother me. At least I know now that this is the thing I need to sort out