If I ask a girl if she wants to go on trip with me to my hometown. What are some reasons she may say she does not want to?

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1) Because your an asshole/douchebag
2) Because she is busy
3) Because she doesn't know you
4) Because her BF/parents won't let her
5) Because she is sick


Note: if it is the same girl where you are talking about as all the other posts, then probably because you weirded her out and you are desperate.
So she will think you expect things to happen on that trip.

wow there are 1000001 things that could go wrong here.

- how does she know you? if you walk up to a random stranger and the first thing you ask them is 'do you want to come for a trip to my home town?' thats just weird
- are you just friends?
- do you have any attraction?
- what have your past interactions been?
- what is the subtext of what you are asking her?
- what is the pre-text? ie what have you two done in the past that would make you think she wants to come with you?
- were you creepy when you asked?
- does she have a boyfriend?
- do you smell?

dude.... gotta be more specific than that.

But my number one guess is: 'shes just not that into you...' go do some approaches, and invite another girl

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LOL yeh or that

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

Well, the reason I am asking her is because of these 3 top reasons:
1)recall that in one of my other posts, I mention that she feels like I am not committed and got pissed at me. I am hoping to show that I am committed by doing this(by bringing her to my hometown means seeing my family, and my culture.)
2) chance to foster a relationship that will be memorable. (having fun on the trip)
3) prospect. (to give her an idea where our relationship could head)

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

I am thinking that when you ask a girl if they "want to travel with you", it makes them consider about a lot of things due to the fact that it is a serious request.

Things she may consider:

1)This means living together. hmmm
2)Will he be able to take care of me? (i'm 20)
3)parent allowing her.
4) that i am desperate and might be expecting something uncomfortable. (that i have bad intention)

I don't know what else, that's why i am asking . I'm still thinking about the problems I have to consider before asking a girl such question, and making such I know how to deal with each one.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

If you want her to accept travelling with you, you must have already conveyed a few things.

You must have conveyed that you are fun.
That she is safe with you.


I would realy like to request you Minded, to make a new thread. To tell everything about this girl. To tell exactly what situation your in. Tell us everything, only then we can give you quality advice.

You are leaving too much factors open, there can be soo much things involved, that we dont know about. So take the effort to write a good long post, telling us your whole situation, things that bother you, and mistakes you know you have made.

Then we will give you some good advice.

Unless of course you don't want to share it.

much love,
zendelo

HI Zendelo,

my-situation-and-my-request-the-full-story-vt69041.html

Took me days to write this.

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"